Short story: Sometimes helping, or trying to help, someone, more hinders them, than helps them
By emptychair
@innertalks (23740)
Australia
August 13, 2022 8:04pm CST
Fred Freestone spent most of his life on the streets.
A lady social worker tried to help him to change his ways, to study something, and to make something of his life.
Fred had a gift though, which she knew nothing about.
Love lives in all people, providing each person with their own unique special way to love.
Fred's special way to love was to talk to someone with great understanding, connection, and living love.
All felt this as a tugging in their hearts.
Fred helped others, and did not need to be helped himself.
He was at home on the streets, and he was doing his best work possible, from there.
Someone once said that,
"one of the best ways to help yourself is to help others,"
but that help must not hinder them, just for the sake of us getting these false cudos from our helping them.
Some people are already helping themselves in the best of ways for themselves, and we should not interfere in these cases.
Discernment is always needed before we jump in and try to change what sometimes does not need to be changed.
Photo Credit: The photo used in this article was sourced from the free media site, pixabay.com
Fred loved his life, and who, if anyone, can tell him that he does not?
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4 responses
@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
14 Aug 22
Yes, in some ways, we should all do that, as nobody could ever be happy, living someone else's idea for their life.
@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
14 Aug 22
Yes, I would agree with that.
And, if we try to help others, and harm them by our so doing, we should not do that either.
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
14 Aug 22
@innertalks True. We should do no harm.
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@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
14 Aug 22
Yes, I wrote this story to make a point, and yes, generally we should help others when and where we can, but we should try to help others in their way, not in our own idea of what we think that their way should be.
We should not help the little old lady to cross over the busy road to the other side, when she was really waiting on that side, not to cross over, but for a bus to come along, and to pick her up, and this scenario, is another example, of ascertaining the best way to help first, before just jumping in, and just helping.
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@Shiva49 (28380)
• Singapore
14 Aug 22
This happens at times.
We jump to conclusions and prejudge others with our point of view. Then try to help them but it becomes an invasion of their privacy and an interference.
It takes all types to make a world. Each has their own comfort zone.
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@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
14 Aug 22
This type of thing can happen with green nosers too. They try to lick the boots of people to look good in their eyes, and in other 's eyes around them too.
This is happening right now, in the Politics, and other arenas here now too with our Aboriginal people.
They have gone into overkill with the recognitionary/reconciliatory remarks towards them.
At every sports meet, or Political meeting, even in Churches. They make a comment.
"We recognise the Wanjuraatnudgi people, who were the first owners of this land here in this region."
The Aboriginal elders have come out and said that this overplaying of this recognition/powdered acknowledgement actually hurts reconciliation, making a joke of it, and not respecting this recognition, which should only be made in real events, not manufactured events like that, which they labelled as tokenism.
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@Shiva49 (28380)
• Singapore
15 Aug 22
@innertalks Overkill tends to be insincere, condescending, towards the aggrieved.
Affirmative actions but fine-tuned to the needs of the situation could alleviate the injustice of earlier times.
However, we need to move on.
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@innertalks (23740)
• Australia
15 Aug 22
@Shiva49 Yes, we do need to move on sometimes, but not by brushing the hard stuff under the carpet, either.
Things do need to be addressed, but in the right way.
Some statues, of former Political figures who abused Aboriginals, way back then, are being pulled down and destroyed here now too.
I do not agree with a tooth for a tooth mentality, and destruction never really works, like destroying a hoon's car for hooning in it, which they do here now too.
No wonder vandalism is rife here, when it is being condoned like this here now too.
