17 Sep 06
i dont think its the marrying the one you love that is the problem personally i think its keeping the love alive,,marriages are very hard work and if two people go into it and think they do not need to 'try' anymore,it is doomed to failure,hopefully you marry someone you really know and can find ways to keep love there but sometimes people marry and expect it all to just be alright after,,it never works like that,you have to want to overcome tough patches,you have to want that other person by your side even when they irk you so much it can feel like you want to strangle them,,these feelings are normal but you should still have that basis of love to give you the certainty these tough times will pass and sooner or later you and they will come through it together and get back on track,,if we go into marriage thinking it will all be a bed of roses we WILL be disappointed.given all the programs on tv that condone giving in just because they have done something minor,,sold your shoes,forgot your birthday,shouted at your mother,,is it any wonder people see just leaving as an completely normal option,,we all sit and think,'isnt it sweet that old couple still holds hands',,how do people think they got that way? they struggled,they fought,they may even have hated their spouse at some point but as i see it ,,if you want to be that couple you had better choose someone you actually see turning into that older woman,because one day you will be that old man and if you want love that lasts,know who you marry.
• United States
17 Sep 06
Loved? You dont love that person now? saying loved is implying that you once had love for them. But anyways, marriages dont fail on there own, marriages fail because the couple have given up on eachother, marriage takes time and effort to make things work, you need trust, honesty, love and communication.
• Cupertino, California
17 Sep 06
You should love the person you marry as well as have a strong relationship and open communication. Many people who are in love get married too soon and tht is why their marriage fails. If you aren't ready for marriage you shouldn't do so, regardless of how in love you are.