Should I Copy Their Behavior or Stick To My Standards?
By Jehanne
@Jehanne (1327)
May 2, 2026 12:06pm CST
The overthinker me, you did nothing wrong.
I did enjoy that one day break and came back at work with full of energy, ready to conquer all the works that awaits. 
I received docs that seems to have error in it, I asked our cashier if the amount was correct? politely asking her to confirmed the deposited amount. She said it's correct, that's exactly the cheque's amount.
Proceeded with all the transactions then during posting error occurred the same amount I have asked her to confirmed.
Returned to her the docs for cross-checking then she came back as if nothing happened.
This is the total amount showing the numbers in the calculator to me.
Seriously? I have to tell her "that isn't exactly what you wrote in the docs" while pointing the amount in the docs she just returned to me. [headache]
She gets the docs, redo it and returned to me. Then, walked away just like that.
I suddenly talked, be mindful with your work next time so I won't go back to square one. It is such a trouble. [frustration kicks in]
Afternoon came, she gives me docs for Monday transactions. Again, I received it unstapled. I have already instructed her few days ago about it to stapled while doing the work, separate two different docs then stapled it myself. That time she answered me if the docs have been mixed up. And I said nope! it's a hassle for me given there's a lot of it.
Today what she forwarded on me is already separated but still unstapled. I can no longer stand it because it just felt so wrong.
I told her again to staple it, she answered the same innocently "is it mixed up?"
How you do your work before then go back of how you do it. Docs are mindfully arranged separately with stapled. This isn't my job to do. [end of discussion]
We'll see on Monday, if she comply.
But honestly, I have already asked my self so many times if I should mirror her behavior?
Everytime my brain told me, I should. My actions never did. I never stoop down to her level but yes, I'm an overthinker everytime I speak directly to her what she must do.
I question myself if I did something wrong but I know I didn't.
The photo was from a long time ago yr.2003/Posted it just last year with a caption : "The Silence That The Night Brings Is Like A Hug From The Many Things That Have Happened During The Day."
Which I'm telling myself well done for today.
You didn't do any bad things, you remain true to yourself.
I received docs that seems to have error in it, I asked our cashier if the amount was correct? politely asking her to confirmed the deposited amount. She said it's correct, that's exactly the cheque's amount.
Proceeded with all the transactions then during posting error occurred the same amount I have asked her to confirmed.
Returned to her the docs for cross-checking then she came back as if nothing happened.
This is the total amount showing the numbers in the calculator to me.
Seriously? I have to tell her "that isn't exactly what you wrote in the docs" while pointing the amount in the docs she just returned to me. [headache]
She gets the docs, redo it and returned to me. Then, walked away just like that.
I suddenly talked, be mindful with your work next time so I won't go back to square one. It is such a trouble. [frustration kicks in]
Afternoon came, she gives me docs for Monday transactions. Again, I received it unstapled. I have already instructed her few days ago about it to stapled while doing the work, separate two different docs then stapled it myself. That time she answered me if the docs have been mixed up. And I said nope! it's a hassle for me given there's a lot of it.
Today what she forwarded on me is already separated but still unstapled. I can no longer stand it because it just felt so wrong.
I told her again to staple it, she answered the same innocently "is it mixed up?"
How you do your work before then go back of how you do it. Docs are mindfully arranged separately with stapled. This isn't my job to do. [end of discussion]
We'll see on Monday, if she comply.
But honestly, I have already asked my self so many times if I should mirror her behavior?
Everytime my brain told me, I should. My actions never did. I never stoop down to her level but yes, I'm an overthinker everytime I speak directly to her what she must do.
I question myself if I did something wrong but I know I didn't.
The photo was from a long time ago yr.2003/Posted it just last year with a caption : "The Silence That The Night Brings Is Like A Hug From The Many Things That Have Happened During The Day."
Which I'm telling myself well done for today.
You didn't do any bad things, you remain true to yourself. 6 people like this
5 responses
@Ineeddentures (31061)
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2 May
Is it the end of the world If she doesn't do stuff exactly as you want lol?
If she doesn't comply can you sack her?
