What type of first date do you suggest?
@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
Israel
May 29, 2024 11:11am CST
I went on a first date with a man last night, we went to an open stand, and he bought me a felafal. It was put in a bag, and we went back to his car and I ate in his car.
This doesn't bode well for other any other dates. . . I had wanted to go to a nice cafe, sit and even drink a coffee, or tea, but to eat in the car?
What do you think? Should I go out again with him?
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@JudyEv (356615)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 24
Give him a miss I think. It's really 'no way to treat a lady' as the saying goes. And if that a first date, I wonder what the next one would involve.
@JudyEv (356615)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Sitting in a car is a bit off. At least drive to a park or the beach or something.
@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
• Israel
30 May 24
@JudyEv I am inclined not to go out with him again as well. He also put up on the website a nickname, and it wasn't until after an hour and a half, that he told me his real name. So, the little deceptions started, and I don't want to think about what else is secret. . .
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@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
• Israel
30 May 24
In Israel dates are very modest, people don't want to spend a lot of money on them. I was expecting at least to sit in a restaurant and have a coffee.
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@grenery8 (17934)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
31 May 24
car is okay only if it rained or something. maybe give him another chance or you suggest first next timet? it is important how you felt about him and the situation
but, yes, in this age, men really don't make a lot of effort but expect so much in return.
but, yes, in this age, men really don't make a lot of effort but expect so much in return.@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
• Israel
2 Jun 24
I am inclined to pass this one by. I am getting a bit bored of the dates right now. It is the end of the school year and I have lots of things to do, write report cards, is one big job that I have to do now.
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@grenery8 (17934)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
3 Jun 24
@lifecoachjerusalem i support that. good luck with all your responsibilities
@much2say (57647)
• Los Angeles, California
30 May 24
That first date sure wasn't impressive. I can understand that it didn't have to be an expensive outing, but it could have been nicer than that. Like you mentioned, a coffee date at a cafe would have been just fine, but sitting in a car to eat wouldn't cut it as a first date (unless he was really, really fantastic as a person).@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
• Israel
30 May 24
I was thinking about that too. If this relationship would progress to a marriage, then I think I would expect the same type of going out. I understand if people don't have that much money nowadays, but this is a bit skimpy to see myself in the long run.
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@much2say (57647)
• Los Angeles, California
31 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Right. It's one thing if he was trying to show how "frugal" he can be 
- but come on, first date, that was not the time nor place to do that. And yah, this lack of thoughtfulness could foreshadow what is to come in the future.
- but come on, first date, that was not the time nor place to do that. And yah, this lack of thoughtfulness could foreshadow what is to come in the future.
@Hildasalom (953)
• Nairobi, Kenya
29 May 24
I also would not enjoy a date in a car, especially if it was the first time meeting up. I really think there are restaurants he could afford if money was the problem or maybe go somewhere else to hangout like a picnic, or a walk I don't know. That's just my opinion, what was his reason for doing that?
@lifecoachjerusalem (1368)
• Israel
29 May 24
He didn't want to go to a restaurant where we would have had to wait to get seated. It was in a park, and I thought it would be nice. Maybe a bit expensive, but for a first date, the man should be prepared to spend more than $7 for the food and no drink, if he wants a second date. I wasn't expecting a movie because or anything, as I am a teacher I have to be at school very early in the morning.
@Hildasalom (953)
• Nairobi, Kenya
29 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Apart from the going on a date in the car, did the date go well? The things you were talking and all, did you feel like you both vibe? I think at the end of it all you are the once making this choices so you should think about another things and if that's what you want.
