Fear of living alone
By Aparna Sen
@Dreamerby (10111)
Calcutta, India
July 23, 2023 1:25pm CST
I think it is the fear of living alone that makes romantic relationships a thing. We get besotted at some point of time for different reasons. Some look for a friend-a partner in crime. Some look for a secret diary person with whom you can share everything, who won't judge you for who you are. Some look for financial stability. Some are just physically attracted to the other person. But all of these reasons culminate in one idea- the strong denial towards living alone. But in the midst of a relationship, people forget why they wanted to be in a relationship in the first place.
For me, being in a relationship means you have to share every tiny detail about your life with your partner. But I guess it's not everyone's cup of tea. Sometimes I feel like living alone is the best decision. But again I am afraid to live alone. I need a partner for life who can be trusted infinitely-who will walk the path of life together with me- who will grow old with me and still have the same love for me. Sometimes I feel like I am asking for too much!
Mysterious thing love is!
Why did you get into a relationship? What do you think is the reason behind humans seeking a romantic relationship?
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@RubyHawk (99367)
• Atlanta, Georgia
24 Jul 23
@Dreamerby You never know a person until you live with them.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
26 Jul 23
@RubyHawk Yes that's true. But even after living with them, you realize they are not gonna change. That's a possibility too.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Yes the need of a special person in life who understands you and loves you the way you are is indeed what builds relationships! But sometimes, the special person might not love you as much as you do and might not include you as much as you want to be included
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@writerjo (2540)
• India
4 Sep 23
It is very hard to live alone in younger aged & older aged people
But I think middle aged people can live alone darely
In younger age many physical desires disturbs
In older age no such feelings arises mostly, but expect one partner to share & care one another
It's all depends on the atmosphere of anyone.
Human life is the bunch of miracles & mysteries
Have a Great Day
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@writerjo (2540)
• India
5 Sep 23
@Dreamerby yes that's what I said.
Thank you very much Aparna 
Hope you are doing well
Hope you are doing well1 person likes this
@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
5 Sep 23
But during old age you need a companion. to be cared and to care for.
Have a nice day you too!
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
5 Sep 23
@writerjo The weather is pretty gloomy. Raining most of the days. I see you live in India. In which state? Is it raining there too?
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@AmbiePam (120792)
• United States
23 Jul 23
I’m not in a relationship right now, and I live alone. I’m quite happy with that, although some day I do hope to share my life with someone. My reasons would be just to have someone compliment my life, but not complete it. I would like to have someone to share life’s up and downs with, but right now I don’t feel like I’m being deprived of anything. I think it helps that I’m not afraid to be alone.
It seems as though we were created to need other people, and that includes a romantic partner. I had a wonderful example of a happy, healthy example of a partnership from seeing my parents. When my mother passed away, my dad did eventually remarry. They say the happier you were in a marriage, the more likely you’ll marry again. Perhaps life is just a more enjoyable ride when you’ve got someone on the rollercoaster with you.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Yes to share your joys and sorrows 
and go through everything together!
and go through everything together!2 people like this
@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
At times, the partner might not love you as much as you do and might not include you as much as you want to be included. So it's always a risky business.
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@AmbiePam (120792)
• United States
24 Jul 23
@Dreamerby And that can be very rewarding.
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@snowy22315 (208952)
• United States
23 Jul 23
It's comforting to have a partner in life, but I am OK being alone for now. I do not want it to be a permanent state of being though.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Ohh. Yes alone and lonely are 2 different things. Alone is when you it doesn't upset you and lonely is when it upsets you.
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@JudyEv (382104)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 Jul 23
Some are never able to find their soulmate but better to be alone than to live with the wrong person. Some fall in love without even particularly wanting to but others can search for years and not find the right person. It's a huge gamble in a way.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
30 Jul 23
Yes it's a huge gamble. And most people don't realize this but finding the right partner or deciding to live alone is a huge step in life just like preference of college!
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Yes Humans are sociable beings and having that special someone in life feels important. But that special person might not reciprocate the same way. Then that's going to be a heartbreak all over again.
Humans are sociable beings and having that special someone in life feels important. But that special person might not reciprocate the same way. Then that's going to be a heartbreak all over again.1 person likes this
@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Yes you are correct. The special person might not reciprocate the same way. Then that's going to be a heartbreak all over again.
@Starmaiden (9308)
• Canada
23 Jul 23
I am not in a relationship nor do I seek one. I have walked my entire journey alone. I am happy and at peace with that.
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@Dreamerby (10111)
• Calcutta, India
24 Jul 23
Yes it's actually good to feel that. Less emotional turmoil. But few people have mental strength of that sort.
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