To all the parents :You have a 6 to 9 month baby the wind is blowing and you are

United States
December 3, 2006 5:02pm CST
pushing your baby you have on a hat and a coat your baby has a thin blanket ove him no shoes is this right? I know I would dress my baby before I dress myself. Why do parents do this to their children do they kmow their children get cold? I remember when my daugther was about 5 and a little girl had no shoes or a jacket on this baby was cold and shivering I asked my daughter if it was ok to give the little girl her jacket she said yes took the jacket off and gave it to her. I was very proud of my daugther and she is still the same way today always giving something to others,don't worry she had two other coats at home and thats where we were headed when we saw the little girl
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• United States
3 Dec 06
i work in a daycare and i see this kind of thing everyday .. there is nothing we can do about it but sit back and hold back all the thoughts running in our heads.. babies should always have shoes on outside .. if their feet are warm then the rest of the body stays warm .. same thing with the head.. if thats warm then the rest of the body stays warm .. some people just dont get it and shouldnt have children ..
• United States
3 Dec 06
I agree
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• Australia
4 Dec 06
So if I dress my baby in shoes and socks and a hat, nothing else... the baby will be warm????? *eye roll*
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@vickilee (136)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I see things like this, too, and makes me furious. I saw a woman about a month ago standing in the rain talking to someone in the bank parking lot. She had a coat on, her baby had one of those thin nighties on. Baby was soaked, and mom just kept jabbering on...ugh! Some people really ought not to have kids!
• Australia
4 Dec 06
That one is wrong! I'm not completely heartless.... No way would I do that!
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@Meljep (1668)
• United States
4 Dec 06
Good for you teaching her how to give to others who are less fortunate. We can only hope that lack of money to clothe the little baby was the problem and not lack of sense.
• United States
4 Dec 06
That has always bothered me too. I have always dressed my girls really warm, and i'm the one going without a coat
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• United States
4 Dec 06
I was always the parent that over dressed my infant. But I have seen people do this so many times. My hubby won't let me say anything because it is none of my business.
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• United States
4 Dec 06
Actually, I saw something worse than that. I was walking one day, and it was snowy, cold, about 6 degrees outside, and a young mom, probably 16 was walking with her baby probably a 1-2 month old baby in the stroller...mom had on a huge coat and hat and thick pants, and baby had on only a onesie and a thin blanket. The mom then went to the store down the street which is very small, only room for 1-2 ppl, and she went inside the store and left baby in the stroller, outside the store! I was infuriated! I brought the baby one of my daughters snowsuits and I dressed the baby in the snowsuit and put a bigger blanket on it, all before mom even thought to look out to check on baby!!! I just can't imagine doing that to my child!
@GardenGerty (128778)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I would probably have reported to child protective services--that child was just sitting there waiting to become a victim. She is lucky YOU are the one who saw the child. I do not think all of these parents are unteachable, but I do think that our society is not set up to nurture young mothers and to provide role models for them. Yes, if I had a coat and my child did not, the coat would go on my child. One fall, when my husband was in the process of changing jobs and weather got cold before the money came in, I made a fake fur cape out of fabric scraps I had found--my 2 year old loved it, thought it was a princess coat. We do not teach or model resourcefullness, charity, or common sense nearly enough. All the people who speak of daycare and early childhood learning centers, I have been there. When I had home daycare I bought all the mittens, gloves, hats and scarves I saw at yardsales. No child left for school without, even if I replaced them six times in the winter. I remembered having cold hands, because my family did not have resources, and some of my daycare families were the same.If I could make up for it, I did, it cost me next to nothing. Moms are often too frazzled to keep up with the details and kids are too scattered to learn. I also worked in early childhood educational environment, and we provided hat and gloves for every child to have at school, labelled with their name, washed frequently, and stored safely. We kept loaner coats, changes of clothes, fresh underwear, socks and shoes.
@birthlady (5612)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I see this too, parents all cozy for the cold weather, and babies in strollers without shoes, hat, jacket. It makes me sad...I'm proud of your daughter, too! She cares about other people, and this is a precious quality! Good job, mom!
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
no parents in sanity will let their children to shiver in cold.
@prncesssly (1374)
• United States
4 Dec 06
I don't understand why parents do this either, but I have seen it happen. I mean I guess later on in life it might make the children less succeptable to colds or whatnot because they're used to it, but i really don't even know if that's true! I don't think I could ever do that to my child, though.
