couples argument

Do you stick your nose into a couple's argument?

@Jenaisle (16543)

Philippines

May 6, 2023 11:42am CST

Are you supposed to stick your nose when your adult son and DIL are in an argument? Do you have a right to impose what you want, or could you decide for them? I know it's a "no" for me. But what about you guys? What do you think?

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@akalinus (44332)

• United States

6 May 23

I live with my son and his fiancee. When they get into an argument, I go into my room and shut the door. I do not want to interfere in their private business. It is hard not to take a side but I don't want to make things worse

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

6 May 23

That's what I usually do too.

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@allknowing (154166)

• India

7 May 23

I would never. Anyway I have never witnessed one

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

That's wise. I hope you would never witness one.

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@psanasangma (7914)

• India

7 May 23

I rather not

because I don't know who is telling the truth

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Good thinking. You could also stay out of trouble.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (66549)

• Centralia, Washington

7 May 23

They are adults now, not children. Stay out of it.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

@sallypup Your comment is credible because you speak from experience. As people say, "experience is the best teacher." Thank you.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

You're so straightforward, Lenore. Okay, if you say so.

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Lenore Plassman

@sallypup (66549)

• Centralia, Washington

7 May 23

@Jenaisle I've had at least one time when things would have gone better if others had kept their nose out of our business.

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@LindaOHio (204952)

• United States

7 May 23

No! No one likes it when the MIL sticks her nose into an argument. Go somewhere else when they are arguing. Enjoy your Sunday.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

What a great advice. I would have gone somewhere else if it wasn't late night.

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@Rashnag (30597)

• Surat, India

7 May 23

I feel one shouldn't get involved in any couples relationship because at the end they patch things with each other and may get our relation spoiled with them

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Yes, that's true. The intervention may even be a catalyst for further misunderstanding.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

8 May 23

@Rashnag I agree.

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@Rashnag (30597)

• Surat, India

8 May 23

@Jenaisle True indeed. People in a relationship always patch up things and we don't get to spoil relation with them

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@AmbiePam (105335)

• United States

6 May 23

No way! Unless someone is getting abusive, and there is NO ONE in my family who has ever been an abusive person, I am not getting in the middle of an argument. That is a recipe for disaster.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

You hit the nail on the head. It's good that no one is abusive in your family. In mine either.

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@shaggin (74346)

• United States

6 May 23

It really depends. If either one is being irrational or cruel I don’t think it could hurt to point it out.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

6 May 23

I agree. I can see your point.

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@snowy22315 (198165)

• United States

6 May 23

This is something I feel I would stay clear of.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Indeed, I'm glad everyone thinks so.

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@crossbones27 (51493)

• Mojave, California

7 May 23

I would wait and then if I see something I do not like I be like nope, thats not happening.

I get in trouble all the time intervene why did you not intervene? So I just use my own logic now and they can deal with it if they do not like it.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

That's a good enough idea. You do it from case to case.

@RebeccasFarm (90736)

• Arvada, Colorado

6 May 23

Never, but if he hits her, you better believe I will stick my nose in.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

6 May 23

Right, physical violence should not be tolerated.

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@jstory07 (146287)

• Roseburg, Oregon

7 May 23

I tell my adult children to leave me out of any arguments that they have and they never involve me.

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Right, that's the way to go. Only the couple knows what's truly going on, so no one should intervene except in extreme cases.

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@wolfgirl569 (124368)

• Marion, Ohio

7 May 23

I might ask them to save it for later if it was somewhere public. But that would be it. I would just try to go away if I could

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Yeah, I wanted to go out, but it was night time.

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@Tracey98 (176)

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6 May 23

If its a heated argument and probably likely to end in a fight i would interfere but if its just a normal matured argument i will leave them to sort their issue out

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@Jenaisle (16543)

• Philippines

7 May 23

Yes, that's a rational argument, and it makes a lot of sense.