I'm totally excited and worried!

@starr4all (2863)
January 8, 2007 11:23am CST
I've been about a week late for my period. So this morning I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. Later today I will go out and get another one to make sure. I'm excited because I have two boys right now. I always wanted a little girl. Here's the problem, my husband doesn't want another kid. We talked about it and both agreed that now is not the time to have another one. Well, I've been on the pill for the last two months so it's an oopsy. Now, I have no idea how to tell my husband. I went to babycenter.com and figured out that I'm about 4 weeks due sept 11, 2007.
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@tigrashadow (1086)
• Australia
8 Jan 07
congratulations!! well id suggest going to the doc and getting a formal test done but if you have been on the pill its not like you havent tried to stay pregnancy free...though it can take the pill over a month to work properly and if you have been sick or on other medication it can affect its potency..... good luck on telling him and good luck on having a girl
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@starr4all (2863)
8 Jan 07
Thanks! I should have known better. I got pregnant on the depo shot as well. With my last two boys I took two to three pregnancy tests before going to the doctors on base. Just wanting to make sure and all. Thanks for responding!
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• United States
9 Jan 07
I got pregnant with triples on the depo I lost one so I have twins. Good luck on telling your husband
8 Jan 07
Congrats! You know, if you talked it through with your husband, I'm sure he'd be delighted. Just because he thought he did want another child doesn't mean he still doesn't. Again, congratulations and the best of luck!
@starr4all (2863)
8 Jan 07
I just told him. He's not overly upset or excited. He's just worried because it wasn't planned. If we had planned it he would be more excited. He's also worried because he's afraid something might go wrong. I had a lot of excessive bleeding when I had my last son and he hopes that nothing bad will happen with this one. Also, within the last month, we got rid of almost all our baby stuff: the crib, the highchair, the car seat. It's a little daunting now that we will have to go buy everything again. Thanks for the response.
• United States
8 Jan 07
My husband and I each wanted about 2 children. And, that is what we have. However, both were "unplanned". But, I think God has a time and purpose... But, things worked out for the best and we wouldn't change anything for the world. I hope the best for you.
@zuri25 (2125)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Congratulations! Sometimes, despite our best efforts to prevent them, things happen. Your husband should be understanding of that and take this new baby as a blessing. Just remember, what happens to your body is your decision and no one else's. Again, congrats and I wish you luck on having a baby girl.
@starr4all (2863)
8 Jan 07
Thanks for responding. I think he'll accept it. Like I said, he actually didn't take it the way I thought he would. He wasn't overly upset. He also kept teasing me when I would start to cry. The only thing he is upset about is the fact that the pill didn't work. I'm destined not to have any of the birth control not working.
• United States
9 Jan 07
yah! congratulations that you were lucky enough having such blessings.. i'm waiting for that gift since we got married a year ago & still i wasn't given the chance of bearing a baby yet. you must be thankful for that & keep yourself healthy & disease free.. i know your husband won't be that rude to let you do an abortion!
@Bunny2 (2102)
• Australia
8 Jan 07
Babies are a blessing - Babies are a blessing
Congratulations - and it sounds like your hubby has come round to the idea. That's good:) BTW you rarely get false positives on the home pregnancy tests - only if you're on medication. There are some women for whom the pill or other methods of birth control don't work. If you don't want other children, you might have to consider either having your tubes tied or for yur hubby to have a vasectomy - that's the only sure fire way (though I've heard of accidents*before* the ops).
@starr4all (2863)
9 Jan 07
That's what we are planning on doing. We are BOTH getting fixed after this child! Thanks for responding!
@imadriscoll (2228)
• United States
25 Jan 07
First of all since this was posted 3 weeks ago I imagine that you've already told him. I would really like to encourage you in all of this with a story about my son. My husband and I were only married 8 months when we found out that I was pregnant. I was very happy (at least until the morning sickness kicked in) and my husband really didn't know what to think. He cried more on the day she was born then on any other that I can remember ... he was a daddy!! When she was 10 months old we discovered that number 2 was on the way. She was born in December and a precious gift so close to Christmas. We decided that we were done having little ones for awhile. I made it a personal goal to go a whole year without getting pregnant! Well, surprise, surprise, #2 was only 4 months old when we found out that we would have another precious gift real close to Christmas again! We spent the first two trimesters pretty much in shock. We tried to shake it off by the third trimester so that his arrival would be a happy one. We were happy to be having a boy ... but if we could have had him a year later it would have been nice!! When he was born there was just this amazing peace and love and bond that both my husband and I felt immediately. We had 3 kids in 2 1/2 years and some days it's hard, but when I look into our precious boys face -- I wouldn't change anything. I pray that you and your husband will find great peace!
@starr4all (2863)
26 Jan 07
We've had time to let it sink in. We've told our family and friends and everybody is happy about it. The only thing I'm not happy about is that I'm having a BAD case of morning sickness. I'm trying to remember if I had it this bad with the other two. I don't think so, but then again, I was working for the other two and I'm a sahm this time. Now I have more time to think about it. Once I get into the 2nd trimester, hopefully things will get better. Thanks for responding!
