"I just need a little space"

Philippines
December 20, 2006 6:35am CST
When your girlfriend or boyfriend tells you this statement, is it just a softer way of saying I want to break up with you? Please share your thoughts with us regarding this.
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48 responses
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
20 Dec 06
Sometimes people just need some space to get some perspective on what they want out of life..:)
@jep_toyo (1606)
• Philippines
11 Jan 07
yes i agree. when someone told you this line it could be either they really need some space or just want to think how he/she can ditch you - lol. It doesnt mean that he/she is not in love with you anymore but that person might just need some space to think things out.
@carmat (2849)
• Canada
26 Jan 07
I wouldnt say thats necessarily true Im married and sometimes need my space but I dont mean separating from each other. I need my own time to relax, do my own things. I dont feel its a healthy relationship to always be in the others face.
@supersach (1523)
• India
20 Jan 07
Yes, most of the time when someone says that to you, it means that they want to break up but not necessarily. It could also be that he/she is trying to rethink about the relationship, as to where it stands and how far it can go and is it worth contimuing.
@ganda11 (319)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
it means he/she want to get out of the relationship but doesn't want to hurt you. so just read between the lines.
@ms_fery (251)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
for me yes, especially when you do nothing to make her say that, that's definitely the sign. but if you have a fight before she said it maybe it just an outburst to make the pain less.
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
For me it depends, sometimes they used that line to break up and sometimes they just really need to be alone and think about everything by themselves only.
@mtdewgurl74 (18151)
• United States
29 Dec 06
No sometimes htey mean exactly what they are saying. They need a little space we all do ocassionally when we are feeling overwhelmed. I think the best thing is to give that breather or they will leave and break up with you. But sometimes a nice person may tell you that they need space and then break it off. Its when they say "lets see other people" is what you have to worry about the most.
• India
10 Jan 07
i think yes, he or she wants to break up, we need to understand and work on that to brake or make
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
19 Jan 07
I've told my guy friend that,but i did not mean we were on the verge of breaking up.I just needed some me time.He was IN THE wAY!! Every minute,every second so i needed some space because i was getting tired of him.He gave me that space but took it the wrong way.I didnt mean any harm.We are still together but yet still having issues
@playgirl (1359)
• Philippines
19 Jan 07
though it said in a softer way still it is a big impact in heart. it is the another words of breaking up. it is very painful.
@shana123 (2095)
• India
19 Jan 07
hey madonna , the thought which came to my mind when i read this discussions topic was ,may be the girl friend or boyfriend is insisting their beloved(lover) to intimate them that they should have little consideration or thinking and caring for them(girl friend or boyfriend) even in their busy schedule!!! but i dont get your different way approach saying that they need to break up with them is that so??
• Germany
19 Jan 07
No I dont agree. This means that there is something not going smoothly. If one can solve the issue then its good. This may lead to ultimate breakup but only if one does not understand the problem.
@sharksfin (1091)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
Usually, people say this statement to mean "I want to break up with you". This is because it is the most convenient thing to say. For them at least. People would rather avoid having to explain or to argue. So, they give alibis. It could be because they don't like confrontations. In truth, it is much more hard for them to handle having to say goodbye than the one receiving it. So, to make it a lil easier, they just say, "I need some space". No person wants to hurt anyone. So, they take the easier way. Some say and really mean it. They just really need space to think things over. But, they'd usually end up realising they don't want to be with their partners anymore. A few will realise they want to stay. The question is, how will you know if someone means to say, "I need space"? One way is to recall how they've been treating you the past weeks or days. If you can see significant changes in the way they treat you, then there must be something wrong. They could really mean "goodbye". That's the most easy way of telling.
• India
19 Jan 07
I wont be able hear but i do request to her to be in faith with me and never hope that i will forget you
@kfg20012003 (1037)
• India
29 Dec 06
i like a take it easy policy,many persons will enter in our life and only a few get place in our heart
@paule4129 (968)
• United States
29 Dec 06
can you say bye bye and take all the space you need
• United States
29 Dec 06
I don't think that they mean that they want to break up with you. It could just mean that they feel that you are smoothering them and that you guys should do something seperately. LIke not going out together all the time. She go out with her girls and you go out with the guys. She may need to think about where the relationship is headed and if she is ready to go to the next level or not.
@venshida (4836)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Generally, its a way to break up with you. There are problems that they might not want to discuss.
• United States
29 Dec 06
yes I do believe it is a way of breaking up with someone. Its a very sad way and makes the other person look like a coward.You can only wish that people can be up front with people all the time instead of beating around the bush!
@gigarange (1165)
• United States
29 Dec 06
Sometimes but not all the time. Maybe the gf or bf has a problem she/he needs to think about. It could be between you and her/him or problems with her/his family or life. If he/say says that, just give it to him/her