Romance scams are a billion dollar industry now

Northampton, England
November 14, 2023 7:46am CST
I used to think only dim people were the victims of dating and romance scams. Why would a handsome man in uniform be interested in a chunky fifty something Doreen from Idaho or a beautiful Russian thirty something babe that wants to marry an old man from Doncaster that exudes a gentle whiff of urine?. But they are not stupid so much but just want to believe its real as they are lonely and ordinary. Its exciting when you think that someone younger than you likes you. The mystery partners used to be young Nigerian men pretending in their bedrooms tapping away on their Nokia's or Indians in sweaty back street offices in Mumbai somewhere. But things have changed with the rise of social media. There are so many lonely gullible women and men out there that its big money to be made and now there are vast compounds in Dubai and places like Myanmar that are dedicated to fleecing lonely and often vulnerable westerners,.not only romance scams but all sorts of bank fraud and Identity theft. I watched a documentary about it on the BBC and astounded by this new industry, third world countries governments turning a blind eye to it as it brings in big money to those poor countries. These compounds are staffed with young Asian people often tricked into employment there and not allowed to leave the compounds in some cases. With A.I and other software the good looking people in the pictures are more real than ever as the girl in the picture is often a model that works in the compound and talks to the targets and so seems to authenticate the relationship more. Never being able to see the person on webcam or meet up with them is being bypassed and reduces suspicions of the gullible. Women are more gullible to all sorts of scams as more trusting I guess. Men are more cynical and see scams a mile off, perhaps why its men mostly doing the scams. But this is not far off modern slavery and in some cases these people are trapped in these compounds with no help available to get them out. Chinese Mafia types run them and the rewards are huge for them. Beware.
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• Georgia
14 Nov 23
Beware indeed! I know two people who were victims of this type of scam, one male and one female. Both somehow got onto some or other dating site and both got relieved of oodles of cash in short order. I've found that the truly scary part when you try to help the victims, they often refuse to believe that it is a scam and in fact blame you for destroying their happiness. The scammers know exactly which buttons to press and how to wriggle themselves into the psyche of their victims. It is a really ugly "industry" full of predators. On the other hand, I've met two males who are in wonderfully successful relationships and who both met their partners on sites I would have personally flagged as scammer heavens. I think the golden rule in any online transaction or meeting should always be to keep control of your money as long as you can. PayPal has stopped that friends and family thing of theirs for some locations, which is very good news indeed.
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@KarenAnne (257)
• United Kingdom
14 Nov 23
Those men in uniform all seem to be Generals too! Oh, and studied at Oxford. I like to mess with the telephone ones who call saying they are from Microsoft or "your internet provider". Sadly I've known a couple of people who fell for real-life romance scammers from poor countries. One made a massive parade of herself (in newspapers) saying all her former friends were bigots and totally wrong about her new husband. Fast forward and she's divorced, he's a scammer, liar, bigamist and a few words Mylot won't like me using. I don't know if she ever apologised to her friends who saw all the red flags that she didn't.