9 Jan 07
Congrats!!! Am sure he'll be ok about it when u tell him, just because he's said that he doesn't want another kid doesn't mean he won't change his mind when he knows ur pregnant! Hope it all goes ok 4 u when u tell him, let us all know how u get on, will b thinking of u! Try not to stress 2much over it, won't help u or the baby!
@starr4all (2863)
9 Jan 07
Thanks for commenting. He's taking it well and is excited. He's done a total turn around. We were even talking about names last night (not too seriously though, it's way too early for that).
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
8 Jan 07
Congratulations! I'm sure you will both be very happy, even if it isn't exactly the right time...it sounds like you kind of want another child anyway. (I wonder what you're going to do for birth control now?)
@starr4all (2863)
8 Jan 07
We already have a plan for birth control. We both are getting fixed. He's getting a vasectamy and I'm getting a tubaligation. Just to be on the safe side. Thanks for responding!
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
8 Jan 07
If it i confirmed that you are a pregnant, dont kill that baby. I beg you. Just because we big people do a mistake, why teh little child has to be detroyed. There is no difference between guy or girl, so be happy with the one you have delivered. Tell your husband that pill has not worked, so you are pregnant. So he might think of something give you a solution. I know there are circumstances unavoidable, if you really have to go for abortione, then its fine. Before you think of anything, consult your husband and both you obey teh decision and implement it. All the best.
@starr4all (2863)
9 Jan 07
I'm not going to abort it. I already told my hubby that I wouldn't. Thanks for responding though.
@agusfebi (813)
• Indonesia
9 Jan 07
yes I think U over ngentit in do you have job, but no problem if U suplied a lot vitamin foods , dont worried after that's you good again.... I hope enjoy ur life...
@bryelee (451)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Congrats! I have 3 little girls, there is a really good chance it will be a boy so be ready for that. I was so sure my youngets would be a boy but I was wrong. If your huby doens't want anymore you may want to get your tubes tied. I got preg very easily to will all 3 of mine so I had my tubes tied when my youngest was born.
@muralimn (534)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Jan 07
congrats for the new baby you will be having soon along with lot of happiness and blessings. you are really a blessed lady. so i think you should keep the baby. all my wishes with you and all the best for handling the situation. may you get a baby girl as you wished. take care of yourself and your baby.
• United States
8 Jan 07
Wow, that's wonderful, I am a little late getting in on the good news, but congrats!!!! and I am so happy for you that your husband is excited too. Its hard I think on our men sometimes when things are "planned" but life just has a way of working out if approached with an open heart. I read how you have had issues with your other pregnancies, so please just take it easy, take care of yourself and your new daughter (spoken in faith that you will get the desire of your heart) Best wishes, what a delightful way to begin the new year! :)
@starr4all (2863)
8 Jan 07
I just heard from the doc and she confirms it! And hubby is a little excited. He just came home to change so he can go to PT and he told me that he was "in a good mood" when he went back to work. So I'm pretty excited now! It's been a few years since I've gone through this (my youngest is 3 now). So, it's kinda got a new feeling to it. Thanks for responding!
• United States
26 Jan 07
Yeah-- CONGRATS!! You know what, you'll be fine.. it's not like you deliberatly stopped taking birth control and decieved your husband.. so, it's not a fault--it's just FATE :) You never know, your husband might be happy when you tell him. I mean you both agreed it wasn't the time--because you were planning it & if it was up to you- you both would have waited, but that's not that way it worked out. So, you have a new little addition that's going to join you and I'm sure he'll get over it soon! How couldn't he.. another little boy or girl.. how sweet. good luck.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
26 Jan 07
Well congrats!!!i was in the same situation last year and i have been wanting a baby boy becasue i laready have a byb girl, although my pregnancy is not planned but i totally accepted this baby and will be giving birth next month..oweee im very excited already...your husband will love your baby do not worry.
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
congratulations. consider it as a blessing. thank God. also ask for a healthy baby girl. :) good luck to you.
@krysy1982 (1041)
• United States
9 Jan 07
congratulations. I wish you all the luck in telling your husband. I would go ahead and make a doctors appt.
• Taiwan
9 Jan 07
Congradulations! I don't think you should worry too much, but if your husband really does get mad at you, remember that it's not all your fault! And no matter what, DO NOT consider abortion as an option...
@adnanmd2 (830)
9 Jan 07
Its better you appoint for a babysitter.. by the way congrats..
• India
9 Jan 07
TELL YOUR HUSBAND FEEL FREE TO TALK TO HIM DISCUSS THE WHOLE SCENARIO AND ASK HIM TO FEEL AND TRY TO STAND IN A SITUATION WHERE YOU ARE NOW .......HE WILL UNDERSTAND EACH AND EVERYTHING REST IS FOR YOU TO DECIDE WHETHER YOU TWO WANT THIS KID OR NOT
• Philippines
9 Jan 07
it is already there so why let go of it... your husband may change his mind when you in form him about it. i am pretty sure. no father can let go of his child. it would better if it turn out to be a girl. i'm so happy for you and good luck with your husband.