A Tough Morning

@AmbiePam (117867)
United States
April 6, 2026 8:02pm CST
I wasn’t sure I was going to mention this, but Mylot has made me feel better in the past, so why not. This morning I was hit by an overwhelming feeling of missing my mother, who will have been gone 11 years May fourth. On the heels of that, I immediately wanted to call my maternal grandmother, but as you know, she died a few years ago too. My dad was out of town, so I texted my sister and asked if there was a time I could call her today where she wouldn’t be busy. She called me a minute later, but was very terse, and told me she only had time for an emergency. I told her it wasn’t an emergency, thanked her, and let her go. It’s been ages since I felt such grief. I didn’t think about it all day though, because I fell asleep for the next six hours. Don’t worry about that though; I made an appointment for Wednesday to find out why I’m sleeping an absurd amount of time. Thanks for letting me share.
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@Tampa_girl7 (54620)
• United States
7 Apr
I have found that grief and missing a loved one never goes away. It lessons in time , but can hit so hard years later like you just lost the love one. I try to fill my mind with the good memories and do something in memory of them. Maybe eat their favorite food or listen to music that they enjoyed …..perhaps watch a movie or television show they loved. I have found myself wanting my mama these past two weeks. I hope that you feel better tonight.
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@MarieCoyle (57373)
7 Apr
Marie, such wonderful ideas. I know some music my loved ones really loved, I play at times for them. And favorite foods are a good way to remember good times with them as well.
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
8 Apr
I am assigned to make one of my mom's dishes for Thanksgiving. I do thread music into a lot of my life.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
You’re such a gem, Marie. Thank you so much for the advice, and giving it such deep thought. I always know you’ll have the right words to share.
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@sallypup (68788)
• Centralia, Washington
7 Apr
That's too bad about your sister. I wish I had something comforting to say. I am one of those who believe that our loved ones spirits are not truly gone. Their presence remains close.
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@snowy22315 (206266)
• United States
7 Apr
Sorry you are feeling sad. It is no fun. I am also sorry that sis didn't have time for you either. I haven't lost my mother (yet) so I couldn't possibly say I know how you feel, besides everyone's grief is unique to them. I just hope you feel better soon.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Thanks so much, snowy. You already made me feel better by your post.
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@LadyDuck (498862)
• Italy
7 Apr
You are feeling down because also your body is exhausted. I know that when this happens I also feel depressed and I miss my Dad and Mom badly. You know you can come here and talk to us.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Thank you, Anna. And I know what you mean; everything is worse when you feel run down.
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@LadyDuck (498862)
• Italy
7 Apr
@AmbiePam Yes, everything seems more depressing when we feel down.
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@noni1959 (12920)
• United States
7 Apr
I'm sorry your sister couldn't take time for you. I hope you find out why you are sleeping so much.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Sometimes I wonder what I did to deserve how she talks to me, but I don’t think I did anything.
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@noni1959 (12920)
• United States
8 Apr
@AmbiePam Some times we never know why they become like this.
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@JudyEv (378115)
• Rockingham, Australia
7 Apr
I'm so sorry you felt so sad. It's awful that you weren't able to find someone to talk to but at least you had myLot. I thought Marie's advice was very helpful.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Yes, I agree - Marie was very wise. Thank you so much for showing you care by responding.
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@dodo19 (47969)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Apr
I can certainly understand how you feel. I have loved ones who have passed, and I still miss them and feel sad/grief. It's definitely not easy. It doesn't matter how long they've been gone. It's still there.
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@Juliaacv (55583)
• Canada
7 Apr
The bigger the loss/grief, the bigger the love. Your Mom must have been such an amazing person-I know that because you are! I am sorry that you have these times, but remember the depth of love, and be grateful. Your sister must not have had the connection with your Mom that you did, but I am sorry that she wasn't there for you.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Thank you for your caring and understanding, Julia. I really appreciate it.
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@Juliaacv (55583)
• Canada
7 Apr
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@DaddyEvil (172360)
• United States
7 Apr
I'm sorry I wasn't here yesterday and wish I could help you. Talking with a friend always helps me when I feel like that.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
I appreciate that, DE.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
@DaddyEvil Thank you so much. I might take you up on it sometime.
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@DaddyEvil (172360)
• United States
7 Apr
@AmbiePam You know you can text or call any time.
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@rakski (152131)
• Philippines
7 Apr
we are all here for you
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@RasmaSandra (96535)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7 Apr
I know just how you feel there are days for some reason suddenly grief over takes me and I find myself crying most of the day,
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
My heart hurts for you.
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@RasmaSandra (96535)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
8 Apr
@AmbiePam and my thoughts with you just have to keep going,
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@Traceyjayne (10101)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr
We are always here for you .... Happy times and sad times .... Last month was the third anniversary of losing my Dad and it still hits me hard. Coming to the caravan is both something I love and dread as it was the ' happy place ' for both of us . I picture him on the settee, etc . It was hard at the weekend when The Mister was washing the caravan as Dad always did that. I still find it hard not to text him or send him photos .... Sometimes thoughts and memories are too much for us .... All I can say is that I'm here for you ...just a message away if you want to chat ...
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
My heart goes out you. And thank you so much for caring.
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@Traceyjayne (10101)
• United Kingdom
7 Apr
@AmbiePam thank you too x We are friends ....near or far ....
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@NJChicaa (126898)
• United States
7 Apr
I am sorry that it hit you so hard. I don't have any words of wisdom. She is still alive in you and all she taught you.
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
Thank you.
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@valherma00 (2617)
• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 Apr
i really hope someone can tell you what's the reason behind your long sleeping. i am also sorry you lost someone so dear to you and that hole is still there. you have every right to feel sad and to talk how you feel here. we will listen to you i've also experienced calling people and when they said they are not available and is there an emergency, i hang up. i mean, i don't call that often. its on them, not us
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@AmbiePam (117867)
• United States
7 Apr
You’re such a doll. Thank you so much for your compassion!
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• Zagreb, Croatia (Hrvatska)
8 Apr
@AmbiePam you're welcome and thank you
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@GardenGerty (168594)
• United States
7 Apr
Grief is sneaky.I am sorry she did not have time for you. I understand. Big hugs/
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@xstitcher (38643)
• Petaluma, California
7 Apr
Oh, my friend, I wish I had read this earlier. My Mom hasn't been gone as long, but I still miss her--though the Lord has spared me feeling awful grief for a while.
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@wolfgirl569 (133155)
• Marion, Ohio
7 Apr
Things like that can pop up for no reason.
@DianneN (253946)
• United States
7 Apr
I feel for you. After all these years of losing my mother, father, beloved grandmother, uncle, aunt, and more recently both of my husband’s brothers, I still grieve. I find prayer helpful and talking about them with my family helps. Hopefully, you can have that conversation with your sister soon and remember all the good times you had together.
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