Does It Make You Mad To See Your Sons And Daughters Happily Married?
By Babes Says
@BabeSays (8576)
Mauritius
May 16, 2023 1:44pm CST
I know this question sounds weird but I can't stop wondering if there are other parents out there who aren't happy to see their sons and daughters being happily married.
I've witnessed many occasions where the son takes their wife out the mother-in-law gets mad. On the other hand, when the husband brings something for his wife the mother gets mad.
Life is simple, I have no idea why they have to complicate things. Aren't they supposed to be happy that their son and daughter are living happily?
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@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
17 May
Yes indeed. I think they do good. My friend was right living in join family sucks. As a daughter-in-law, You have to do all chores and take care of everyone, and in the end, no one appreciates you.
Now they know my importance after my husband and I moved out.
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@psanasangma (5884)
• India
17 May
I don't know much about this issues though I often heard from others because I come from the matrilineal society, where a boy comes and stay with his wife after marriage. If she has another sisters or not meant for inheritence the couple move out to their new house which is either given by wife's family or purchase by themselves.
Again I also often heard from married people/ wife's or husband's side having problem when they give so much attention to their own side 
espesially in their early married life. Later after having childrens both somehow seems okay because both sides also give attention to their children 
espesially in their early married life. Later after having childrens both somehow seems okay because both sides also give attention to their children 1 person likes this
@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
31 May
Most parents are always happy which is natural. But here it's a different story.
@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
16 May
I'm a parent but my kids are far from old enough to be married (12, 10, and 8 just be clear.) Seeing your kids do anything can also be heartbreaking. It's the basic need of knowing they no longer need you, no longer depended on you. Where yes something as being happy isn't that simple since happiness is an emotion. We don't control our emotions rather we learn what they mean and interrupt them as they happen.
So where yes, a parent should be happy for their child being married and happy that they are happy it could be any reason why they are not. It could be they had their own failed marriage, it can be because they are no longer needed like they use to be, it can be they don't like that person's personality, they could honestly see what their child doesn't see a bad person in their sheep clothing. You have to remember what looks like a happy marriage from the outside doesn't mean it is on the inside.
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@ShyBear88 (59282)
• Sterling, Virginia
17 May
@BabeSays Your job as a parent isn't to please your child nor your child to please you. You cannot help how another person treats another person. Family dynamics is tricky it's not cut and dry like solving a math problem. Emotions and personalities play a role.
I have grandparents-in-law that don't like only because I'm half Hispanic. I suck at cleaning, and they are racist more so now with their age. All the more reason I do not interact with them unless I have to. Only do so because I have children. Also, they live like 9 plus houses away so that helps as well. Those are things our of my control. I can't change how they see me I don't even try. It's there problem not mine. They do like to put my husband between it.
@BabeSays (8576)
• Mauritius
17 May
I do understand that but when you are trying hard to please them in all ways and yet they mistreat you, it's heartbreaking. I had my own sister-in-law telling me that her mother will never be good to me. She asked me to stop dreaming or hoping things will change. She was right.
@JimBo452020 (42629)
• United Kingdom
16 May
I think there may be some substance to what you say.
Sometimes parents do not think their child's spouse is good enough for them.
And this takes time to resolve.
And sometimes doesn't resolve and instead festers away for decades.
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@snowy22315 (169940)
• United States
16 May
We should always be happy when our children are happy, but if they ignore other family members it is not good.
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