Zen story: Stop carrying rocks in your head, but carrying a stone in your pocket, is ok
By emptychair
@innertalks (23387)
Australia
December 10, 2025 7:09pm CST
The old Zen master posed this simple question to his students:
"When is a stone a rock?"
to test their understanding of the Zen mind.
And no one, of course, knew his answer, so the master replied,
"When the stone remains in your thinking, and grows worsely, solid, and bigger, from there becoming a rock, against your progress to conscious thinking, and being."
The master then went on to explain this a bit further to his students.
"It is said that our thoughts grow into heavy weights, such as rocks, for us, when we attach other snowballing thoughts, and emotions, to them."
"Thoughts come, and go."
"Think them, and let them go, without letting them create anything weighty in your mind, by you holding onto them, and to the ideas, and emotions, behind them."
"None of us are seeing the world for the first time, but when you place rocks in your head, you cannot see the world at all, through these rocks, and you forget about that freshness of vision, when you did see things for the first time."
"Ok,"
the old Zen master went on.
"I will leave you then with this reverse koan."
"When is a rock a stone?"
"Think over this one, and report back to me tomorrow about your ideas regarding this koan."
The next day, the students were still none the wiser about the master's reverse koan.
The master smiled widely, and simply said.
"Whenever you disinflate your thoughts to leave them as they were, your rock becomes a stone again, and carrying a small stone around with you can act as a reminder to you of this."
"See, I carry this small stone in my own pocket to remind me never to allow my thoughts to become heavier than this, and weigh me down with their increased weight, by them becoming rocks in my head, and not mere reminders in my pocket."
And with that the master went over to tend his garden, in his monastery.
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Good thoughts, like water, can even move past the rocks in your mind, when you allow them to do so, and when you do not get fixated on the rocks instead.
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@Shiva49 (27695)
• Singapore
11 Dec
At times, the hurts linger and we lament "why me of all people"
I try to move on without getting hindered by what hurt me.
Forgiving does the trick but not forgetting, and that will not hurt much then.
I meet a few who have a feeling life has been unfair to them.
I feel they pursued a different path from mine, so their destination is also different.
Why look at others as luckier?
We inflate small stones of hurt and setbacks to convert them as rocks lugging them around.
It all boils down a to attitude - get out of the negative mindset to enjoy the wider world filled with others who overcame greater odds but still keep smiling.
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@innertalks (23387)
• Australia
11 Dec
To move past past hurt takes a certain insight into what is behind hurt, as life does not bring us rocks to lug around very often, usually mishaps start as small stones, and we escalate them from there into huge boulders, that we then try to lug around with, in our life.
Life is basically good, as God set it up to be, and we should try to see this good in all that befalls us.
That said, though, it is easy to say this, and harden to do in the midst of some life crisis.
@Shiva49 (27695)
• Singapore
12h
@innertalks "Time heals all wounds" is an oft repeated saying to soothe the hurts/pain/aches.
But we make a mistake when we keep the hurts alive due to our inability to forgive and move on.
Helen Keller said: "When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us" .
Likewise, we keep ruminating over the hurts when new opportunities beckon us to explore exciting vistas.
I have found everything has a fixed term/tenure and it is for us to make the best use of them. I have cherished relationships with a few and I knew they would not last. So I did whatever I could to spread some cheer around within that time frame.
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@innertalks (23387)
• Australia
4h
@Shiva49 I have always preferred that things can last for the long term, but they never do.
Even programs on my computer, go on for years, usefully serving me, and then the developer stops updating them, they become nonworking, and a few times, I have lost then whatever was in them, annoyingly so. I usually keep my records in more than one place, and system now, to avoid these mishaps.
I had one program that I was using to encrypt my files, and it was free, then all of a sudden the owner added a pay wall to it, we then had to pay for it, to re-access our data. It was like a ransom really, and was most annoying too.
He should have warned us that he was going to do this, so we could copy our stuff from his program before it became non-working for us, unless we paid his program fee to him.



