Children in the US
@allknowing (153192)
India
September 9, 2025 1:17am CST
Once the children are independent they no longer live with their parents. I have noticed it with my family and friends in the US
I am not much in favour of this as the parents live alone even when the children could continue to live with them until they get married and then have their own homes
The parents cease to be their guardians so early in life which responsibility they instinctively like to experience
What is your view on this?
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
5h
What I read here is government is encouraging kids to be on their own when they reach age 18
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@TheHorse (230170)
• Walnut Creek, California
1h
@allknowing How is Goverment encouraging this?
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@DaddyEvil (159134)
• United States
7h
Attitudes in the US are different than those of people in India. In India, I have noticed that it's common for a young adult to stay living with their parents until the mother finds a wife to care for her son or a man to care for his wife.
That isn't the attitude of children in the US. Here, young adults want to be out on their own away from the constant supervision of the parents. The parents MIGHT help the young adult after they move out of the parental home but many parents consider their job of raising the young adult finished by the 18th birthday.
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
7h
What does a child achieve at age 18 that America thinks they can fend for themselves to live a life that as you know is so demanding
In India a child who is not married continues to live with their parents. But most these days they leave the shores seeking greener pastures but at not at such a tender age as 18
Most parents consider their duty to see their children settle down in marriage when they come of age
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
6h
@DaddyEvil Living with parents does not mean parents will choose their partners That is history now They continue to live with their parents and leave when they find their partners
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@DaddyEvil (159134)
• United States
7h
@allknowing Most young adults are tired of their parents making decisions for them and want to be out of their parents influence. Laws here say a person is an adult at 18 years old and the young adults want to leave and find their own lives...
Young adults here, even Indian children raised here, don't want their parents to choose husband/wife for them. They know they can get a job and pay for themselves away from their parents rules and restrictions. I have Indian friends here who also left home at 18 and did well for themselves.
Many young adults don't want to get married anymore, no matter what their parents want. You've noticed that in India, too. Many things are changing.
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@rsa101 (40137)
• Philippines
6h
That's just how they roll in the West. Here in Asia, we're all about family ties so tight they could rival a double knot. We tend to stick together like glue until someone can fend for themselves or has their own family to stick to. My sister, who lives over there, still follows this tradition. Most of her kids are full-blown adults, yet they're still enjoying the perks of parental room service. Only her eldest son, who finally got a job, has dared to venture out on his own—probably because he ran out of excuses to stay!
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@rsa101 (40137)
• Philippines
5h
@allknowing I don't think that the government is interfering, as my sister still practices that in there, and no one is telling them that they should live separately from their parents since they are adults already.
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
5h
One should leave it to individual parents and government should not interfere
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
5h
@rsa101 You could be right but the govenrment is encouraging
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@AmbiePam (102659)
• United States
9h
But when the parents get old, and can no longer live alone, the elderly parent often moves back in with their offspring. That is very common.
In the United States, if you’re still living with your parents at a certain age, and you’re single, especially men, less people want to date you. They look at you like you’re quite pathetic UNLESS there is a health problem or someone’s finances have plummeted.
And, usually, both parent and child want to be separated at age 18 of the child, even if some stay longer than 18. Psychologists (Western ones at least), in general) think it is healthy to move on from your parent’s home at an appropriate age (which obviously varies).
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
8h
Does that mean even if a child is not earning becasue at age 18 most children are still studying and you expect them to leave house and be independent?
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@AmbiePam (102659)
• United States
8h
@allknowing The parent almost always helps the child in some way when they are in college. But student loans or Pell grants or scholarships take the burden off the student at first. And loans do not have to start being paid until four years out of college. However, a lot of kids do not go to college. And many have had jobs at sixteen so they know what work is. Now, you’re always going to have lazy kids, which is more prevalent now than ever, but all of this has been most likely worked out between parent and child for a couple years before they leave the home, and neither parent nor child is unprepared and without a plan.
It rare for anyone in college to be completely independent although they won’t live with their parent. That’s usually not realistic. It’s out of college when that happens.
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@allknowing (153192)
• India
8h
@AmbiePam Apart from providing monetary help is that enough for a child to be on their own - running a house at age 18? In India no child will give up studying at age 18 Here no child is allowed to work at age 16 and that is illegal.
Pardon me to say this but not all is well in America when it comes to children.
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