You Can Be Pretty Without Being Skinny

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People sometimes say the most interesting things without realizing some of the biases in what they’re saying I saw a cousin of mine about 10 or 15 years ago that I hadn’t seen in probably 10 or 15 years or more. The very first words out of his mouth to me were, “What happened to you? You used to be pretty.” Wasn’t that a terrible thing for him to say to me? Very hurtful very unnecessary. One of my friends has a 50 year-old daughter and she showed me a picture of her the other day from when she was probably in her 20s. My friend said, ”that’s when she used to be skinny and pretty.” What? Doesn’t my friend still think her daughter is pretty? Yesterday, a different friend showed me a picture of her youngest daughter who is in her late 40s. It was a bad photo so I couldn’t make out anything at all and I’ve only met her daughter once so I wouldn’t have recognized her anyway. But the mother said. “She’s so skinny now she finally looks good.” so her own mother didn’t think she looked OK at a heavier weight.? I mean, I get a mother’s concern about her daughter, being healthy, and how being overweight contributes a lot of health problems but each of these two mothers seem to be overly concerned about their daughter’s appearances and putting a very high value on being skinny.