Would you participate in a family party at your Sister's home if.....?
By juls2me2
@juls2me2 (2150)
United States
December 8, 2006 3:48am CST
My son and I witnessed my sister's man friend inappropriately kiss my nephew (15 years old) on the lips. I told my sister about it and faced authorities about it, but since my sister won't press charges (because she doesn't believe it happened) and the man denies it, nothing has happened to stop it from possibly happening again. Basically my sister is in denial about it. ....My sister expects me to participate in a family event with this man present as if nothing happened. Do you think I should be able to? I get sickened just looking at the guy and feel like I want to punch him right in the face if he even got near me or my boys. What are your thoughts....please share.
2 responses
@sherinek (3320)
• United States
11 Dec 06
No Juls, if I were you, I will never show my face there. This is what heppens nowadays. Most parents are ignorent. I of course cant imagine. Why your sis dont believe you I dont know. Once we went to my hubby's sister's place with my niece. She has told my brother that my sis-in-law's husband kissed her on the mouth. We were furious and my hubby stopped going their completely. We mustnt ignore things like this cos they will lead to more serious things.
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
13 Dec 06
thank you for responding! My mother wishes to be together with all of her children (me and all my siblings). I wish it was an easier situation, but I have no choice but to stay away if my sister insists on bringing this man to our family get together.
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
14 Dec 06
He's just a friend to her and her children. He makes it quite clear that he's basically there for her son....to mentor him or something like that. He's mentoring alright, but not the kind of mentor you'd want a young boy to like. Thank you for your advice and confirmation.
@desertdarlene (8911)
• United States
28 Dec 06
I know how much you want to spend time with the rest of your family, so this must be hard for you. I would feel very uncomfortable being there with your sis and her friend if I were you. I wouldn't know what to do. Sorry I can't counsel you on this.
@juls2me2 (2150)
• United States
28 Dec 06
It is extremely uncomfortable. I think the hardest part is accepting the fact that my own sister doesn't value Me as her sister. I'm just worse than someone off the street to her. When she's cordial it just seems so phony and dutiful for my mom's sake or for appearance sake, not sure. But its far from real. Thanks for responding.
