regret always comes later

@May2k8 (18743)

Indonesia

October 28, 2024 7:18am CST

A week has passed, my mother still remembers the suffering of her very stubborn sister, no one could persuade her to get the right treatment. Time continues to pass, since the end of April 2024 she has never been honest about the disease she is suffering from. When she could still talk she said it was just stomach upset because every time she ate she would vomit. 5 months passed and she was rushed to the hospital and the doctors had given up because no food or infusion could get into her body. Because the distance to get there is very far, we need 10 hours to get there. Unfortunately her (my aunty) condition is getting worse and unconscious, only gasping for breath. The next day we returned to Jakarta and precisely on October 21, 2024 at around 10 pm West Indonesia Time we received news that she had passed away. If we count the number of deaths, it is greater than the number of births this year.

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@snowy22315 (195112)

• United States

28 Oct

So sorry about your aunt.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

29 Oct

There are many things that cannot be told here, every family has its own problems, including here, I still have to take care of my parents who are sick and have not recovered yet. All efforts have been made but nothing has been able to really work (still rely on medicines).

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@abhi_bangal (7603)

• Ahmednagar, India

16 Jul

It's so so hurting to read that your aunty is no more. RIP! It is obvious from your description that there was a lot of suffering. And these are the hardest days of life. I am surprised to know that you take 10 hours to reach the hospital. Please don't take me wrong. But even in these advanced days where communication and transport is so easy, still you taking 10 hours is a lot of time, especially in an emergency situation. I mean, there's no hospital nearby? Lastly what you are saying means the birth rate is lower?

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@abhi_bangal (7603)

• Ahmednagar, India

18 Jul

@May2k8 So there's no hospital in the vicinity? 100 kms of traveling is a long route.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

19 Jul

@abhi_bangal There are many but there are no hospitals nearby that are empty, they are always full of sick people.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

17 Jul

My residence is in a different area, approximately 100 km away, so it takes time to reach it. Why do I say the birth rate is low? In recent years, after the pandemic, many people have lost their jobs, resulting in a high number of divorces.

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@luisadannointed (8197)

• Philippines

29 May

I am sorry to hear that. I hope your mom has already moved on from her sister's passing. God bless.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

29 May

Thank you, my mother feels that her life is meaningless since she has difficulty standing up from her seat.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

29 May

@luisadannointed But I can't always help my mother, I keep looking for the best solution for that.

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@luisadannointed (8197)

• Philippines

29 May

@May2k8 But as long as ou are there for your mom, I think she will feel less sad.

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@jobelbojel (36840)

• Philippines

5 Jan

I am sorry about her passing. If she could have been honest about what is going on to her health.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

6 Jan

@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

5 Jan

thank you, the problem is that the doctor also made her down since the doctor said that it was due to age.

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@jobelbojel (36840)

• Philippines

5 Jan

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@jstory07 (145452)

• Roseburg, Oregon

9 Nov

Sorry for your loss.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

9 Nov

life must go on, no matter how sad we are!

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

12 Jun

@jstory07 She is the sister who is closest to my mother, now my mother feels that there is no one left to exchange ideas with.

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@jstory07 (145452)

• Roseburg, Oregon

12 Jun

@May2k8 Yes very true and hard to move on without the one that we love.

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@MrDenata (12910)

• Indonesia

31 Dec

I'm so sorry for your loss, My friend.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

31 Dec

Thank you, we always remember people who are no longer in the world.

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@MrDenata (12910)

• Indonesia

31 Dec

@May2k8 ofc, we always remember them.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

31 Dec

@MrDenata Nothing lasts forever, sooner or later everything will return to its original state.

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@Jenaisle (16303)

• Philippines

28 May

My condolences and prayers for you and your family.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

28 May

Thank you, it is all destiny and no one can change it.

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@RebeccasFarm (95744)

• Arvada, Colorado

12 Nov

I am so very sorry..I know what you mean about stubborn in getting help and care

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@Tampa_girl7 (53288)

• United States

13 May

I am sorry for your loss.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

13 May

Thank you, I can't believe that half a year has passed and my mother doesn't want to go back to her village anymore because she's afraid of remembering it again.

@Traceyjayne (4671)

• United Kingdom

7 Jul

I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this very sad time.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

8 Jul

Now my mother feels that her life has no meaning even though she has tried her best to seek treatment everywhere, but the results are still not visible.

@Neil43 (4120)

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7 Feb

Yes. That is true. If we started to feel something bad about our health, action must be taken immediately.

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@May2k8 (18743)

• Indonesia

7 Feb

That's why there is a saying prevention is better than cure, if it's already serious then there's nothing we can do.