Life of a Millennial Girl first time living in a big city
By Amj Reyes
@Soobinah (75)
July 23, 2025 2:22am CST
I never imagined that I would be living on my own at the age of 25. I have always had my parents with me, who took good care of me since I was a baby and even after I graduated from college. My parents provided me with everything: they cooked meals for me, did my laundry, and gave me money to spend. When I woke up in the morning, I didn't need to worry about cooking breakfast because Mom prepared it for me. When I wasn't feeling well, my parents were there for me, buying medicine and even feeding me because I couldn't move and felt dizzy. Now that I've moved out of our house and transferred to a big city, I feel so sad. I want to come home and be with my parents, but I'm no longer a baby, and my parents are getting old too. I need to work hard so I can spoil them just like how they spoiled me all these years. On my first day of work, I got sick, and it was hard for me to cook or even buy my own food. All I did was cry because I really missed my parents. The following day, I got soaked in the rain; my clothes were wet, and my shoes got soaked in the flood while I was waiting for a jeepney. Again, I felt so sad and wanted to cry, but I was shy because there were a lot of people.
But as time goes by, I'm getting used to it. I think I've become more independent and am slowly adjusting to my new environment. Thanks to my new friends, I was able to overcome my homesickness.
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@DaddyEvil (154605)
• United States
23 Jul
Making big changes in things you do can be scary for a while until you get used to those things as your new "normal". I'm glad you're adjusting well to the big city.
As you establish yourself more firmly in your new chosen environment (both work and with new friends) things will become easier.
I hope everything keeps working out for you going forward...
Think of myLot as another new part of your environment. Ask questions if things don't seem to make sense and we or the Admin for myLot will explain things to you. People here are friendly and like to help new members of this site.
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@Soobinah (75)
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23 Jul
@DaddyEvil Thanks for the tips 
now Im gonna use emojis to express myself.
now Im gonna use emojis to express myself.2 people like this
@rsa101 (39357)
• Philippines
23 Jul
That is such a touching and realistic tale. It can be like being thrust into a completely different world when you move out for the first time, especially after receiving such excellent care. I was deeply moved by your description of missing your parents. It's a significant change, but you will persevere because it's obvious how much you love and value them.
How you're beginning to adapt and regain your footing is incredible. Even though those difficult early days may have seemed insurmountable, you're already demonstrating a great deal of resilience and development. Continue; this stage will make you even more resilient and strong. And knowing that you're making an effort to return all of the love your parents gave you would make them extremely proud.
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@rsa101 (39357)
• Philippines
23 Jul
@Soobinah It's nice to hear. I'd be a proud parent to hear that from my own child. Just be careful because being away from your parents' protection and care can make you feel vulnerable to everything; remember why you're here and away from your loving parents, and you'll stay grounded.
@Soobinah (75)
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23 Jul
My parents are so nice; they're very caring and supportive to me and to my other siblings. That's why I'm doing my best to give back all their efforts. They're the reason why I decided to move out and find a job in a big city because I want to spoil them like they've spoiled me. They're my everything, and I owe everything to them – all my achievements in life. Without them, I wouldn't be here.
Thank you for you kind words.
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@abhi_bangal (7464)
• Ahmednagar, India
23 Jul
At the age of 25 you are living life on your own and in a big city. You are definitely a braveheart.
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@abhi_bangal (7464)
• Ahmednagar, India
24 Jul
@Soobinah "I need to be brave for my family's future." Actually you are motivating and inspiring me to be brave. And for that reason, I must thank you
@cherigucchi (15575)
• Philippines
23 Jul
You remind me of my two daughters. They are now both working and living on their own. My eldest is just about your age and she is staying in her own apartment near her work like my second daughter. They only come home on weekends.
I am so proud of them because they have grown as independent now.
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@cherigucchi (15575)
• Philippines
23 Jul
@Soobinah Oh, I am sorry to hear that. You might be missing each other so well.
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@Soobinah (75)
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24 Jul
@cherigucchi yes, i really miss my parents so much! good thing we can do video calls every night. but still, i want to hug them and i miss their way of caring me. i miss their food.
@Jenaisle (15745)
• Philippines
23 Jul
You're well on your road to becoming completely independent. Take heart, these challenges will only make you stronger. It's like taking your first few steps or learning how to bike the first time. You may fall down and be hurt a couple of times, but as you go on persistently, patiently, courageously, and don't give up, you will be sailing through life like a pro. Good luck on your journey.
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@garymarsh6 (23629)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul
It is tough at first but luckily we adapt & build our own circle of friends. Good lkuck in your new career & independence.
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