Domestic Violence

Well done to you hun, i made the move 3 years ago when i got out of my abusive marriage, i was being strangled and had my 1 and a half year old baby in my arms at the time, lucky for me i predicted the row before it started so was able to ring the police in advance and they arrived just in time, otherwise i would not be here today, unfortunately he is still walking the streets today, but neither me or my kids have anymore contact, it's taken me 3 years to pay the debts of he left me and i'm still paying, i nearly lost my house due to struggling with money, but 3 years on, i have still my house, two wonderful kids that don't want for anything, some great friends and a nice life, i run my own business and as a single mum i can swap and change my work schedule to suit my children, so for all those other people out there who are black and blue, don't think to yourselves that you can't get out of the situation, because you can and if you really want to you will, there is a life after dark patches xx

If women who are in the same boat would only do the same for themselves. Many believe that mental abuse isn't abuse, but few understand that although it doesn't leave a visible mark it does bruise deeply. Often times mental abuse turns to physical abuse too. Huggers to you for having the courage to get out.

I'm so glad you got out of that situation. My ex became an abuser out of the blue. After he decided that having twins was too much for him to handle he became a changed man. I'm thankful it was never as bad as you had, but I wouldn't have allowed it to get there thank GOD. I'm not criticizing that your situation did get there.. I fully understand not walking away because of fear or simple fear of not knowing what to do next. Luckily, my 3 kids and I kicked him out and never looked back but after seeing how a person of my strength, moral and physical, can easily be trapped into an abusive relationship so quickly I truly can understand women who don't have the intestinal fortitude I have to walk away. It's not always as easy as it sounds.

wow.. how awful for you to be in such a situation.. im happy that you were able to overcome what is surely one of your lifes most difficult tradgedies.. its nice that you postedt this topic to show any others that may be in similar situations to see what worked for at least one.. thank you again.

I know so many women who at one time in their life's they have been in an abusive relationship. It is quite frightening how many women go through this each day. In the UK 2 women a week are murdered through domestic violence which for the size of the UK is a hell of a lot. You are a very strong woman and to have had the courage to get out takes alot of strength. My friend was sadly abused for so many years, then one day she said to herself that she could go no lower and the only way to survive was to go up in her life again and she made the decision to leave her husband. She is now a very positive and strong woman who is happy in her life. She often says she cringes if she sees her ex now and cannot believe he made her feel so bad about herself. But these abusers are very clever and will emotionally break you before the real abuse starts. I hope your discussion will help alot of women who experience this form of abuse far too often.

I am so very sorry that you had to go through a situation such as this one. I know how painful it is to think you love someone & to have them abuse you. I must congratulate though on taking the next step! You should be very proud of yourself for getting out & starting a new life. I know that I was once in a relationship where I was being abused as well. So I can relate to how you feel 100 %. Some of the things he had said to you we're quite similar to the things the man I was with would say to me as well. I remember being engaged to this man & being with him for a year. I was physically but mostly verbally abused by him & I am just glad that I had come to my senses & had gotten out when I had. Because I know if I wouldn't have gotten out when I had I truly do question where I would be right now.. And what kind of life I would be living. I sometimes can't help but look back & ask myself why I had stayed so long. Do you do the same?! But at the same time.. I know that what I had gone through has not only made me a stronger person. And has taught me a lot about myself. As I am sure that's how you feel as well. I know that sometimes change is always scary, even if it is for the best. I know that your decision was a very wise one to make though, especially since if you would have stayed you may have ended up eventually having your life being taken away from you. Abusive people tend to only get worse over time. I honestly believe that it takes a great deal of courage to sometimes be able to walk away from a situation such as this one! At least now because what you have gone through.. You can help people who maybe are going through what you we're going through. I think that's the most wonderful thing about going through certain trials in one's life.. That because of your experience you can help others now because of this.. And there's no more rewarding feeling then having the power to help others along the way! In conclusion.. Thank you for allowing us to hear your story. And thank you for allowing me to tell mine.. I know how difficult it is to go through something such as this. It takes a lot of courage. And you are a courageous women for being able to break free of his chains.. I wish you all the best & may there always be happiness in your life. Thanks for allowing me to share! xx

Hey, smart you, not to take it for years and years, and good thing to tell the police so that you could leave, because of course I am sure you had no car or access to a taxi. What a brave smart woman you ate! You are a good example for others who are in an abusive relationship.

I was married to a man who 'fell off the wagon' which was a side I hadn't seen of him prior to our marriage. One night he choked me while we were arguing. I had him arrested but fell prey to his apologies and didn't press charges. It happened again a couple months later and I knew I had to get out. Luckily, I worked and had my own money and was able to do so without assistance. I gave him one chance and he blew it. I wasn't going to wait for him to do it over and over again at MY expense!

I was married to a man who 'fell off the wagon' which was a side I hadn't seen of him prior to our marriage. One night he choked me while we were arguing. I had him arrested but fell prey to his apologies and didn't press charges. It happened again a couple months later and I knew I had to get out. Luckily, I worked and had my own money and was able to do so without assistance. I gave him one chance and he blew it. I wasn't going to wait for him to do it over and over again at MY expense!

Wow. What a story. I am so sorry you had to go through that. My mom was in an abusive relationship for 14 years. it was not physical, but so extremely verbally and mentally abusive. It was so hard to watch - because we had to try and be supportive of her and hint to her that she needed to get out. I was so glad when she did. She's been out 5 years now, but has a daughter with the man, so she still has to interact with him. He is still very abusive. I am so glad you got out so soon.