Time Does Not Heal All Wounds, But It Makes For A Good Numbing Agent

@Raine38 (12257)
United States
August 26, 2023 6:04am CST
They say that time is a construct, and in the grand scheme of things we lose sight of the objectivity as we try hard to make sense of the sequence of events. If that is so, then who can really say when the timing is right for something? Others would suppose that the painful events of the past shall be remedied through the passing of time, that the scarring lessons of these incidents will still be there, but the pain is no more. I am not sure if this is something that I can subscribe to. I don’t think time is a healer. For some, it’s an enemy. For others, it’s their sanctuary. For me, time is a relief. For me, time does not heal all wounds, but it makes for a good numbing agent as it will not completely erase emotional pain or traumas, it can help reduce the intensity of those feelings over time, providing a sense of emotional distance or detachment. It’s a way of acknowledging that while the pain might not disappear entirely, the passage of time can bring a certain level of relief or coping. When I was cheated on, time helped me cope. When I was betrayed by friends, time reduced the intensity of the betrayal. When I failed after working so hard for it, time gave me reasons to detach from it and find myself again.
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@Manasha (2727)
• Pondicherry, India
26 Aug
Your reflection on time is profound and touches upon the complex nature of its role in our lives. Indeed, the concept of time can be both elusive and subjective. It's fascinating how we grapple with the idea of timing, often seeking to make sense of the sequence of events while acknowledging its subjectivity.
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@Manasha (2727)
• Pondicherry, India
28 Aug
@Raine38 your perspective on time and individual timelines is both compassionate and enlightened. Recognizing and respecting that people have different perceptions of time and unique needs for various life processes, such as grieving, demonstrates a deep understanding of the human experience.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
26 Aug
And for this reason, I do not disagree with anyone's perception of time, or how much time they need for say, grieving. We all have different timing. Also the same reason why I do not resent if some of my peers are "ahead" of me in our careers, and some are not. We all have different timelines.
@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Aug
@Manasha,very well said
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• India
26 Aug
It can never and there are things that will never get healed
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
26 Aug
I agree, some scars and pains can never be removed even with the passing of time.
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• India
26 Aug
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Aug
@Butterfingers , correct especially if being scammed by a friend or betrayed by our love
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@AmbiePam (85992)
• United States
26 Aug
It took six years to get over my mom dying, and in such a horrible way. I kept thinking, hurry up, let’s get over this, but darn it, healing doesn’t have a timetable.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
26 Aug
So sorry to hear about your mom, but you're right. We all heal at our own pace, in our own ways.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
29 Aug
I believe that time diffuses situations that makes it easy to handle challenges.
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@allknowing (130292)
• India
29 Aug
@Raine38 Sometimes with time the problem just disappears.
@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
29 Aug
It certainly does allow one to be able to accept and process the pain better after the passing of time. I also believe it helps us be stronger.
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
26 Aug
Tim is a good doctor. even if we cannot forget, after a while the pain is not so bad.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
26 Aug
I agree, a doctor and a teacher too.
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@LadyDuck (460454)
• Switzerland
26 Aug
@Raine38 Absolutely true.
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@Dena91 (15934)
• United States
26 Aug
This is a great post and I agree with you
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
28 Aug
Thank you!
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
28 Aug
Time heals a pain gradually with time. The blocks will be healed and from other circumstances, the pain will subside though not forever for as long as we live it continues to linger. It never fades but the pain is healed.
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@Raine38 (12257)
• United States
28 Aug
I think time allows us to move on and live on after the pain. But whenever a memory resurfaces, there's this bittersweet feeling that goes with it. It is no longer as painful, but there definitely is a gap that will never be replaced.
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@cacay1 (83237)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
29 Aug
@Raine38 , that is so true ,the process of healing is too long yet allows us to move on .