MyLotters Told Me That My "Friends" Were Not My Friends

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MyLotters were right. I've reflected back on interactions with my "friends" and they aren't really friends. Despite the number of years of knowing each other, they're still really just acquaintances. And not very nice acquaintances at that. One of the card-playing girls, "L" just had neuropsych testing because her family was telling her she was forgetting things. I think she's 68. She was talking about the test and going on and on and on about how she is forgetting things. Well, for one thing, and this is going to sound mean, but she really always has been a bit of a ditz. But here's the thing that bothers me: I've been dealing with Mild Cognitive Impairment and signs of dementia since 2017 and not once has "L" or the other girls ever asked, "How are you doing?" or "I'm so sorry that's happening to you." But now because it's happening to "L" it's a big deal and she's acting like she's the expert on it. Then I reflected on the friend that I've been traveling with for 17 years. Do you know that she's never called me just to chat? She's never asked me how I'm feeling. She didn't send me a card when my mom died. She never asks what I'm interested in or doing. A couple of times when I've mentioned a malady she'll just roll her eyes. I'm a little slow in catching the hint, but she's not a warm fuzzy nice person. She's also critical. I've noticed that she'll criticize me over something trivial but I've never seen her criticize the other card girls or the Texas girls. Does that mean I'm going to dump that travel friend? No. But I'm going to be more aware of just exactly who she is. Oh, and guess what? It's a long story about WHY I sent a package to the annoying Texas girls, but I sent them something Halloween-related and went ahead and included an early Christmas present. I sent the box to the girl in Houston who took the other girl's presents to Austin two weekends ago. The Houston girl said thank you. I have never heard from the Austin girl. I have mailed birthday cards and Christmas cards to the Austin girl for 8 years and never once gotten a text acknowledging them or thanking me. So now I know what kind of girl she is. So, thank you my dear MyLotters for looking out for me and pointing this out to me so that I wouldn't remain naive. I need warm fuzzy friends. I'm a warm fuzzy person.