The Good Kind of Empty

October 19, 2025 1:25pm CST
The other day I was stuck in traffic and I just... I don't know, started thinking about happiness. Like what even is it, you know? Everyone's running around chasing this huge thing, but maybe it's smaller than we think. Maybe it's just a walk somewhere quiet with no one texting you, no deadlines eating at the back of your brain. Just you and decent weather and your footsteps. That's it. ??????? If I could disappear for a day — like actually vanish, no questions asked — I'd leave before the sun comes up. Just grab my keys and go. No destination, no little blue dot on Google Maps bossing me around. I'd just drive till the city shrinks in the rearview and the road gets that empty feeling. The good kind of empty. I'd find one of those small towns where time moves different. You know the ones — they've got a diner with foggy windows and vinyl booths that squeak when you sit down. The waitress would call me "hon" and wouldn't ask why I'm there. I'd order coffee that tastes like it's been sitting too long and a slice of pie I'm not even hungry for. Apple, probably. Maybe cherry. And I'd just sit there pretending I've always lived in that town, like I wasn't a stranger at all. After that I'd walk. Somewhere with trees, maybe near water. One of those trails that smells like pine needles and dirt and something you can't quite name. I wouldn't think about work or what I'm supposed to be doing or who I'm letting down. I'd just think about nothing. Or everything. Whatever came up. No rush to be anywhere. No mask to wear. That sounds like peace to me, honestly. Just breathing and being a person for a minute. Where would you go if you could just... disappear for a day? No consequences, no one asking where you went.
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@TheHorse (231532)
• Walnut Creek, California
5h
The beach.
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5h
That's nice..I love the beach
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@TheHorse (231532)
• Walnut Creek, California
4h
@Dammy4life I do too. Have you read "Dover Beach," by Matthew Arnold?.
2h
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@terrid (8)
• United States
5h
I like the idea of going to a big city like New York. I find being lonely in a crowd appeals to me more than being lonely and isolated. I would probably spend the day walking around, checking out record stores and book shops. Finding some amazing undiscovered by tourist places to eat, too.
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5h
Wow ..that's cool..for me, I kinda feel uncomfortable in a crowd..I prefer a lonely place where Im alone with my thoughts
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@RasmaSandra (89946)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
2h
To walk the streets of Riga Latvia where I lived for a long time and i miss the city a lot,
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@porwest (109604)
• United States
26m
I guess the question is, what are you doing today to ensure that happens tomorrow? As someone once wisely said to me, "A dream is only a dream until you can make it real. But before you can make it real, you have to figure out how and then start working on that." It's like getting from point A to point B. It mostly requires a map. Find your map and when you do, you can begin to route your path.
@porwest (109604)
• United States
28m
Even though it sounds obvious and rather basic, I think happiness is simply finding what makes you happy. What do you want out of life and how do you get it? Everyone defines happiness differently, of course. But then some people WANT happier things but never seek ways to actually be happier. Sometimes the reason we question it, if it exists, or even what it means to us, is because we have done more to abate it than to achieve it. And therefore, for some people, it is an endless chase that never finds resolution, and for some people, it is then that they determine it must not exist. Look within yourself and ask yourself what makes you happy. Or what WOULD make you happy. But don't just focus on the "thing." Focus on the WHY. Because the why is more important than whatever it is you think MIGHT make you happy. Just my two cents worth, and I hope it at least made some sense to you.