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@gkumar (227)
India
December 6, 2006 1:06pm CST
Guys and Girls I want you to answer this If you love someone and are not sure whether the other person loves you or not will you go and tell the person about your feelings? My Opinion: I don't think I will go and say " I love You " in such a situation because if she does not love me, she will refuse and after that I will lose her as a friend too because I think there is a wall between friendship and love and once someone crosses this wall and moves from friendship to love if he is rejected that side it is impossible for him/her to come back to the friendship side.
15 responses
• New Delhi, India
7 Dec 06
Life with thorn without proposal - This imitates life for a being confused when in love......
I think one should reveal the truth to whomever he or she loves because its unlikely that he or she will carry on the relationship of friendship in the same light as that being would have traveled the distance of life if they would have been just friends.....
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@avipraha (19)
• Czech Republic
7 Dec 06
To be honest the most important thing in any relationship is honesty and if you can't be honest with a friend the friendship can't be that solid.
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@TheDevil (840)
• India
7 Dec 06
Hey...If I wAS in your place...i wouldm't dare to go and tell him.....I am a frank person...but i won't have the guts to go and tell him......and moreover the feeling of rejection....coz if i love that person and if that idiot says no......i'll be so heartbroken....so rather shut up ...but thn i may just stay around him and try to give him hints..and if he is smart enough he should pick it up or else just try to tell my heart he wasn't the guy to be......
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• Malaysia
7 Dec 06
Actually I have been there myself... My best friend... It took alot of time to decide what to do but in the end I decided that all the odds were against it and I let it go. Maybe I will look back in regret one day but for now I think I made the right choice. It is rare to find precious friends but lovers come and go in life. At least I believe so. In fact, this may be hard to believe, but I helped him hook up with this fantastic girl we both knew and they hit it off (just like I knew they would) and I am happy to say that they are both very happy and I like to think I had a hand in it. I made them both promise to make sure I attend their wedding and let me make a toast to them (hehe~) Sure sometimes I think about it and it hurts like hell but other times I feel blessed to have him in my life and I know someone made for me will one day be more than just 'in' my life but a 'part' of it. Somethings are better left unssaid I think... Why throw away a lifetime of friendship if you know for sure nothing will come of acknowledging brief feelings of romance?
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@Bhutto (742)
• India
7 Dec 06
As far as i am concerned i think you should let her or know that you love him or her,in case he or she doesn't love you will know early and you can start thinking about it and take things beyond.
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• Philippines
7 Dec 06
How would you know that she loves you if you're not gonna say that you love her? What if she's also hesitant to say that she loves you because she's also afraid of losing you as her friend. Who's going to make the first move then? Come to think of it.
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@gkumar (227)
• India
7 Dec 06
hmm you are right
• Australia
7 Dec 06
There is a girl at work that i like. I have started chatting to her and hanging out with her as much as possible. I want to be her friend at first and see what happens. If i think i have a chance with her, then i will tell her how i feel. I just hope no matter what happens, we can stay friends because she is awesome
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@gkumar (227)
• India
7 Dec 06
hey definitely you guyz will remain friends. My best wishes for you. i too need your wishes dude
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
6 Dec 06
If you care about the person you will tell your true feelings.Personally I am a straight up person.I like to keep it real.I do not want to lead nobody on because I dont want them doing that to me.
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@gkumar (227)
• India
7 Dec 06
I do care about her but the thing is don't want to lose her
• United States
6 Dec 06
yes i would tell my feelings so i dont have to hide them maybe they feel the same way and are afraid to say anything so i would what is the worste that can happen?they reject you oh well life goes on.
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• Philippines
6 Dec 06
yeah right i agree with you. life goes on. it better to lose someone and move on than to be on the safe side of not telling the truth then be stuck in the pain.
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• Philippines
6 Dec 06
to be honest, i will tell if i love someone. "broken by the unspoken words" this phrase has always been in my mind since the day i choose no to tell someone what i really feel about him and up until now it hunts me... facing your feeling with a friend means alot of risk whether you gain or you lose. it better to tell it now than to regret later, and regret for me is the most excruciating feelings i will ever have.
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@gkumar (227)
• India
7 Dec 06
I agree with you but the thing is I might lose her once I tell her my feelings and I don't want to end my friendship with her because I really cherish the moments I spend with her
• India
7 Dec 06
I think i too would take the same decision like u.As u said once we propose our friend and if he/she rejected it we can't come back to our friendship again..
@lissaj (532)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I think yes, you should tell her how you feel. If she doesn't feel the same way, then you will at least know now, and not later down the road. She doesn't have to feel the same way, but at least she will know how you feel. As long as you aren't pressuring her to tell you she feels the same way, then you should be ok.
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• India
7 Dec 06
i will tell,so u must say ,go ahead
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@rms2727 (815)
• India
7 Dec 06
you're right you simply just can't go ahead and say I love you, so you must first find out how the other person feels about you, and also to find out what the other person expects in the guy or girl before declaring your love
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@harshiii (139)
• India
7 Dec 06
no i will not go n tell him..but will be wid him n make him feel special to give the cluee
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