Never Depend on Others
By Shavkat
@Shavkat (140443)
Philippines
December 25, 2023 7:24pm CST
There are so many wisdoms that my biological parents bestowed upon us. One of them is to never depend on others. If you can do it, then do it without any hesitation. Before the pandemic, cutting the tie with all our relatives was deliberately carried out because of their evil deeds toward us. The implication is heavier on my father's side. Even as a kid, I had seen how badly they treated us.
Since my siblings and I are orphaned for not having our biological parents, we have managed to stay together and help each other. We do not rely anymore on our supposed second parents as our relatives.
Any wisdom of thoughts in mind?
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@arunima25 (90129)
• Bangalore, India
26 Dec 23
That's a precious advice that your biological parents have given you. I got the same from my mother and I keep telling my daughters the same. We have to be self reliant and independent as much as possible.
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@arunima25 (90129)
• Bangalore, India
26 Dec 23
@Shavkat My mom was a single parent as dad passed away very young. She stayed strong and independent throughout her life and she still is. That's how we got it from her. She would often say that to us.
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@arunima25 (90129)
• Bangalore, India
27 Dec 23
@Shavkat Hmm.. Life is the greatest teacher. Isn't it? You might get knowledge from books and formal education. But then experiences in the life gives you the really wisdom. Our circumstances make us.
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@just4him (318816)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
26 Dec 23
I understand what you are saying. However, there are trustworthy people in the world. You said you help your siblings. So, you can depend on them. It's only untrustworthy people, as your relatives have shown themselves to be, that are undependable. Know who you can depend on and who you can't. Don't give a blanket thought about not depending on anyone. It would make you a very lonely person. We all need people in our lives. When you know who you can trust, you know who you can depend on.
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@Shavkat (140443)
• Philippines
26 Dec 23
My parents used to say this to us religiously. Now, I always think of possible solutions or resolutions without asking for help from others. I am also preventing myself from owing favors from others. There are some people who will keep on talking about it to others, which I hate the most. It was like the favor was forever.
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@RebeccasFarm (94526)
• Arvada, Colorado
26 Dec 23
This is what my parents taught me. But through out life, sometimes I had to trust a person.
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@Beestring (15335)
• Hong Kong
26 Dec 23
Yes, being independent means freedom. That said, we do need help from others in some circumstances.
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