Would U say NO!!

India
December 29, 2006 7:14am CST
people say its good to help others even if its means thats u have to make a compromise..but then we are now living in a very competitive world and the first thing somebody should think of is he "himself"..and that leads to a very common kind of dilemma whether to help someone when he/she requests u or turn him/her down saying that u have own business to look after..so what do u guys think about this..where would u draw the line..and how would u turn someone down without hurting his/her feelings..
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@Darkwing (21586)
29 Dec 06
Personally, I live my life helping others. Ok, so every now and again, I might have to put something personal on the back burner for a while, but what's the biggy? I value and respect my family, my friends and even those I don't like too much, if their cause is a needy one. So, I will drop everything in an emergency, to fit them into my life programme. I hope that helps you, but time management is really the essence, and never to get too wound up about anything. It's just life, and life is for living the best way you can, and I am happiest when making others happy.
• India
29 Dec 06
i dont say clearly
• Zambia
29 Dec 06
I think it is a good vocation to help other people when one is in a better place or position and are fully able to assist.
@Darkwing (21586)
29 Dec 06
I'm not always in a position to help, financially, for instance. So, I find other ways, I advise people and try to help them get the help they need. I also organise quite a bit of charity work, which helps children and sick people. There is always a way to help, whether you have extra stuff at your disposal or not. It's surprising how many people will help you along when you're attempting to help another.
@vanities (11409)
• Davao, Philippines
30 Dec 06
helping people is good karma, but not all times we can help especially if its on the financial type of helping..saying no is hard i think.. but we could still say that negative response if we know how to convey it..we should began first i think of saying "i really want to help you on your problem but" state what is your reasons , and its up to your friend if he is going to accept it.as long as you do your your part well...
• India
30 Dec 06
Sometimes it becomes difficult to say NO to some particular person!!
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@nyka08 (403)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
i'm the type of person who has difficulty saying no..especially to those who are very close to me. it's really hard to refuse. if the person asking for help is really in need..i'll do what i can to help him. but if i don't have anything to offer, then i'll just have to turn him down and try to tell him my reasons. i know it may somehow hurt him, but he'll understand.
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• India
30 Dec 06
i am agree with u . no saying is proper for those persons they want to do for proper person. many time any one want that u dont want to give him and they are not able for this .
• India
30 Dec 06
its depend on the situation that what type of help is asked by the person
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@magikrose (5432)
• United States
29 Dec 06
For me if I can help I will. When I cant help I will tell them that I would love to help but I cant and explain why I cant, that way they understand why I cant help and there feelings are not hurt.
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• India
29 Dec 06
its high time now and we should learn to say NO. Helping sumone is gud but not at the cost of yourself also this is a mean world and no one here helps you so why to help others....
@Darkwing (21586)
30 Dec 06
Awwwwwww... I'm sorry, but I don't agree. What you're putting to us is selfishness. I'm sorry, but if it means me giving up something, others will come first.
@Darkwing (21586)
30 Dec 06
Awwwwwww... I feel sorry for you, for what you're portraying is selfishness. No matter what, I would help somebody out it they needed it. My own needs could be met later.
• India
30 Dec 06
i don't think u could be in a position to help someone because even ur condition might become critical..it might be financial..or sometimes purely emotional..people call it selfishness but I would rather make sure that first of all my house is in order and that would help me help others..i hope that does make some sense to u..
@aizavel (558)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
Well, sometimes we can't help everybody we are not superheroes. I guess sometimes when ew turn down a request it is impossible for people to um, waddya call that...um.. be offended or dissapointed to us, it happens and it's okay. ;)
@aizavel (558)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
I meant its impossible for people not to be offended/dissapointed when their requests are turned down.. whewh! :0)
@manong05 (5029)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
reading your material, my answer will be based on three assumptions. The need is legitimate, doesn't include professional beggars. You are in the position to help. You have the resources to extend a hand. By all means, go on my friend, help! Its true we are in a competitive world but it is also a duty of each of us in a civilized society to help those who are less fortunate. Helping others has also its rewards whether desired or not. You may have uplifted other people's lives in a little way and get a sense of fulfillment. For this reason, some people go to the extent of walking the extra mile in helping others. And who knows, you might be entertaining angels unaware. Of course, there are times when you may have to say no and again, they will be based on the three assumptions I mentioned earlier.
@tholland (20)
30 Dec 06
I look at it like this - what goes around, comes around. If anyone asks for help, I help as much as I can, then when I need help you know where you can turn. There is a limit though depending on what your compromise is. If a friend asked me to borrow £5 and I had only £10 myself, I would give them £5! Then, if I needed to borrow money in the future I know where I can go. When you help others, I don't know about you guys but it makes me feel good about myself.
@ritchel (843)
• Philippines
30 Dec 06
Helping someone is a good attitude but not to the point that the other person will mostly depend on you. Sometimes you really need to turn down.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
30 Dec 06
although i beleive we have to help others we have to draw a line somewhere.i dont beleive in being trampled upon
• India
30 Dec 06
i would surely help when a need comes.....
@aaron2416 (152)
• India
30 Dec 06
I dont we have to be selfish. The word ME or I is the one responsible for our downfall...its nothing wrong to help someone esp when u know they really need ue help.
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
30 Dec 06
In friendship, there is no "NO.".. and the kind of situation you are talking about where there is an unhealthy competition, friendship usually ends. if you are friends, both of you will understand and try that the situation never arises.
@jal1948 (1360)
• India
30 Dec 06
Always remember the maxim Numero Uno is you , and you are the most important person in your life, if your ok the world is ok to you so help others if you have the time or say a flat No period
@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
30 Dec 06
How do you draw the line? That's like the ultimate question. If we're completely self-absorbed and working on ourself and only ourself then we are selfish, but as we all know if you go out of your way to help others people will walk all over you, and you will not get your own business taken care of. I say have a plan--and continuously work on your own goals, but within the parameters of your plan always leave a little time for others, at least a little time. Something else to consider is a quote by Zig Ziglar: "You will get everything you want in life if you will just help enough other people get what they want."
• India
30 Dec 06
The best thing to do is do what your heart says. If you feel that what you are doing is right you should go ahead and do it. And if you think that what you are doing is wrong then dont do it.
@sahergul (774)
• Pakistan
30 Dec 06
well in this world every individual has 2 main responsibilities, one is towards him and his fam... and other is towards society... both are important, i wont say to prefer one on other but help others to the extend that dosen't unfair with the ppl have more right over you... cheers :)