Did not get invited to birthday dinner initially
By Lena Kovadlo
@lovebuglena (52146)
Staten Island, New York
April 29, 2023 12:01pm CST
My uncle turned 60 on April 11. I texted his wife a few days ago asking if they’re doing anything for his birthday. She told me they’re having a small dinner this Sunday and asked if I want to join. I said of course I do. I want to celebrate my uncle’s birthday.
But I wonder this. Why was I not invited in the first place? And I wonder why my mom did not tell me about it either and asked if I want to go.
If my uncle’s wife had not asked me if I want to join I would not have invited myself. Would you?
Were you ever invited somewhere only after you asked about it? Or about them doing anything?
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@TheHorse (238306)
• Walnut Creek, California
29 Apr 23
I used to be invited to my Cousin's Easter dinner here in the Bay Area. I was for about two years after my Uncle passed away. I realize that family politics sometimes trump (no insult intended--it's a Bridge term) personal relationships. I don't care that much.
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@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Apr 23
Politics should be avoided at family gatherings. Always gets very loud and ugly.
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@TheHorse (238306)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Apr 23
@lovebuglena Unless we can all laugh about it. As you know, I like to bait extremists on both sides.
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@TheHorse (238306)
• Walnut Creek, California
30 Apr 23
@lovebuglena I did not mean politics as in Lefties v. Righties. I meant FAMILY politics.
@AmbiePam (120752)
• United States
30 Apr 23
Could they have been so preoccupied they possibly thought they already asked you, and realized they hadn’t when you asked about it? I mean I’d have the same questions you’re having. I also have the tendency to try to think of reasons why it might have happened that way to keep myself from getting somewhat offended. Because like you, I would never have invited myself either had they not ended up asking after all.
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@AmbiePam (120752)
• United States
30 Apr 23
@lovebuglena It would be so much easier (and scarier) if we could read minds.
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@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Apr 23
I have no idea. I hope my uncle’s wife told him hubby and I are coming.
@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Apr 23
Hubby told me yesterday that we should’ve gone to his friend’s house yesterday instead going out to eat. He said it was his wife’s birthday. We weren’t invited though. But hubby said we should’ve invited ourselves, that people will invite you if it’s an outing at a restaurant and not to the house. I disagree with that.
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@popciclecold (40214)
• United States
29 Apr 23
No, I would not have invited myself. But asked I would go.
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@kaylachan (84784)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Apr 23
Only all the time. I wasn't exactly popular growing up.
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@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Apr 23
I wasn’t popular either. Never had many friends.
@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
1 May 23
I've never had that happen to me. I'm glad you were finally invited.
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@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
1 May 23
I was glad that we went. It was a nice time and the food was really good.
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@LindaOHio (222417)
• United States
1 May 23
@lovebuglena I'm glad you went too.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
29 Apr 23
Hmm, is this the first time you had not been invited?
I wonder if they just forgot?
No I would not have invited myself, even for family.
@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
29 Apr 23
Well, as far as I know my uncle did not even want to do anything. They’re only doing something because my other uncle wanted to celebrate. And my uncle’s wife is the one that reserved a restaurant. Maybe she did not think I would enjoy myself because the only people there will be her and my uncle, my mom, and my other uncle and his wife.
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@RebeccasFarm (91297)
• United States
29 Apr 23
@lovebuglena Yes that may have been it Lena...maybe she thought that..makes sense. Well, you are going are you and your husband no?
@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
29 Apr 23
@RebeccasFarm Yes both of us are going.
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@Laurakemunto (13787)
• Kenya
29 Apr 23
As for me I wouldn't go either since in the first place I wasn't told and I had to find out myself that how I operate to avoid friction with anybody
@lovebuglena (52146)
• Staten Island, New York
30 Apr 23
If I didn’t want to celebrate his birthday I wouldn’t have even asked about it.
