Secrets of a lasting marriage or relationship.

I would love to share LOL....I think that the biggest secret/trick to a lasting loving relationship is to throw out some of societies beliefs on what a relationship should be, trying to live the way others think you should is living for them not yourself and that IMO is a foolish thing to do...Also be open and honest WITH an openmind...you have to be willing to bend rather than be ridged..compromise is important...and accept each other completely, never think that you can change your mate and honestly never try to or want to really..

I would love to share the secrets of a lasting marriage. 1.) Spend private time together. Make a date at least once a week to do something as a couple. Take a walk, play a game of cards, see a movie or go to the zoo. Just spend time with just the two of you, and get to know each other all over again. 2) Spend time apart. Taking time for yourself to do the things that interest you will make you happier and more fulfilled, therefore making you easier to live with and more interesting to your spouse. 3) Be spontaneous. The detours you take in life can bring fun, excitement and adventure, and are easy to implement. For example, skip church once in a while, and sleep in. Going to the zoo, but see a beach on the way? Stop and take a romantic walk together. Try to do at least one spontaneous activity together per week, and you'll be amazed at the new life your marriage has. 4) Have a journal in a prominent place. Write each other love notes about anything, including what you love about each other, memories of your first date, or a thank-you for completed chores or tasks. 5) Don't fight in front of other people. It embarrasses you both and undermines your relationship. It also may prevent you from being completely honest. If issues come up while company is present, either go into a separate room to talk, or agree to discuss the issues later. 6) Touch. Remember in the early stages of your relationship when you couldn't keep your hands off of one another? Do that again, and marvel at how good it feels. 7) Listen. Talk to one another about everything and nothing. Ask about your spouse's day, and listen to the answers. Ask how your spouse feels, and tell him/her how you feel. Respect each other's comments. Make sure you understand what is being said by clarifying statements. 8) Don't insult or make fun of your spouse's relatives or friends. Even if it's just in fun, these comments can hurt your spouse and your relationship. 9) Don't go to bed angry. Although there may be times when sleep is more important than making up, try to go to bed on a good note by saying something like, "I'm still angry about this issue, but I'm tired and want to go to sleep. I'd like to talk about this later. I still love you. I will always love you, and I'm glad we are married." 10) Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt. For example, if he is late getting home, assume that he is stuck in traffic and cannot get to a phone, not that he is merely being inconsiderate. 11) Remember the big picture. If your spouse irritates you, think, "Is this going to matter in a few hours? Do I really want to make a major issue out of this, or is this something I can live with?" Having a great marriage takes work from beginning to end. When the effort ends, the marriage might also. However, by following the above steps, the marriage has a much greater chance of success.

Every relationship is unique but the fundamentals of trust, respect, support and of course love need to be present and need to be able to change in order for a marriage to grow and deepen. A successful partnership is not divinely given. You do not become a good wife or husband because you are married, just as in the same way you do not become a first rate driver when you pass your test. We have fallen into an age where compromise and give-and-take are sometimes seen as a weakness. It is not. I should also add that my wife still moves me in ways that surprise and delight. That feeling in the pit of your stomach when you are excited, thrilled and content to be in someone's presence should always be there and I am fortunate to say that with my wife, that buzz is still gnawing away.

i only had 1 relationship that lasted for a couple of years. most of the relationship iv been through happens quite so short. so let me tell you my secret to relationships that dont last ( so that you could reverse it.) 1. prioritize your friends 2. go out as much as you could 3. stay busy with school/work 4. dont spend so much time with the person 5. be as loud as you could and the most important one do not think that the relationship would last LOL!!!

it lies in two words "TRUST" & "MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING" if anything else please reply

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you." We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

I feel that you need love, trust and respect to help maintain a healthy relationship. I feel that Ive been pushed aside for the last 7 months or so by my husband. He had a vasectomy in May and shut me out. I wasnt to know about appointments, results, how the surgery went nothing....He said I was a very unsupportive person because I wanted to be there for him considering we were doing this together and made the decision together...He was there when our children were born. And thats a pretty private, intimate moment is it not. Any way I feel that hes been very disrespectful to me eversince. So that one thing going wrong can really change a relationship. Respect others please!

well i think of course you need to love and respect your partners, communication is important also, make sure u have time for her and of corse honesty also... *__*

Love, honour respect, loyalty, being best friends, open communication, always remind the other person of your feelings

I would say, the most important thing of a successfull relationship is feeling for each other (love) and trust.

I think things that can contribute to a lasting realationship depends on the trust and love. A relationship will be promising if a couple has respect and impeccable trust to each other. They must accept each other for what they really are and should have unconditional love.

I think the secret of marriage or any relationship is the trust between the person involved.If their is trust between individuals then they can weather any storm and can successfully live their life with love and happiness.

TRansparency plays an important role in a relationship. Sincerity takes another pace and love makes them all. When you want to last your relationship, learn about how to manage teamwork.

hONESTY and TRUST is one of the best highlight of a relationship. If you have this one, you will be happy

iam still single so cannot comment on this topic.

I believe, the secret of long relationship is, when both partners are not only lovers but friends also. They should have some interests in common. Then they have something else to talk about than just their everyday life. To have the same (or similar) views about life, family, and rising children, and the same values makes it also easier to build a lasting relationship. And both partners should respecting themselves, and each other, and tolerate each others little faults (they can be very annoying sometimes but no one of us is perfect!).

THE MAIN SECRET IS LOVE AND SUFFERING FOR PARTNER

I think that it is just using common sence, don't lie-be honest. Be truthful, caring, loving, respectful to them, and alway there. Never put anyone but God above them. Be devoted to them and only them.

keep love aflame and practice the art of understanding. willingness to forgive and forget. The list can be endless, but these two are good enough for me. I've been married for 35 yrs.

i guess be open to each other, stop nagging, if you have any problems with your partner try to talk and dont sort to "ill get back to you". Be a friend - your relationship will last more.