I've had an interesting week

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It has been a bit since I last posted. I've had an interesting time away. Most recently, I woke up to some shocking news. Not bad news, but still shocking. I was having some back pain the night before, up until I got online in the morning. It was bothering me, and the pure adrenaline knocked the pain right out of me. I took an Ancestry DNA test several years ago, trying to get some family information. These tests are not to be taken lightly. There are risk factors, especially for people outside of the US but I did this years ago when I was trying to dig up information for something in particular. I never found what I was looking for, unfortunately, but I digress. I always tell people if you're taking one, you need to be prepared for any of the possibilities. Up until recently, I never found anything. Wednesday morning, I decided to log on for some reason, and I was going through my matches, and the shock of a lifetime (well, if you know my story, more like the second shock of a lifetime), I saw a new name I hadn't seen before, and it said half-brother or uncle. I knew this couldn't be from my grandpa. My husband and son were in the room as we were all getting ready for work and school, and I instantly said "holy crap!" My husband looked at me, confused, and said, "What?" I was like, "I have a brother." He goes well, yeah. I said no, another one I didn't know about. I immediately messaged my brother and sister and was trying to process it myself. The truth is, this isn't even the first time something like this has happened to me. You would think I would be used to this kind of thing by now. When I was a teenager, we found out I had a half-sister through my dad. She's only a few months older than me. My parents were arguing, and my mom thought I overheard. I didn't, but I was confused. Somehow, I'm the first one to learn about the new siblings. I met my sister in my teens, and we formed a sibling relationship, but it's not like it is with my brother I grew up with. When I took the test, I knew there was a possibility things could pop up because I've heard of it happening, but I never really expected it to actually happen. I was like what are the odds we would have ANOTHER sibling we didn't know about? Apparently pretty good. I told my dad about my find later that morning, and he was kind of shocked. He knew it was a possibility, but informed me that the mom never told him it was his, so he always figured that the kid wasn't. The new brother's mom is the sister of my uncle's wife. Unfortunately, she passed away a couple of years ago, so my dad will never be able to get answers unless he can talk to my aunt, but he doesn't have her number. I have her on facebook and if the new brother doesn't respond to me in a few days, I'll probably message her so I can get some information for my dad. I don't want to pry or make him feel like he has to talk to us if he doesn't want to. It has to be a lot for him to take in, too, unless he always knew this was a possibility. I honestly don't know what he knew or why he took the test for sure. I messaged him and told him we would like to get to know him if he was interested, but that there wasn't any pressure. I don't know if he'll respond. If he doesn't respond, my dad should still be allowed to have some answers. My dad was in genuine shock. We did the math, the new brother is 7 months older than my brother. My dad got my mom pregnant pretty quickly after they got together. My dad told me he was told he wasn't able to have any kids, and I was like, yeah, and you somehow ended up with 4. There is only one year skipped between my two brothers and then me, and my sister. I asked my dad if there were any more siblings we didn't know about. He claims he's positive there aren't any more. I don't know how this whole thing is going to play out. I know my brother really wants this to play out because I feel like he's missing that sibling bond since there is a lot of family drama going on in my family right now, and it's basically just the two of us really talking right now. I know he misses how things were when we were younger. My family used to be closer, but over the years, we have distanced ourselves from one another, and it's sad. My brother also doesn't really like our sister from our dad for various reasons. I talk to her, but I'm not super close to her, but more so than my brother. I know it bothers my sister that she doesn't have that connection with our brother, but she did it to herself, and since we didn't grow up with her, he doesn't have that connection with her that makes him want to be around her. Well, I'll update when I find out more information. As of right now, it's a wait and see game. I'll figure out my next steps as we go. I know my brother has been eagerly waiting. I always tell people I'm a boring person, but everything that surrounds me is a bit dramatic and over the top at times. I, as a human, am not interesting. I like the calm, I enjoy reading a book or watching a movie. The universe is bound and determined to keep my life interesting, though.