What type of first date do you suggest?
@lifecoachjerusalem (1375)
Israel
May 29, 2024 11:11am CST
I went on a first date with a man last night, we went to an open stand, and he bought me a felafal. It was put in a bag, and we went back to his car and I ate in his car.
This doesn't bode well for other any other dates. . . I had wanted to go to a nice cafe, sit and even drink a coffee, or tea, but to eat in the car?
What do you think? Should I go out again with him?
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@JudyEv (361858)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 24
Give him a miss I think. It's really 'no way to treat a lady' as the saying goes. And if that a first date, I wonder what the next one would involve.
@JudyEv (361858)
• Rockingham, Australia
30 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Sitting in a car is a bit off. At least drive to a park or the beach or something.
@lifecoachjerusalem (1375)
• Israel
30 May 24
@JudyEv I am inclined not to go out with him again as well. He also put up on the website a nickname, and it wasn't until after an hour and a half, that he told me his real name. So, the little deceptions started, and I don't want to think about what else is secret. . .
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@lifecoachjerusalem (1375)
• Israel
30 May 24
In Israel dates are very modest, people don't want to spend a lot of money on them. I was expecting at least to sit in a restaurant and have a coffee.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
30 May 24
That first date sure wasn't impressive. I can understand that it didn't have to be an expensive outing, but it could have been nicer than that. Like you mentioned, a coffee date at a cafe would have been just fine, but sitting in a car to eat wouldn't cut it as a first date (unless he was really, really fantastic as a person).@lifecoachjerusalem (1375)
• Israel
30 May 24
I was thinking about that too. If this relationship would progress to a marriage, then I think I would expect the same type of going out. I understand if people don't have that much money nowadays, but this is a bit skimpy to see myself in the long run.
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@much2say (57790)
• Los Angeles, California
31 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Right. It's one thing if he was trying to show how "frugal" he can be 
- but come on, first date, that was not the time nor place to do that. And yah, this lack of thoughtfulness could foreshadow what is to come in the future.
- but come on, first date, that was not the time nor place to do that. And yah, this lack of thoughtfulness could foreshadow what is to come in the future.
@Hildasalom (953)
• Nairobi, Kenya
29 May 24
I also would not enjoy a date in a car, especially if it was the first time meeting up. I really think there are restaurants he could afford if money was the problem or maybe go somewhere else to hangout like a picnic, or a walk I don't know. That's just my opinion, what was his reason for doing that?
@lifecoachjerusalem (1375)
• Israel
29 May 24
He didn't want to go to a restaurant where we would have had to wait to get seated. It was in a park, and I thought it would be nice. Maybe a bit expensive, but for a first date, the man should be prepared to spend more than $7 for the food and no drink, if he wants a second date. I wasn't expecting a movie because or anything, as I am a teacher I have to be at school very early in the morning.
@Hildasalom (953)
• Nairobi, Kenya
29 May 24
@lifecoachjerusalem Apart from the going on a date in the car, did the date go well? The things you were talking and all, did you feel like you both vibe? I think at the end of it all you are the once making this choices so you should think about another things and if that's what you want.
