Teen Pregnancy

United States
December 21, 2006 12:22pm CST
I am pregnant and I do not want an abortion. But I think my mother might want me to get one, I know that she can't make me get one but I dont think I could stay in the same house with her while I'm pregnant. What are the laws in Texas on the legal age to move out? I went to the police station but I only asked what the age was to move out period, I didnt say that I was pregnant. They told me it was 17 if I stay in school but I asked a criminal justice teacher at my school and he said the age was 17 only if I had parental consent to move out which I know I will never get. Also can my parents keep me away from they baby's father while I'm pregnant? I am only 16.
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97 responses
• India
21 Dec 06
hey pal the right way to deal with the problem is not to move out. but to talk it out with your parents/.. if they know that you are pregnant then there's a great chance for you to marry the guy who made you pregnant .. but please do not think of stepping out. because its not only your life that is at stake but also your baby's. so think and act accordingly ..
@Pigglies (9336)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I wouldn't rush to marriage. She's still very young and probably not sure that's what she wants for the rest of her life. Just that she wants this baby. I agree though, talk to your parents. My parents always said they'd kick me out for being pregnant, but later I asked them and they said they wouldn't make me get an abortion, but would support it if I wanted one. If I'd have a job and take care of the baby, they wouldn't have objected. So you never know. Try first. They probably love you enough to see past this, even if not immediately.
@calico79 (173)
• United States
21 Dec 06
Do not get an abortion no matter what your parents want you to do. It is YOUR baby and you should fight for it. You are to protect that child because you are going to be it's mother regardless of whether you are ready or not. I think if you can manage, talk to your mom. Try to stick it out. If your parents are willing to let you stay there when you have your child then I would take advantage of that, (not in a bad way). Get a job if you dont have one and finish school. At least you wont have to worry about a roof over your head. Just have faith and take care of the baby.
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@kakuemmom (862)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
The only advise i can give you is to talk to your parents tell them everything that is going on. The can't make you get an abortion that is your choice. If you have a older person that you could talk to a minister, a concilor and older family member or friend that you could go to they might be able to talk to your parents with you. Believe me if you are only 16 and pregnant you don't want to leave home you are going to need your mother more now than you have in years. I hope all works out for you.
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
21 Dec 06
I say talk to your parents. if they dont know, tell them. you need to make sure your seeing a doctor during your pregnancy. so everyone can be for sure that you and the baby are ok. if your scared to let them know, talk to your school councilor and get some advice from them and maybe if your really scared you could set up something where your mom comes to the school and you and the councilor tell her together. if you dont want to abort the baby, dont! I agree with u 100% on that. adoption is a way better choice if u decide not to keep him/her. just what ever you do, make sure u get treatment. you never know, ur mom might be mad but telling her could be the best thing. maybe she will help you out more than u think.. I wish u the best and feel free to contact me.. I can h elp u with finding places for u to get help if u need. I am a mom of 3 and will be glad to offer any help I can. ~Jenn
• United States
21 Dec 06
Through a childs eyes you will see the world - a child sees everything around it.
I know that you are going through a difficult time right now. I was sixteen when I had my first child. I got lucky because my mom supported me all the way through it. My dad on the other had didn't realy approve but said that it was my decision. On September 1, 2001 his grandaughter was born and I sware that he never looked so happy in my entire life. Don't let anyone treat you like an outsider because of it. I can tell you from experience that it will make you grow up faster and you will no longer have any time with your friends. You will feel sad alot and sometimes you will feel like you are going insane. This is your decision on rather or not you think that you should keep this child. If you deciede against it then you should consider adoption for the childs sake, there are plenty of agencies out there that will let you do an open adoption so that you will be able to still see the child. Good luck to you.
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@rice5899 (193)
• United States
21 Dec 06
this is a hard thing to really respond, as not sure if anyone here really can give you the right answer. I think the best thing is to talk it over with your parents, yes unfortunately there are many teen mothers out there that have parents that have completely disowned them over this and I think that is so sad. But work things out with them, see what type of middle ground you can come on
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• India
22 Dec 06
if you are teen pregnancy , it is your mistak it the only one way to go dactor for abortion , because it is no good for your health ,so pls hurryup
• United States
22 Dec 06
what an ignorant response. People like you should be strung up and hog tied. Please do the world a favor and keep your mouth shut.