@hm1177 (1223)
4 Dec 06
its the same when you see mothers pushing their babies in the pram when its raining and they don't have a raincover over them but the mums have an umberella!
• United States
4 Dec 06
well, i would never take my boy out with no jacket if its cold. crazyness. he alwsy has a hat and jacket on when its cold.. as for shoes, i have socks on him always but not always shoes cuz he will just take them off anyways. i do have little slip on boots i'll use sometimes though. your daughter is sweet. awww
• United States
4 Dec 06
I really can not believe some people are so mean to their children. I always make sure that my children are dressed for the seaon. When they were that age they always had shoes and socks on and a snow like suit on. And a blanket on top of that. As some one else said I always dress my children before I dress myself.
@emarie (5447)
• United States
4 Dec 06
i've never done things like that when they were that young...yes i did leave my kid bare foot alot because they would kick their socks or booties off. but when they were old enough for shoes, those went on them. i always over dressed my kids when they were babies...layers upon layers...but now i can't get that much layers on them, but if they were cold i would do my best to warm them up, i also have givin my jacket to them so they would stay warm. some parents are just new to it and don't pay attention that much. sometimes you can't really blame them, they don't know...but then there are those few who are just lazy. i couldn't stand to see my baby shivering, not even now.
• United States
4 Dec 06
I was a grocery clerk for several years, I would keep baby socks in my apron and when babies came through my checkstand I would put them on the baby, smile and say my feet are cold so your babies must be. Usually they would reply with a idiotic look and no actual idea that what they were doing was wrong. I believe your daughter is a wonderful person because that is what you taught her. Good for you and for all of us willing to help.
@pravibabu (135)
• India
4 Dec 06
YOU AND YOUR DAUGHTER ARE SO KIND ENOUGH AND GENEROUS. KEEP IT UP.
@rainbow (6762)
4 Dec 06
You see things the way I do - I put my boys first even giving my coat for over the 7 year old legs when perching on the end of the buggy if he's cold. I just saw a bad one, Daddy had his coat done up carrying the baby about 6 months old in a sleepsuit over his shoulder doing the school run, his little boy was very pale, half asleep and sucking his dummy, we're been forcast 80 mile per hour winds, I said "Not even a blanket?" quite loudly but he just looked through me. Your daughter is going to grow up with some beautiful values - well done!!
• United States
4 Dec 06
I make sure my child is warm, but babies do not need shoes. I think a kid only needs shoes if they are walking already. on a cold day I put my child in a warm footed sleeper, a coat (unless we are in the car), a hat, and one light weight blanket, and one warmer blanket. If it is very cold out I wouldn't be out pushing my child in a stroller. I would have her tight to my body with a wrap. You have to remember that babies can over heat very easily. I HAVE seen people out and they are bundled and the baby is in a onesie or diaper and shirt, thats wrong!
@jaiags (28)
• India
4 Dec 06
And we will all be looking for that shot of the wind blowing. ... where you have loving parents. You don't have your stereotypical neglectful parents ... 6-9-baby.jpg A lot of people will tell you that one reason you can't have a baby in a small apartment is that you won't be able to fit all the baby stuff. ...
4 Dec 06
That really gets to me too. The hot weather is the same, I have seen parents sitting in the shade with a hat on when the baby is in a pushchair in the scorching sun with no obvious protection. I would always dress a child as I would myself, probably more even because they are so small and fragile! I think it's great that your daughter did that, I wish there were more people in the world who thought like you and her!
@Ambur25 (1007)
• United States
4 Dec 06
This is one of my biggest pet peeves. Parents that take better care of themselves than they do their children. One of the best examples I have of this... when I worked in the office of a local grocery store in town, I would always see this family come in. The mother was well dressed. She had the most expensive clothes, shoes, always had her hair perfectly styled, make-up, the whole nine yards. Her daughter, however, had an ugly pair of dirty shoes with holes in them, her hair looked like it had been caught in the ceiling fan minutes before, and her little face was dirty. There were holes in her jeans and her shirt was way too big for her. Children can't dress themselves. (Depending on their age) But they definately don't care if their clothes look good or not. It's up to US, as parents, to keep our children presentable -- especially keeping them warm, safe, happy and healthy.