Routine changes and renewed aspirations

By Macy
Philippines
September 16, 2025 8:31pm CST
It's been so long since I last made a post here. Life has thrown in so many changes - I just needed time to inhale and then exhale and finally settle in. I'm not even sure if I've settled myself already and comfortably. So, this is how it feels when one of your kids finally goes to college. It's not like she's gone to a faraway university. The campus is a 30-minute bus ride from our place. It's just too disorienting for me to have my girls in different locations during weekdays now. I know this is bound to happen; I'm just feeling overly dramatic because I'm so attached to my kids. Eventually I should get used to this setup. And, yes, our college freshie is still staying with Mom and Dad and little sister. (It's very common in our culture to have our children with us until they get their own jobs or decide to get married.) Though I wouldn't mind putting her in a dorm when she's ready. As for me, I've been trying to engage in new activities and hobbies that would occupy my time and my mind. I've sent out applications to three artist groups and I was lucky to receive acceptance from all three. Perhaps I'll channel my extra time now to doing more paintings. I've yet to upload new artworks in my Redbubble account. I don't know what's keeping me.
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3 responses
@allknowing (153633)
• India
4h
Good to see you Time is a diffuser and you will soon learn to accept this new phase in your life and that in your daughter's
@DaddyEvil (159768)
• United States
5h
It is difficult when your kid(s) leave home for college but you do get used to them being gone... I really disliked it when Pretty left for college. She moved 9 hours away from home. It felt like she moved to the moon. (I had full custody of Pretty from the time she was 5 years old, so even though I'm her dad, it still hit hard.) I buried myself in my job but it was still hard. I'm glad you've got things lined up now and hope everything works out for you.
@rsa101 (40214)
• Philippines
6h
I guess most mom experience that kind of feeling. It is like what they call as “Empty Nest Syndrome”. We parents experience that feeling of detachment from our children as they gain their independence from us feeling detached and not needed by them anymore.