is this fair ?

@atulperx (735)
India
December 26, 2006 10:45pm CST
LAST month my friend gave birth to a baby girl and she also had one girl as her first child.Though i know that everybody in our society wishes for son but is it right to cry and not celebrating when u have a child.Why we only celebrate when we have boy why not make celebrations on girl birth also.I couldn't go there again i felt so sick and disgusted. What do you say about it......
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@luka_24 (102)
• Chile
27 Dec 06
I would have felt sick too...but it is already so hard to be a woman, that somehow this attitude doesn't surprise me. I've seen a lot of men saying only nasty things about we women, and a lot of discrimination around...If these people were only aware that God created us as equal, their beliefs would be different...I'm afraid that this newly-born girl will be brought up with the same "women-are-trash" idea in her mind, and there will be a lot of suffrering for her too. If you want to do something, you might try to talk with the mother of this child and convince her that, first, EVERY BABY IS A BLESSING, and that women are really valuable, important, intelligent, etc. You need to be very brave and persistent, because she was probably brain-washed, but you might get good results if you're patient enough. If you think this task is too much for you, I suggest you simply keep away from these people. Whatever your decision is, I wish you good luck!
@prasanta (1949)
• India
27 Dec 06
No obviously. The poor society members do not understand the simplest truth of the nature. If girls are not there, wherefrom will boys come in the next generation? The mother of the girl child should be proud of creating the avenue for perpetuation of the human race.
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@jennifer611 (2502)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I have 3 boys. to be honest, I did wish for a girl after my first son was born but God decided to give me a boy, whom I love just as much. Then the 3rd pregnancy I just knew it was a girl! nope, it was a boy. and now that he is here, what would I do without him? he is my everything, they all mean so much to me, I would go crazy without them. each is so special in their own way. I still would love to have a girl and if I do ever have any children again, I will love that child no matter what..whether it is a boy or a girl who cares! they are precious no matter what gender the are.
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• United States
27 Dec 06
I have 2 boys and a girl and my husband and I love all of them the same.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
thats gr8 that you don't fell any difference in girl and boy .everybody should be like you , you are gr8 parents thanx for reply
@clark16 (375)
• Philippines
27 Dec 06
Maybe, it depends upon parents. I gave birth to a baby boy last 5 months ago and I love him so much, eventhough I'm wishing a girl when I'm still preggy so that we can both share our interests in the future, I wanted to become a good mom to her, but, God gave me a boy and I love him the same how I want the girl... unlike my mother, she really hates girl and wanted boy, which made her happy when I gave birth to a boy... we might have different reasons why somebody becomes bias against gender.
• India
28 Dec 06
well let me tell u the only truth it is womens who deny this thing most of the time ,when they grow up.........i m unable to figure out why do they do this ....well in most of the cases this is thier inlaw mother it's really frustrating ..........i hope u wont' do this when u grew old................keep this in u'r mind...
• United States
28 Dec 06
I was overjoyed over having my son & may daughter. The only part of my daughters birth that made me sad was that she wasn't well enough to come home. She had to go immediately into surgery to save her life. I LOVE her, but I don't like the fact she has had to live in a hospital for 4 1/2 months now (since she was born). As a mother you are taught to care for your children, & when your baby requires surgery Mommy's hugs & kisses can't fix everything & your left with a feeling of not beiong the best mom b/c you can't fix everything for your baby.
@jackf501 (854)
• Malaysia
28 Dec 06
i feel sorry to you and your baby..what happend to her?
• India
27 Dec 06
U should not feel disgusting but U should advice ur friend that now there is no place where girls are in the next step to a guy. He should celebrate his/her baby's birthday and motivate others also...
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
You man i will motivate others and you can invite m to your babies birthday also thanx 4 reply
• India
27 Dec 06
i think no body hate baby girl nowadays but definately everybody have a interest of having at least one baby boy in their family.
