Involving myself in my Aunt's affair

@rsa101 (41785)
Philippines
August 27, 2026 12:34am CST
Lately, I’ve been involved in my aunt’s situation, initially tasked with finding a good home care facility for her. Everyone in the family seems to be experiencing caregiver fatigue. My older sister, who provides financial support, is stressed about her condition despite living far away. I’ve been handling the logistics for now, but recently things took a turn when it was decided she would return to the province to be cared for by relatives and friends instead of an institution. I think this is a practical way to care for an aging relative who has no immediate family, especially since she’s been single all her life. Home care costs in the city are quite high. Now, I’ll be managing her bank account to cover her needs and medication. It’s a bit stressful taking on this new responsibility, but I feel I need to step up and support her.
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@rakski (159653)
• Philippines
21h
That is a problem that our country has no solution to. Most institutions here are for those who have no relatives and they will go under DSWD. The few ones are all private and the cost is high.
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
17h
Yeah, it’s a bit too much for us to handle, so we decided to bring her home to be with relatives. Her current caregivers are also tired and aren’t family, so they wanted us to take her in and care for her.
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
17h
@rakski 80 yo.
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@rakski (159653)
• Philippines
17h
@rsa101 how old is your aunt?
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@AmbiePam (125664)
• United States
17h
I am so glad you are helping care for your aunt in this way. Sometimes, looking in my future as a single person, I wonder what will happen to me if I make it to the point of needing a caregiver and my older sister is no longer alive. I have two nieces I hope will not let me go to a two bit home where they care little about their patients. I hope they will make sure someone provides adequate care for me. So thank you for watching out for your aunt.
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
13h
Thank you for the appreciation. Sometimes I feel like what I do for her isn’t enough, but as a niece to an aunt who has no one else to rely on, I believe this is my way of contributing to the collective effort to make her life as comfortable as possible.
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@AmbiePam (125664)
• United States
11h
@rsa101 Anf you are honoring her well.
@kareng (83074)
• United States
21h
I hope that she gets all of the care that she needs. It's hard being a caregiver. I'm glad to hear that you are there for her.
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
17h
At first, it was my sister who sent help, but eventually, she asked for my assistance with things she couldn’t handle herself. Now, with the support of her siblings, who are also seniors, we’ve managed to mobilize, and at least things are progressing elsewhere.
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@kareng (83074)
• United States
11h
@rsa101 That is good and also that everyone is pitching in. That is what counts.
17h
it is good you are taking care of her
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
15h
Indirectly, I always take care in whatever way I can.
@aninditasen (18306)
• Raurkela, India
13h
The old in India are facing the same problem. Lot of us are staying alone while our children are working in some other city or country.
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
13h
It’s good for those who have children to rely on. My aunt lived alone, so now she depends on us, her nieces and nephews. Her siblings are also elderly and unable to accommodate her, but one of them took the initiative to find ways to care for their sister.
@Wrexxo (6042)
22h
I hope she gets the care that she needs. And you are right, home care cost is high..even in Nigeria. Praying for her
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@rsa101 (41785)
• Philippines
17h
Thanks, and culturally we don’t favor sending our seniors to a facility to spend their days with strangers. At least with this new arrangement, she’s going to family where she truly belongs. Spending her final stage of life with loved ones is the right thing to do.
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@RasmaSandra (100196)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
7h
I will put her in my prayers and hope you can manage for her,
@JudyEv (386923)
• Rockingham, Australia
3h
Your aunt is very lucky to have family willing to take her in and support her. Kudos to you all.
@Neil43 (4573)
13h
Well, that is the sad reality. I am so sorry to hear this about your aunt.
6h
Home care costs are high here as well It can cost as much as £1500 per week on a care home for a single person People have to sell houses to cover the cost of care