Family boundaries and balance in marriage

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I did not really want to post this, but I felt the need to ask if anyone has had a similar experience. I am trying to understand the situation better and hear different perspectives. My wife can be difficult at times, and one issue that affects us is how involved her family is in our daily life. She spends a lot of time talking to her parents and brother. I remember one day our little one was crying a lot on the sofa, while my wife was on the phone with her mother. She was so focused on the call that she did not even notice the child crying. Her parents and brother usually call between one to three times a day, and they also visit two to three times a week, sometimes even more. Personally, I feel this can intrude on our private family space. At times, it feels like they are overly involved in her life and in our household matters. Whenever I try to explain that there should be a healthy balance, she becomes defensive. I understand they are her family, and I fully respect that. I have no issue with them calling, speaking, or visiting. That is normal and important. My only concern is that after ten years of marriage, I feel there should be more balance and boundaries so that we can also have space as our own family. Sometimes the constant involvement leaves me feeling drained. I am not trying to blame anyone. I am simply asking if others have experienced something similar, and how they managed it in a respectful way.