I confess I really miss this

@Fleura (28661)
United Kingdom
March 20, 2023 6:27am CST
My partner always drank (alcohol) more than I did, probably about three times as much, something that I did wonder if I should be concerned about. But then overnight he just decided to stop. It started as one of those month-long challenges, but then he just kept it up and that was about five years ago now. He says he doesn’t miss it at all, and is just as happy with a cup of tea or a mug of cocoa. But I confess I miss it. I’m certainly not any kind of addict but there are times when I would like to sit down with a cold beer or a glass of wine at the end of a busy day and I just feel like I can’t. It doesn’t help that I can’t stand tea either! But the other thing I really miss is going to a nice pub, maybe at the end of a country walk on a summer’s day, or to sit by a cosy fire on a winter’s evening, and enjoying a glass or two of beer. Yes we could still go to the pub, but my partner simply would never even contemplate going to a nice country pub and sitting there with a pint of lemonade, he just doesn’t see the point and would rather have a cup of tea at home. This was brought home to me last week when we as a family were involved in a group activity on a snowy day and at the end of the day we all went to a pub to get some food – and there was the once-familiar scene of a dimly-lit bar in a lovely old historic building with the fire burning, the polished wooden bar, the gleaming brass rails, polished glasses twinkling in the lights, a blackboard with today’s menu, and a long row of traditional hand pumps with different beers from around the country. I miss the whole atmosphere, the experience, the feeling that people have been gathering in these places for generation after generation. It’s part of history – sadly now disappearing as more and more pubs are closing! Also I miss sitting across the table from my partner chatting about things, because we don’t do that at home either. He takes his cup of tea and sits in the lounge with a book or watches something on his ‘phone, and I go to my lap-top. Even if we both sit in the same room it isn’t the same. Anyone else like going to the pub? Or maybe you don't have anything similar where you live? All rights reserved. © Text and image copyright Fleur 2023.
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@JudyEv (321927)
• Rockingham, Australia
20 Mar
Our bars aren't quite like yours either but I envy you that experience. A guy we bought a house from so missed his little pub that he built one into the corner of his huge lounge. I thought it was magic although there wasn't room to sit IN it but it was still nice. The walls were mirrored with a padded rail at the front.
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
20 Mar
Wow, that's dedicated! It might come to that if all the old pubs keep closing.
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
22 Mar
@JudyEv It's different in Ireland, I would never drink stout at home.
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@JudyEv (321927)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Mar
@Fleura I'm hoping we'll get to a few in Ireland.
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@allknowing (130109)
• India
21 Mar
It is usually the man who would want it but here it is the other way around Those who give up will never touch it and I know this from seeing my brother and a few others who gave up drinking You will have to live with it or do it alone
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@allknowing (130109)
• India
21 Mar
@Fleura But it is not the same as having some loved one for company
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar
@allknowing No it isn't. I could make do with a couple of friends though perhaps.
@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar
So it seems
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@BarBaraPrz (45030)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 Mar
Your hubby needs a technical adjustment upside the head and be told that he's denying you one of life's pleasures by being a self-absorbed stick in the mud.
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
20 Mar
that seems a bit harsh!
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@BarBaraPrz (45030)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
20 Mar
@Fleura But you're worth it!
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@Plethos (13618)
• United States
21 Mar
i like to hang for a while at the local bar or cantina. I pretty much mind my own business unless i with friends. actually a friend has already asked about going to one maybe friday. if i go, maybe we'll get lucky and see a fight break out. starbux or local coffe shops are also places i like to chill at.
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar
I could do without the fights
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@Ronrybs (17687)
• London, England
20 Mar
I sort of drifted into it. I used to drink quite regularly in my younger days, but now, while I do still drink, it is not too often. The last time was in September... ish. I still like to pop into pubs, mostly for the atmosphere
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
20 Mar
Yes it's the atmosphere I miss most. Let me know if you come up this way and we can find a nice pub to cycle to together
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@Ronrybs (17687)
• London, England
20 Mar
@Fleura That is one of the joys of cycling! That and having a slice of cake mid-ride
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@Adie04 (17364)
21 Mar
I still remember one of my friends got drunk one night and return to the student dorm drunk as well, didn't recognise us
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar
Oh dear, I didn't plan to do that!
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@Adie04 (17364)
22 Mar
@Fleura Oh, please don't. It would be awkward and funny at the same time too
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• China
20 Mar
Your partner has strong wills ! He,once a deep drinker,now is a person that never touches the stuff.You seem to more like drinking in the atmosphere of the said bar than drink.
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@wolfgirl569 (91926)
• Marion, Ohio
20 Mar
Your pubs sound nicer than what we have here. But I do sometimes enjoy going just for the company
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@Fleura (28661)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar
I guess the 'British pub' does seem to be a bit different to bars in other places.
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