Finding True Love After Divorce

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One of the major life changes i had over the years was the divorce from the father of my children. The marriage was very strained and as time went on it really ended up taking a toll on both of us mentally and emotionally. There came a point where I really questioned whether happy marriages actually existed and if they did do they consist of just accepting the things that make it a little less happy. Would I over time just become immune tot he feeling of disappointment and melancholy. Things had gotten a lot worse before they finally got better. I wish we both would have handled it better especially myself, but we have finally reached a spot where we are both coparenting wonderfully together and getting along a lot better for the kids. It is better they see their parents happily working together separately than to stick together just for the sake of hiding how unhappy you are because it never really is hidden. It comes out in many ways and the tension and mood will always be felt in the air. A year and a half after that I found my current partner who since the beginning I've felt a spark with that wasn't there in my previous relationship. This relationship has been going strong for almost 3 years now. Comparing what it feels like now, to even the earlier parts of my relationship with my kids' father, it is COMPLETELY different. Even if on the rare occasion something does happen to dampen the mood between us, it is not a lingering dreadful feeling of disappointment and acceptance. Instead I am looking forward to resolving whatever the issue is and getting back into the swing of being lovebirds. There is no sense of loneliness like there was before. The feeling of having to deal with things on my own even though I'm technically not alone. There is none of that in my new relationship, all of it replaced with constant reassurance, love, and support for all things big or small that I may be going through. I do the same for him and it just feels wonderful to finally have what I had imagined love was supposed to be like in my younger years. It feels like I got a do over and found my soul mate and I thank God for it everyday. Have you ever had to start over in love after years with someone? Did you ever expect it to end? Could you see the end coming a mile away or did it come as a shocking blow? How lucky in love are you?