Sick to death of people making marriage a joke

Congratulations, I hope you have a splendid day and a wonderful life together.A commited relationship is not a joke whatsoever to me, it is a chance to take on the world as a team, make something together and build the most beautiful love.I hope it goes perfectly, I hope for the same kind of celebration some day.

I agree. I take my vows very seriously. I think one of the reasons so many marriages fail is that no one really needs anyone else anymore. Besides the love and spiritual side of marriage, in years past couples made the marriage work because they were partners in life and they needed each other to survive. That is no longer the case in modern society. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Don't let the bad apples poison your happiness! It is not just a piece of paper. It is a committment and a promise!

In the old days, not only was tradition valued more, but people had a lot less money. People didn't have as much time to dote on themselves and their "happiness". Instead, they were busy just trying to make financial ends meet. There wasn't as much time to worry about what they were missing out on. Women didn't have the resources to leave like they do now. Now that people make more money, their focused has shifted selfishly on them. If they are bored with a marriage, then they can just bail out, get a new place, and start all over. Values have went way down in this world. It sucks, but at least there are still people like you out there that remember what marriage is really supposed to be about. You don't leave marriage because two people "outgrow" each other. You don't leave because of boredom. You don't leave because a hot new secretary seems funner. You don't leave because your house is not kept the way you want, etc etc etc. It's sad all the silly reasons people break a marriage up.

You do have a very good point there, I think it's all to do with the current perceptions of people's thinking today, lifestyles more people are far more self sufficient and more able to cope alone, and I feel that this has a small factor in the way we view marriages these days and I think that's why fewer people feel the need to tie the knot. It also maybe seeing failed marriages in the friends or family can also put people off, I would say that though in the time when my parents were young marriage did mean't much much more, not sure if that much of a decent answer, but I guess it's my point on marriages.

Dear Killailla, My name is David and I live in Nairobi, Kenya. Marriage is the best thing that could happen to you, but it also has the potential for a hell on earth. Trust me, I know. Yours are very real concerns and my advise is that you put God's word first. Do you read the Bible? Try and get hold of the New Testament and read Ephesians chapter five. If you and your spouse adhere to the counsel provided, yours will be another case of "they lived happily ever after!" I wish you well. Make it a big issue, your wedding and all. Life was meant to be enjoyed, but in the good way. davidmbue@yahoo.com

Ya why do you marry with a women.. TO devorce or what.. Its better u choose a gud man who u think wuld be very helpfull in the future... Its up to u.. This was my advice..

I think the old values of marriage are a little forgotten, I think maybe because a lot of men never really tool it the same as as awoman and then womwn say good enough for them, it would be nice to get the old values back.

Congratulations, and enjoy your big wedding day. We really enjoyed ours. It really makes me sad too. I once had a friend in college tell me that she was going to marry her boyfriend (even though I knew she was sleeping with all sorts of other guys) because he would "make a good first husband." I almost fell on the floor. She is not only thinking she CAN get out of it with divorce, but PLANNING on it! Personally, I am one to marry for life, so unless my husband starts cheating on me or hitting me, he's mine for life. And since I don't see either of those happening... :-)

Have you read the word of God in the Bible sister? Have you heard Brother Creflo Dollar sister? The Bible says...do not be yoked with unbelievers, i.e. do not marry a person who does not gelieve in the salvation gifted by Jesus Christ. There should beno confusion at all, please refer to the pages of Corinthians and Romans. You will know everything about God's way of handling marriage vows. Okay?

First I would like to say "Congrats on getting married!" I would also like to state that you may or may not know that your soon to be husband/wife is abusive. A lot of men even women change right after marriage. Sometime the soon to be husband/wife showed no signs of any previous behavior problems. I do understand what you are saying though and it does seem that now a days people just jump into marriage to early and then divorce a few months later. That erks me as well. I believe a married couple should try hard to keep their marriage together. Marriage isn't easy. You are suppose to work at it. People need to start remembering their vowls more. Maybe more married couples should start reading their vowls to eachother every year or maybe even once a month or something, just to remind them of that special day. Marriage can last a life time if both partners put as much love as the other partner does. Good luck with your marriage. I'm sure it will be wonderful.

i dont agree with u every one is not the same how you are feeling

Firstly, Congratulations! Don't let people get you down about your upcomming wedding. It is your day, and you have dedicated convictions about marriage, I am sure things will work out wonderfully for you. I recently got married myself, October 13th of this yr. My husband and I had been friends for 5yrs. We both have the same feelings and convictions about marriage. Divorce is not an option. If one would cheat, or the relationship become abusive, then yes. But otherwise no. We both know how we feel about those issues and talked about them extensivly. Neither even feel that cheating is ever an option. I truly hope we make it, I feel we will. To me, divorce is just not an option. You don't "just fall out of love", that is bull. if there are serious problems, get counseling and work them out. Again, Congrats!!

I am sick of people cheating too. My husband is away all the time in another country for work. I trust him, and i am pretty confident in him but every once in a while i get suspecious. I cant help myself. I wish there was a way to know for sure. I agree that respect for marrage has long been lost and a divorce is just an every day thing for people.

I agree with you totally and while I don't know how to change the rest of the world, I promise I will work very hard to make sure my marriage works. Marriage can be wonderful. Just remember to always respect and love your partner. Set some ground rules about communication. Tell each other you love each other every day and give hugs and kisses. Don't take each other for granted. It can work. It also takes two people to have the same commitment to marriage. Best wishes - I hope you will be as happy with your marriage as I am with mine.

I know exactly what you mean. Especially because Hollywood thinks of marriage as such a joke. They get married and divorced within a week of each other. The divorce rates are so high because of them, I bet. I like the old idea of marriage, where it was a big thing, etc. Now marriage is "old" or whatever...I hear 14 year old girls getting into relationships with guys and then proclaiming they love them like 4 days after they're dating, when they're too young to really know what love is. I may be 19 years old and quite young, but I still have marriage in my head as a big deal. I want to marry the one that I love...and I don't want to get a divorce unless it's absolutely necessary.

what people dont' realize, and what apparently isn't taught anymore is that marraige is forever. you are with that person. not that person, and this one on the side. that isn't how it works. YOU MARRY THEM, YOU STICK WITH THEM!! also, marraige is forever. it isn't something you should say 'oh, it isn't working. i change my mind' that is nonsense!!

I agree ,I'm tired of seeing people getting Married one day and getting a divorce not long after.It isn't supposed to be like this Marriage is supposed to be a very sacred thing based on God,trust,respect ,honesty.

i am married and sick of people treating marriage like some joke. hollywood presents the worst example of all, see the stars going on the marriage-divorce cycle..its a shame. these people have no regard for their family, society, religion or their children.

You r almost right,NOw a day,s a very few people take their marriages seriously.Even those people who r in their deep ages will take it seriously, A bigreason behind tis bcz in rest of the life they need a partner...But when people r young, at that time they were not thinking about tis,they try to enjoy thier lives in evry way(even spending a few day,s r month,s with some one.But at the end marriage is not aonly a piece of paper, it is a compromise of two person,s....

cheaters in this matter deserve punishment, but sometimes the divorce came up as a result of a lot of things, and this what makes me keep thinking and thinking about the marriage!I don't wanna marry and divorce as well as i don't want my wife suffers about anything. please if you have openion in this reply.