The rag that changed everything
@iKONICNoona (4378)
Philippines
March 24, 2026 10:41pm CST
Hello Lotters! I want to share what happened in our household one week ago , I have a niece who just finished her retreat its their school's requirement before they graduate. They stayed in the retreat house for three days. Last Wednesday she came home to us , I greeted her when she showed up on our terrace , she was holding a lot of things and thats where I noticed she bought a meal from Jollibee a famous fastfood chain here in the Philippines. I told her , Oh you bought from Jollibee? And she answered back with a different tone : Im eating Jollibee!! Im the only one who will eat Jollibee! She said to me. I answered back and said : Sure, you can eat , Im done with lunch and I said Im not in the mood for some jokes and turned my back on her and went inside the house.
It did not stop there , she followed me inside and asked me once again what did I mean when I said that , she was just 17 , a student in senior high and Im 44 ,it sounds strange that shes talking to me in a manner like we were just of the same age. I stepped back and told her Im not into jokes this time and to mind her tone of voice when talking to me, to my surprise she answered back to me with words that I didnt expect that would come out of her mouth , she blabbering at me and shes not listening anymore, Im holding a rag because Im wiping our dining table , to my anger instead of slapping her , I threw the rag on her face to make her stop. Its like in the movies and mom saw it.
Mom got mad at me and blamed me for everything. Mom said hurtful words to me too. But mom did not ask me what happened , what happened why I threw a rag on my niece's face. All my past mistakes was mentioned again and mom was hysterical.Up to now were not in speaking terms. Im hurt. And Im disappointed on how my mom handled the situation.
My niece will go back to her dorm this afternoon .We arent speaking to each other though she said sorry . Family drama is not cool but it happens I know . If you were on my shoes that day , what will you do? How would you feel? And if you were my mom will you take sides? Because my mom did , she took the side of my niece. If you were my mom too what will you do?
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@iKONICNoona (4378)
• Philippines
25 Mar
@rakski
I am shocked at how my mom reacted. In the end I was labeled the problem.
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@rakski (153500)
• Philippines
25 Mar
@iKONICNoona that is sad and hurtful to think you are the one at home to be with her
@pitsipeahie (5697)
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25 Mar
I understand why you felt disrespected, anyone would, especially coming from someone younger. But I will also be honest in telling you that throwing a rag at her face wasn’t the best way to handle it either. You’re 44 and she’s 17, so naturally, more maturity and restraint are expected from you.
You could have corrected her tone without escalating the situation. Teenagers can be rude at times, but that’s when they need guidance, not a reaction like that.
As for your mom, she probably reacted based on what she saw in that moment. It may not feel fair, but from her perspective, your action stood out more.
In the end, both of you could have handled things better.
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@iKONICNoona (4378)
• Philippines
27 Mar
@pitsipeahie
Yes I admit I was wrong too for throwing the rag at her, but I only did that so that she would stop and listen to me, she became rowdy when she saw my mom coming at us. When it was just the two of us shes not even crying and her tone was apologetic , but when she saw my mom going to where we were she suddenly burst out crying and shouting .
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@iKONICNoona (4378)
• Philippines
25 Mar
@jstory07
Alot of people has the same mindset as you maam, she dudcthe opposite. She yelled at me ,
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@Jehanne (1373)
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25 Mar
The rag you've thrown looks like a boxer short. Lol!
Whatever happens, and hurtful words said hope everyone find time to talk and communicate when everything cools down.
Hope the misunderstanding can be resolved afterall you are family.
Filipino family always had some fights and drama who didn't experience that, I do as well.
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@iKONICNoona (4378)
• Philippines
27 Mar
@Jehanne
Yes its an worn out boxers , yes filipino families experience misunderstandings and as of now we are not speaking but we are civil to each other.
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@Jehanne (1373)
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27 Mar
@iKONICNoona of all the rag why boxer short? Hehehe I find it amusing.
It's a good sign at least being civil. That space makes everyone reflect with what happened.