@runsgame (2032)
• India
28 Dec 06
It is really unfair to think in this angle. Because, the child which born to you either male or female it is being delevered by you after taking possession in your womb for a period of 10 months and that child is being accepted by you as per your choice . as such why are u seeing the society. who is society . are they going to take care of your children . no not at all. do not believe the society ./ It is your and your husban's pure love and affection which is required for the baby at all times. happily grow the childrens and enjoy the life. welcome the new incumbant . and be happy
@atulperx (735)
• India
28 Dec 06
yes you are right friends this is very bad . thanks for all your replies . don't mind that i am not able to say thanks in each reply because from few days back there is some problem of power cut in my area .
@wasim_96 (45)
• India
27 Dec 06
yes ur right....i dnt know such people where they come frm...i totally disgree with this..and today generation girl and boy are equally Level and no difference among themself...thats is what i say.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
Their is only one difference and that is girl is known as girl and boy as boy , we cant compare them with knowledge and mind , girls can do everything which can be don by man in professionals sectors as wll as home . EAST OR WEST WOMEN IS BEST THANKS FOR REPLY
• India
27 Dec 06
Guys girls are more good than boys.Boys are wrost in front of girls.Just think that boys are better than boys
• India
27 Dec 06
Just give now girls more importance than boys.Its the only way to make our dream true
@pratew3y (1894)
• India
27 Dec 06
its disgusting that they feel unhappy when its a baby girl since a child is a greatesst gift from god to human being and i am sorry for people who think that a girl is a problem and they cry
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
yes i prefer that we should kill those guy who do all this .
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• Belgium
27 Dec 06
baby girl or boy both r equal.few bad things still exist in our society but thanx god now ppl r bcoming aware of this sick tredition.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
hey bubul you ar right their are many things that society need to to learn till yet thanx 4 reply
@tanujarneja (2833)
• India
27 Dec 06
this is absolutely now fair..............and ur sister doesnt deserve this child at all....if her behavior is like that
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
yup you are right but she if my friend not sister and my sister is superwomen she can even leave her husband if their family do so with her , thanx 4 reply
• United States
27 Dec 06
Wow, where do you live? I can't believe someone would do that. That is really awful. I haven't had a child yet, but I can't imagine not celebrating my childs birth! I really don't care wether I have a boy or a girl, but I want at least one of each and will not stop till I get it! lol I love little ones.. they are so precious.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
yes , even i will gonna celebrate my girl birthday with dj band , who cares about religion .They don't know that girl is know as Lakshmi which is goddess of money .They are not killing girls but killing goddess , thats why they face so much problem in future
• United States
27 Dec 06
I understand in your culture you want and even need a son.(My culture doesn't care what you get)But I think you are right to have left.I would have done the same thing.The birth of a child is an amazing experience and something to be celebrated,whether the child is a boy or girl.I don't think it should matter what culture you come from,what continent you live on,or what God you worship.Maybe your friend will get over her dissapointment and realize what a beautiful child she has.I hope so for everyone's sake.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
yes you are right that we should not care about culture and celebrate the birth whether its boy or girl . thanx for reply
@natuser28 (907)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Because girls are 5 to 1 against boys, somethin like that. Beside most culture want son to be able to lead the family.
@atulperx (735)
• India
27 Dec 06
hey don't under estimate girl buddy, now girls can do many works that boy are doing , even girls are on space shuttel . thanx 4 reply
@lucalucky (1840)
• Italy
28 Dec 06
I cannot understand why they did this! I don't understand the difference between a girl and a boy. Is this a tradition in your friends country? Because there aren't reasons to celebrate the birth of a male and do not celebrate the birth of female! It sounds really strange and unfair to me.
• India
28 Dec 06
your friend is not good i hope frist baby to my wife that is girl bcoz girl and boy both r ecqual
• Indonesia
28 Dec 06
only one word... UNFAIR...
• India
28 Dec 06
i feel girls are better than boys so no one shd cry on birth since its not in our hands....
@toonatoons (3739)
• Philippines
28 Dec 06
i love babies --- girl or boy, it doesn't matter what the gender is, really. i feel sorry for the baby girl. i really hope the mother comes to terms with this reality and accepts the baby as a precious gift, nevertheless. and i definitely hope the baby doesn't grow up feeling unwanted and uncared for.