AM I BEING SELFISH?

@Soobinah (210)
November 23, 2025 8:47pm CST
A few months ago, I was tasked with conducting a series of lectures in different offices within our agency. I vividly recall my first experience of presenting on a topic that was unfamiliar to me. I received the notice just a few hours before the lecture, and I was extremely stressed due to the limited time I had to research and prepare my topic. I quickly searched for information and created my PowerPoint presentation, jotting down notes as my guide. The first lecture was somehow a success. Despite being unprepared, I managed to finish the discussion and answer numerous questions from the participants. After returning to the office, I saw three requests for subject matter experts. One was scheduled for the next day, and the other two were on the same date, one in the morning and the other in the afternoon. Since they were all different topics, I had to study and search again while handling my pending tasks, having been away from the office for four hours conducting the lecture. All the lectures were successful, but then a coworker approached me and asked for copies of my lecture, saying he wanted to discuss it further. I froze for a second, not expecting the request. I recalled how he had questioned my credibility when I was new in the office, wondering why I was chosen, and had not cooperated when I needed help with a pending task. In fact, his lack of compliance had caused the pending task. Now, he wanted copies of my presentation? Was I being selfish for not giving him a copy?"
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@Deepizzaguy (116335)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
2h
Sometimes saying no to request in necessary.
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@kaylachan (80796)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
3h
I don't know if selfish is the word you're looking for. You might call it a bit mean or rude, but selfish, that's not what the word means. It's no slight on you if someone asks for a copy of the presitation. It's actually common everyone involved, get a coppy of what you're presenting so they can follow along or refer back to it if they need for some reason. Some people need to see and or read what's being told to them, and may not be able to keep up with you. It's nothing personal or a slight to your credability, but something someone might need for themselves.
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@AmbiePam (106858)
• United States
2h
You were absolutely not selfish at all. You were smart, and you needn’t feel one second of doubt for not doing so.