Large Tattoos on my daughter
By linda345
@linda345 (2661)
Canada
December 14, 2006 7:34pm CST
My 20 year old daughter just recently got 2 rather large tattoos. Actually one is not finshed. It is going to take 2 more sittings for it to be compeleted. The first one is her daughters name and it goes right across her back and is about 10 inches high. The other one goes right up her side ( it is a vine) and it is about 6 inches wide. I am afraid she is becoming a tattoo junkie. I have several tattoos I got when I was younger but they are small. I did have one on my wrist and she saw the angony I went through getting it removed through deabrasion and the scar it left. I tried to explain to her you have to consider how you are going to feel about these tattoos in 20 years from now. Also, what is she going to do if she has more kids? Help, how do I stop my daughter from becoming a tattoo junkie?
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@misskatonic (3723)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Bottom line? It's her body and she chooses what to do with it. You've explained the downsides of lots of large tatttoos. If she's not going to listen, there's nothing you can do. She's the one who decides what to do with her body and all you can do is support her. She obviously understands what it takes to remove a tattoo, and if she's still going to do it, it's her decision.
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@prncesssly (1373)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I agree with this. It is her body and she should be able to do whatever she wants with it. It's not like she's tattooing her face or anything... these are pretty much hidden so i think it's fine!
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@itsokrelax (733)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Well we could only judge if its a good idea or not if you post pics of the tattoo...with or without other pics of your daughter ;)
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
15 Dec 06
oh wow thats beautiful! she is 20 yrs old and that tat isnt the type that she'll regret I would think, I mean its not like getting some guys name done ya know....She's a grown woman now and has more than likely given it thought..I wouldnt worry about it really..I mean if she does become a "tattoo junkie" then so be it...maybe she loves body art and its her thing...nothign wrong with that IMO
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@Jade_Green (49)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
I agree with her. The tattoo is gorgeous. Take note, this is coming from someone who is afraid of getting tattoes on her body. If your daughter is going to be a tattoo junkie, then let her be... Well, she is an adult afterall..,
However, I must also agree with your point of view. Tattooes, I believe, could have some serious health hazards on your daughter's life. So, maybe you can tell her of the possible diseases she could have if she continues to have tattoes on her body. That could probably help her stop from getting anymore tattoes! =)
@braveheartpt (3037)
• Portugal
16 Dec 06
I think that after you explained that his body it´s not a paper where she can erase when she tires from the draw, she will realize that enough is enough and stop the tattoos.
@madmax2crazy (1569)
• United States
16 Dec 06
you can't...
she's a consenting adult, all you can do is be there for her and support her decision. Give her the benefit of your experience but do not try to stop her because you'll just drive a wedge between you two. All you can do is relate your experiences and hope she'll make the best decision for her, hey just because tattoos weren't for you doesn't mean they're not for her, I have 10 tattoos and I love them all. In fact I plan on getting 10 more, best thing you can do is sit down with her and talk, find out where she's going with them, make a plan rather than just having random ink thrown on... once you do this and help her envision the final product she'll decide when's enough...
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
15 Dec 06
at 20..it will be hard to explain to her that she shouldn't get outragous tatoos. i mean, its not BAD but if she can live with it and deal with all the things that come with it, then it is her choice. all you can do is share your thoughts and experiances and hope that maybe she tames herself down. you can't blame her, because you have tattoos yourself no matter how small they are, they're still tattoos. if she comfortable with what she gets then you should really let her be.
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@bodomgirl (1614)
• Italy
15 Dec 06
i have a big tatoo too and i love it..it is 1 year i have it and i am always happy to have done it..tattoo are good but it is not good to cover all the skin..i don't know how you can stop her..she is old enough to decide and wrong herself
@cizmapiele (349)
• Finland
15 Dec 06
Oh God I hope my kids will never go for tattoos !
I think is not beautiful, and also
there is no help from that eather
plus later as you mentioned the child growan up will regret about it...
@wyrdsister (584)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
I think parents might worry about their children getting tattoos at any age. My mom is still worried I'll become a tattoo junkie, and I only have one tattoo! And I waited until I was 29 years old to get it! I figure by that time I can decide what I want on my body. ;)
Everyone has different ideas of what is beautiful. If your daughter finds tattoos beautiful, then so be it. And remember, you have the right to say "no" if she asks you to come with her sometime and get one. ;)
~Wyrdsister
@ryan444 (207)
• United States
15 Dec 06
She is an adult now. You really don't have that much control over her. Share the pain that you have from your tattoes and maybe she will change her mind. However, she just might need to learn a lesson on her own. You could try and not give her an college tution unless she stops getting tattoes if she goes to college. That might work really well. Good luck
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@ProfSlughorn (93)
• France
15 Dec 06
I don't think there is a problem having a tatoo of her daughters name, but give it time and when she wants it taken off she'll wish that she never got it.
@Beautiful_Nightmare (1337)
•
15 Dec 06
I know what it's like really wanting something such as a tattoo and not thinking of the later effects but if she's happy I don't see a problem with it. You did say you had several and so she's obviously got the tattoo liking from yourself but as you say here's are alot bigger, You should talk to her and perhaps say she'll be covered in them if she carry's on getting them as big as she is doing. Actually ask her what she plans to do when she has another kid? get another tattoo? Maybe if you express your opinion she might be a bit more reluctant to getting such big tattoo's. It's her that's going to have to deal with the consequences if she decides she doesn't want them.
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@chiquita1977 (1706)
• United States
15 Dec 06
I really do not think you can do anything to stop your daughter at this point.alot of kids go threw this and they just have to be able to deal with them in 20 years.make sure she realises that.
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@Khokhonut (702)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Nothing you can do I think.
I have a 19 year old daughter and a 20 year old daughter and they each have one tatoo.
One large, one small.
I have heard that once you get one you keep wanting to get more.
(((((Mom)))))
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@Smolaru (842)
• Romania
15 Dec 06
well i'm 19 and i don't got a tatto........yet.Personely i prefer small tattos on girls like butterflyes and tribals and stuff on the waste at the back, but i don't like the one your daughter did but is her body you got to accept that an she has a limit i don't think she'll become a tatto junkie i got friend who got 3 kids and their names are the only tattoes he made
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