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@Jehanne (1327)
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3 May
I don't know to think she isn't normally busy. Lately, she becomes inefficient and ineffective to her works and tasks. I'm not the only one who notices it.
I know she's a senior employee but seniority won't work to me.
I can't, though I'm usually quiet and do things but I can be outspoken too.
I can't, though I'm usually quiet and do things but I can be outspoken too. 1 person likes this
@Ineeddentures (31061)
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3 May
@Jehanne
Ask her why she has become less efficient of late.
She could have something really bad going on in her life.
Maybe see her more as a human being than someone to make comply with you
Why don't you have a nice chat with her over a coffee
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@Jehanne (1327)
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3 May
@Ineeddentures I was a bit off with my word "comply"
Honestly, nothing is going on with her life. I find her lack of empathy sometimes, inconsiderate with others, self-centered.
Few months ago, an open forum during meeting happened it was due to her shrugging off work that is important involving employees salary since she was in charge with the payroll. She was politely being asked by one of our co-worker and instead of explaining her side of story. She reacted fiercely and angry that turn their conversations almost a fist fight. All of us is in their including our supervisor. Imagine both of them standing right infront of us end up pointing each other. That's disrespect given the supervisor is right there. We just watched until they both calmed down.
If you asked after that if she follow up about the salary, she didn't even our supervisor have advised her.
There was a time, my teammate was asked to relieved in other branch due to employees absence due to depression. You know what she said, why still working and cause others trouble. She should resign. In fact, no one was being trouble not even her because she's not the one being relieve nor the one took over my teammate works.
Right away she invalidates others situations.
Days ago she complain a lot because of others negligence at work. This and that, not realizing she's been doing the same with her own tasks too.
Did she really never realized her own actions? I wondered.
Honestly, nothing is going on with her life. I find her lack of empathy sometimes, inconsiderate with others, self-centered.
Few months ago, an open forum during meeting happened it was due to her shrugging off work that is important involving employees salary since she was in charge with the payroll. She was politely being asked by one of our co-worker and instead of explaining her side of story. She reacted fiercely and angry that turn their conversations almost a fist fight. All of us is in their including our supervisor. Imagine both of them standing right infront of us end up pointing each other. That's disrespect given the supervisor is right there. We just watched until they both calmed down.
If you asked after that if she follow up about the salary, she didn't even our supervisor have advised her.
There was a time, my teammate was asked to relieved in other branch due to employees absence due to depression. You know what she said, why still working and cause others trouble. She should resign. In fact, no one was being trouble not even her because she's not the one being relieve nor the one took over my teammate works.
Right away she invalidates others situations.
Days ago she complain a lot because of others negligence at work. This and that, not realizing she's been doing the same with her own tasks too.
Did she really never realized her own actions? I wondered. 1 person likes this
@AliCanary (4283)
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3 May
Definitely maintain high standards. However, the fact that she won't follow the rules is a problem. Is she purposely trying to make the job harder for you? If so, why?
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@Jehanne (1327)
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3 May
Based on observation, she's not trying to make my job harder though she did. I'm not sure really what's wrong with her. She's slacking off so much of her responsibility so many times. Shrug
I know I have to put an end to it by telling her to do her job properly.
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@AliCanary (4283)
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21h
@Jehanne yes, it's hard to have to tell someone that, but she's creating problems for you and maybe others, as well.
@Jehanne (1327)
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3 May
It really is and mixed with frustration.
I never been impolite to anyone at work and especially to her given our mother is a close friend and she's a senior employee too but the things I find wasn't right, I'll sure to make it right.
Honestly, this wasn't the only things she been doing at work. Others don't usually have courage to speak. But I'm honest and frank at times.
I never been impolite to anyone at work and especially to her given our mother is a close friend and she's a senior employee too but the things I find wasn't right, I'll sure to make it right.
Honestly, this wasn't the only things she been doing at work. Others don't usually have courage to speak. But I'm honest and frank at times.1 person likes this
@ogbenishyna44 (1578)
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3 May
If you copy their behaviour, you may not be able to cope with the stress, just understand your strength and weakness.
