How do you handle feedback that you don’t agree with?

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Whether it was from a job performance review or from a spouse or from a close friend, how do you handle feedback that you don't agree with? I think most people would have the tendency to get defensive and say, "That's not true! I don't do that!" Sometimes we lack self-awareness, so the feedback comes as a complete shock to us and we reject it. The worst feedback I ever got was from a long-distance supervisor. I had turned in my employee's performance reviews and we were talking raises for them. One team member, an older lady, was on a Performance Improvement Plan and disciplinary action because she flat out lied to me and spent money she wasn't authorized to spend, but my supervisor gave her a 3% raise anyway even though her performance was very subpar. Then it came to MY performance review. He didn't do one. No feedback whatsoever on how well I was doing or suggestions for changes. Nothing. But here's the kicker, he said I wasn't getting a raise because "You already make too much money." Really? So you're going to reward the slacker on my team and give me nothing? Needless to say, my response to quit and move on to another company.