• United States
22 Dec 06
I was a teen and pregnant with 2 of my kids and I was fine. Abortion is not the answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
• India
22 Dec 06
What to talk..it show's your culture.sorry i don't want to talk to you
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
You should respect everyone's cultures man. If you're going to disrespect this young lady, why the hell did you bother writing in her thread for? Just to get earnings?
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
you are too young to move out, and where are you going to get money when you give birth? where are you going to get money for food for the two of you? just stay with your parents and do not let them take the baby from you. you cannot be forced if you dont want to. just be firm with your decision but do not leave your family.
• United States
22 Dec 06
there are plent of state funded programs that help young mothers get a foothold. even medical assistance will cover labor costs.
• United States
22 Dec 06
Yeah, they cannot make you have an abortion. Thats your body and you can do whatever you want with it. But, as long as your under their roof, you have to abide by their laws. So, if they want you to get an abortion and you dont they have the right to kick you out of the house..
• United States
22 Dec 06
Actually,not in Texas they don't. They are responsible for her until she turns 18 or is declared of majority. Emancipation might not be a half bad idea.
@pammitch (465)
• Canada
21 Dec 06
If you think you are capible of being a loving mother and really caring for your child and you can find the right resources (there must be some young mothers support groups in Texas) than keep the baby and you'll have to stay with your mother and deal with the consequences of your actions; However, if you are not willing to grow up and be an adult right this minute and you think you cannot deal with taking on the responsibilities of having a child or you will not be able to provide a safe environment for your child than please have an abortion. The last thing this world needs is another screwed up child.
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
22 Dec 06
"please have an abortion"?? How about, give your baby to a loving couple who can't have children of their own and want to adopt a baby?? I think that is a much better solution, and it is not murder!
• United States
21 Dec 06
im not sure what the legal age is in texas you can ask a lawyer they will give you a free advise on this matter.and your mother cannot force you to get a abortion.you are doing the right thing by not getting a abortion i believe abortion is murder.no,your parents cannot keep you away from the baby's father their is no law that i know of unless he is over 18 then they could press charges.if i was your mom i would not make you get a abortion i would be there for you and support you through your decision after all that is what a parents job is to stand by their kids no matter what.well good luck with your mom.and take care of yourself and your unborn baby and do not stress its not good for the baby.
• India
21 Dec 06
Agree,,,How a person can even think of Murder,,,Well thts...AborTion....
• United States
23 Dec 06
Well,I am a mom and this very situation happened 17 yrs ago to my daughter. I am ashamed to say that my inital reaction was one of throwing a fit. I think I cried for a week. I really cannot say how long it took me to get over the shock but befor you knew it I was out shopping and buying things for that baby. I was very excited! Talk to your mom and don't sell her short. She loves you and wants only what is best for you.
@nathanz (255)
• India
22 Dec 06
hu fuced u.....
@siva12 (800)
• India
22 Dec 06
It is very bad to be pregnent at an age of 16. Take care about yourself.
@PRASENJIT (137)
• India
22 Dec 06
It should not happen at this age.So be very careful.
• India
22 Dec 06
hey i understand your feelings that you dont want any abortion but you should go to a doctor fro suggestions and they will tell you not to have kid as its not good to have kid at such a age both for mom and the child.
• United States
22 Dec 06
I personally do not agree with abortion. I hear it is an awful procedure for both mother, and of course for the baby who is killed. Pregnancy and childbirth are both wonderful experiences. However, for a child of 15/16, it would be very difficult to raise a baby. The statistics of women who develop severe depression after having an abortion are also very high. But then again, the stress of having a baby so young could also do that to you. I think you should have the baby. However, if you are planning on having it, then you are going to need to be very responsible, and the first step is to go to you mother and tell her what is going on, what you want to do, and how you are planning on having the child AND completing your education, because without a good education; it's going to be very hard to provide for your child.
@jo0911 (135)
• Philippines
22 Dec 06
Maybe you should take it to consideration that another life was given by God as an output of your pregnancy. I'm not the type of person that usually reads the bible but i believe that all of the things you see in this world are created by God with respect to the Divine Theory... meaning HE is the one who gave life to each of us living here... all i can say is that you should continue your pregnancy for the child you are bearing is not aware of what is happening outside the world... that's all
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
22 Dec 06
Your parents can never force you to have an abortion even if they want youto - it is up to you completely. are you really sure that that´s the way they would react. soemtime speople surprise you, maybe your mom will support you in whatever u decide