Why are some guys afraid of commitment or marriage?

i don't feel that it is just men that have a fear of commitment, I feel some women are like that too. I have a wonderful boyfriend now, but 3 years ago I wanted nothing to do with a relationship, i was coming out of a bad marriage, I just wanted to do things for me and my son and nothing for anyone else. I have been with my bf for almost a year now and he talks about marriage sometimes and I still get all nearvuos about it because I am not sure that is a bridge I want to cross again.

i think that it's the thought that they will only be with one woman for the rest of their life terrifies them. i believe that there are some women who have problem to be committed and to be married too...it's a two way thing...

its because of the responsibilites after the marriage, i think these people are wise enough and have taking life seriously

Maybe they don't want to settle down just yet.

maybe they are scred to hook. or maybe they are not ready to get their freedom and to handle their new responsibity.

everyone has his or her reason why they dont want to get married. Some maybe because of the financial burdens, responsibility, history or just because they feel they are not ready yet.

I'm a girl who feels like that! I love my partner Shrek dearly but marry him? urrgh, no thanks. At the moment I choose to be with him and after 7 years I'm probably gonna stay. If I married him then I wouldn't have the choice so I would be trapped. If I felt trapped then I would find the easiest way to get out of the relationship. I nearly got married when I was 21 but a few weeks before the wedding I suddenly thought "rest of eternity" and the horror of that idea put me right off. Men are scared to discuss it because they think that talking about feelings is not manly. I couldn't explain how I feel to Shrek, he thinks I'd just rather save up for a cool car than a wedding where we have to invite my awful relatives, although the thought of them is enough to put anyone off.

i wish i knew. i have an uncle who's in his 50s right now, and still remains single. he's been in so many relationships year in and year out, but everytime the suggestion of marriage comes up, he runs away. ever watched the run-away bride? he's sort of like that, instead he's the run-away groom. i think some men are in love with the idea of falling in love, not with the person. so, i think that's what's keeping them from staying committed.

cause comitment will not make men has afreedom again, men affraid to has high responsiblity

Maybe some realize that if they marry it will no longer be about just what their wants and needs are, once married they will have to share, sacrifice and plan for two and possibly more. Maybe some are just being honest with themselves by remaining single, maybe they know that they are not ready for that kind of committment. I think it's best to be sure and not allow yourself to be pressured into something you really are not ready for. Or maybe some men just don't want a women to know what their true feelings are about the subject, because they know it would change the relationship.

i dint think they did not commit marriage but remember they refuse always if they use you before marriage

I think they are a bit hesitant as they need to meet expectations and still feel happy as they were as bachelors :) They will have a lot of responsibilty and they have to make sure that they give their best :)

Depends from cae to case.Did u think that maybe they are not afraid and maybe they like the bachelor life without comitments ? Others like u said they are afraid,maybe because they think that they cant handle the situation.

I will focus my response on conversations I have had with one of my guy friends. He admitted of being afraid of commitment because of his childhood without a father. He is afraid to commit because he is afraid of not being a good husband to his wife and a good father to his children. Now whether, all guys have this as a reason or not, I believe that past experiences have a lot to do with their fear. Again, this is from the mind of one man. Good topic by the way!

I think it is the fact that they will feel trapped...or tied to that one woman for the rest of thier lives. I think that they would rather be free. It could be the added responsibility..or the lack of money. They may not feel that they are in the right financial or emotional place in thier lives yet...

It's not just a fear to discuss. It's a fear to actually do it. It's normal for people not to want to talk about things they don't want to do. Partly a fear of being talked into someone else's opinion. I don't think it's just men. I think there are also women who feel this way.

Of course they are. I have friends who are now just getting married and have been together for over 12 years. Men are afraid of losing their freedom. They don't think they will be able to do the things they use to do. My husband and I enjoy doing the same things and he calls if there's something he wants to do. I keep telling him he doesn't have to ask but he says it's being repectful.

loss of freedom...

No responsability, that is what hold them back, but not all men are irresponsible, is just that womens talk like that beacause is the major experinece out there, so ladies don't be hurry to be with the first one you meet there are a lot of responsible men that will asume the roll of a real men.

If you check the statistics now. Men are more prone now to get married than women are. Big switch isn't it. I heard that a few months ago and was shocked to hear it. So I researched it. More women are becoming more career minded and less prone to settle down.