What do you think of tough love?

I try to avoid people with those abrasive qualities, but it is not always possible. That is when I do not make eye contact with the individual and no conversation if possible.

That's why I have a problem with my husband's 2nd cousin. She is extremely critical of me and can fly off the handle at a moment's notice.

I think it’s terrible. Not a fan of that kind of love at all.

I have always avoided such people, Not good for my anxiety,

I have mixed feelings on that question. I think like many things doing them to excess can be counterproductive. I do think however, when raising children, I have noticed parents unwilling or unable to hold kids accountable for misbehaving, not following household rules or acting improperly. That is when tough love is necessary to instill proper values and hold the child accountable for their actions. At that stage they need to learn right from wrong. Now in the instance of adults, deliberately being mean to someone without justification is wrong. Even when justified you should be tactful and not harsh if at all possible. That would be it the best way to go.