I Just Want My Life Back

United States
February 5, 2026 5:55am CST
I want life back before we became caregivers for the mother-in-law 6 months ago. It seems like our whole lives revolve around visiting her, getting her situated, making her appointments, filling out forms for her, etc., etc. It's just exhausting. I want a routine schedule back where I can go to the gym every morning and meet my friends for cards and lunch, and schedule my own doctor appointments for mornings. But of course that's not reality, so I'm not going to whine about it. It is what it is.
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Heather Echola
@GardenGerty (167554)
• United States
5h
I am so sorry you are overwhelmed by caregiving right now. Can I say I understand. I am glad you and hubby work in partnership, though. It does help carry the burden.
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Arunima Singh
@arunima25 (92895)
• Bangalore, India
6h
Many a times in our lives , situations are not in our control. We have to do our best to make the best of whatever we have. It's nice that you are taking care of her. Relationships and family are the best gift that we have in our lives.
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snowy
@snowy22315 (202432)
• United States
2h
Just be thankful you don't have to care for her in your home.
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Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85591)
• Valdosta, Georgia
3h
I am so sorry, I am sure that has to be so hard. I can say this too shall pass. Maybe not quickly or how we want it to but this won't be your story forever. You are doing a selfless thing by taking care of her though.
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Four Walls
@FourWalls (82665)
• United States
1h
It’s hard, I know. That “new normal” stinks. Then when it abruptly ends you go back to the “old normal” that feels “new.” Praying for y’all.
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Traceyjayne
@Traceyjayne (7523)
• United Kingdom
1h
It is what is it …..however, you should be getting some time back now that Mother in law is in the care home and gradually this will become more, you will get your life back.
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Amber
@AmbiePam (112030)
• United States
3h
Remember, it is temporary, and eventually your life will become your own again. But you’re doing it to serve the Lord, and you’re doing it for your husband, and that brings its own rewards. Even if it doesn’t feel like it now.
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Fleur
@Fleura (33789)
• United Kingdom
5h
It is tough, I know what it's like and it takes all your time and energy. This period will pass though, and you'll be glad you did the 'right' thing in taking care of her.
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LindaOH
@LindaOHio (212895)
• United States
4h
Yup. We were caregivers for my husband's parents for years. As you said, it is what it is. I hope you can schedule some time for yourselves.
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