How do you make your children obey you.

How do you make your children obey you treat them kindly with love,and they will obey you,thatis all i should say

I started with my children very young. I told them my expectations and taught them that they were supposed to do the things I expected. I followed through with whatever consequences I'd set forth based on their behavior. They grew up knowing how to mind and respecting the fact that I was in control. It worked pretty well until they got to be teenagers, and then...Good Luck!

I think for a child to "obey" they first need to respect a parent. To get the respect you have to give them respect in return. I do not believe that hitting, caning, or spanking has ever solved anything. I am a single mother of 4 children, ages 9 to 16 and have not ever had to use this form of punishment. I have some amazing children; although I do punish my them if they cross a line that is not acceptable. They always know what that line is too, they know exactly what I expect of them and I know what they expect from me. Punishments that I give would be groundings (take away their right to go out and play for that day or take away their computer for a day). I then would go into details of why they were grounded with them. No matter which style of parenting you use, if you are constant in whatever it is you do, that is what will work.

I find the best way to get my kids to do what I ask, is to get close to them, crouch down to eye level, wait until they are looking in my eyes and tell them what I want in a calm voice. A good thing to remember is that children learn a lot about apropriate behavior from watching their parents. If you are assertive but pleasant when ensuring that tasks get carried out, you'll start to notice your kids behaving that way with others. If you have a specific problem where your child is not cooperating, why don't you share it, and I'll see if I (or others here) have some ideas. My children are 4 and 7, and I've managed to discipline them without using physical or shaming punishment.

:) Actually the other day I told my eight-year-old that when I say frog I expect her to jump, and when I say jump she's to ask how high. Truthfully though, I first and foremost don't ask more of my children then they are ready to handle developmentally. I also point out what I want from them in a firm, conversational tone first. They then know what to expect. After that, I allow one warning, and if it is not heeded they will lose what ever privilage is most relevant to that situation. Time-outs and revocation of privilages is very effective for me -- but then again, I teach them that everything but food, water, and shelter is a privilage I can take away (and even that's debatable, lol.) So when I do have those rare occasions I have to raise my voice . . . oh yes, watch 'em jump. :)

To make your children obey you, you need a lot of patience and tolerance. Beating them will only make matters worse. First of all understand that they are children who are naiive and need guidance. So when cautioning them do that gently in love so that they don't get any impression that you want to hurt them. By so doing, you get them closer to you and the wall of communication is broken. Then, they can love you more and feel comfortable to talk about their problems with you.

Firstly from the beginning you should make them to listen to you and to obey you. 1. Discipline is most important 2. As they grow, explain them why they have to listen to you. 3. Do not allow relatives and friends to discuss this in front of children. 4. Tell them everything you are doing for them.

We used to explain to our son why something was or was not acceptable and didn't allow anyone else to interfere if it was necessary to discipline him for not doing what he was told to do. We used to reward and punishment system, i.e. if he did his jobs (adjusted as he grew older but they were simple things like put away his toys and books) then he was praised but if he didn't, then we would withdraw a privilege. Sometimes children are too young to understand everything that you want them to do but it just means that you have to persist. And yes, I think if each of us was really honest, we would all admit that we yelled at the child/ren from time to time. :)