Stop Being a Phubber

@Shavkat (140443)
Philippines
September 28, 2023 6:34pm CST
It is a term that best describes a person who does not focus on talking with someone while being with him or her. Instead, he or she focuses more on using his or her mobile phones. If you are one of them, then you are "phubbing." Being a "phubber can destroy the relationship with people close to him or her. It can be related to being addicted to mobile games, surfing the internet, using social media, and so on. The term is a combination of "phone" and "snub." Are you a phubber? What would be your call for those people who phub?
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@DaddyEvil (147453)
• United States
29 Sep 23
I talk to people on the phone when I have to but prefer to text with them... I also use my phone to play solitaire and earn extra money that way. My phone is a tool for my use, not so people I don't really want to communicate with can reach me at their convenience. I would tell other people like me "Good job!"
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I think it is acceptable to use mobile phones when calling someone if not being with him or her physically. It is another story when bonding together at home but not focusing on talking with family members. For the reason that he or she is looking at her smartphones without looking at them.
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@DaddyEvil (147453)
• United States
29 Sep 23
@Shavkat Sometimes Pretty will text me from her bedroom... usually to ask me to come talk to her.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
@DaddyEvil I can relate to that. I sometimes send a message to my immediate family members with the certain concerns, despite living with them under the same roof.
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@allknowing (145148)
• India
29 Sep 23
It is annoying when visitors bring their phone and attend to calls that they receive.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I used to have some friends who are like this. Sometimes if they are really have this habit, I turned down their invitations to see them. I do not want to be left out in this sense.
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Always smiling
@allknowing (145148)
• India
29 Sep 23
@Shavkat Unless they are expecting some urgent call there is no need for them to keep their phone on.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
@allknowing You are right. That situation is a valid one to consider.
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Kayla Tsukino
@kaylachan (77472)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Sep 23
Yes and no. I do know how to put the phone down believe it or not. But, it's not uncommon for me to multi-task, too. I will use my phone, but I'm still engaged with conversation around me, too.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I must admit that I alway do multi-tasking especially when teaching online. It is a part of soft skill to carry out the tasks online. I am talking while typing at the same time for the students to understand certain things. Some of them have poor listening skills.
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OceanTiara
@RebeccasFarm (94538)
• Arvada, Colorado
29 Sep 23
I had never heard this term but I do not know anyone that does this.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I am glad that you have not encountered people who phub when talking with them in person. I must say that it is irritating sometimes, especially if you keep on repeating the concerns with them again and again.
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Eva James
@wolfgirl569 (115601)
• Marion, Ohio
29 Sep 23
I have seen a few. I don't have a lot to do with them
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I also do not mind if they are not close to me. Or, if they are not affecting my life. I used to deal with these people at my workplace before. That is why I prefer to work at my own pace than being with them.
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RasmaSandra
@RasmaSandra (84651)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
29 Sep 23
Nope, I have no one to talk to and no mobile phone so I am certainly not a phubber. When I do talk to someone I give them my whole undivided attention,
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
It is an ideal thing to do. At some point, I noticed this with the young ones. They even use their mobile phones while eating on the table with the rest of the family. For me, it should be stopped.
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much2say
@much2say (57522)
• Los Angeles, California
30 Sep 23
I have never heard this term before . . . but I definitely know people who are phubbers. I am definitely NOT a phubber. I am that other person who gets annoyed at phubbers. I made my kids read this .
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much2say
@much2say (57522)
• Los Angeles, California
3 Oct 23
@Shavkat Right - I have to tell the kids to stop being phubbers . I want the other person to know I am giving them my full attention . . . but I expect the same from them . . . I will get mad at phubbers .
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
5 Oct 23
@much2say I am sure they will freak out. I need to share this to my youngest brother.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
1 Oct 23
I think it is a good idea to show them. They can surely relate to this. I am not also a phlubber because I try my best to be a good listener.
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Judy Story
@jstory07 (143796)
• Roseburg, Oregon
29 Sep 23
Nothing wrong with technology and surfing the internet as long as you do not get carried away.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
I agree. Unfortunately, some people are still cannot control themselves for being a phlubber.
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Vicki, #1 Creek Girl
@1creekgirl (43479)
• United States
29 Sep 23
Idiots?
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
It could be.
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Ruby Hawk
@RubyHawk (99397)
• Atlanta, Georgia
29 Sep 23
I am not. There’s nothing worse than being with someone who is always fiddling with their phone.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
29 Sep 23
There are some instances that I encountered such people in certain facilities, like in the supermarket, shops, etc. I politely tell them to stop doing this or else, I am going to report them to their higher-ups.
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Ruby Hawk
@RubyHawk (99397)
• Atlanta, Georgia
30 Sep 23
@Shavkat It would be tempting but who are you reporting them to.
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Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
30 Sep 23
@RubyHawk To their immediate supervisors or managers.
Anindita Sengupta
@aninditasen (17032)
• Raurkela, India
29 Sep 23
No, I am not. I don't use my mobile phone when I am talking to someone.