what should I do?

@dawn5679 (266)
United States
January 8, 2007 12:26pm CST
A week ago my husband and myself were lying in bed and he was on his laptop. I looked over for a split second and saw that he was in an email account that i have never seen before. I know all of his email accounts cause he told me about them. So when I asked him when and why he got a new one he told me that he didn't know what i was talking about. Should I believe him? Does anyone know how to find out if he does have a new one?
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7 responses
• United States
8 Jan 07
Whoa. YOu saw the account and he was trying to cover it up? Bells are going off on that one. But that is me. I am not a trusting person when it comes to men on the internet. If you are truly worried about it, ask him again. Tell him what you saw and demand to know what he was doing. If you have any reason to believe he is being unfaithful, confront him. Nip it in the bud before it blossoms into something bigger.
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
8 Jan 07
thanks i think i'll do that..
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• United States
25 Jan 07
I agree with ElusiveButterfly it would defenetly send bells off in my head. He is hiding something he doesn't want you to see. I have my finace's passwords for all his emails and could look at them any time. If I found him looking at something I didn't like or on an email address I didnt know I would defenetly ask him about it.
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• United States
28 Jan 07
I totally agree - what you saw has to be something. Tell him that you just want to know - not like you want to check it. Tell him that if he is trying to hide something as simple as an e-mail account it worries you because you don't know what else he could be hiding from you.
@sharon613 (2323)
• United States
25 Jan 07
You can try and get his password and look further into this unknown email account and hope that you find a good thing.
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I tried I didn't even see what the whole email address is.
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@brimia (6582)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I wouldn't be accusatory but just tell him you saw it and you were curious. If he denies it again, I'd ask him what he's trying to cover up and how would he like it if you did the same.
@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
25 Jan 07
I did that already too. He says that he doesn't have an email address that i don't know about. I saw emails that said MILF hunter and I know that he doesn't have those in any other emails that he has.
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• United States
25 Jan 07
Hey dawn, I am not gonna be like some and say that you aren't trusting him. Forget that...tell him to get ready to have a long discussion. I would be questioning him until I felt happy with what I hear. Nowadays you can never be to sure. I have heard so many trifling stories I would not be suprised. I wish I knew how to find out if he has an email account...I would like to do some research on my husband. Shoot ....if Ray Charles who was blind cheated on his wife...what the hell would stop these men that have 20/20 vision?
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
25 Jan 07
Yea your right about the whole ray charles thing LOL. I am insecure and i know it. I was cheated on for 9 yrs of my last relationship til i got sick of it and left him!
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@greengal (4286)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Hmm, I think you should ask him again. I'm not the very trusting kind too so I understand what you mean. But if you know for sure you can trust him and he hasn't lied to you before just ignore it. But if your curiousity gets the better of you then you better ask him directly than to snoop around behind his back.
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I would never spy on my husband i just want him to fess up to what i saw you know.
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8 Jan 07
I think you're being a little obsessive over this -- isn't your husband allowed a little privacy? I mean, so what if he has another email account...it's not like he CHEATED on you or anything... If you demand he tells you everything, you're just gonna push him further away...
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@dawn5679 (266)
• United States
8 Jan 07
well no he has never cheated on me but if i get something new like a new email account i always tell him. Not like i want the password but just to be truthful would be nice.
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• Canada
26 Jan 07
If it were me, I'd push until I got an answer I felt good about...which would proabbly mean having a look at the email account, really. I have trust issues, but my husband knows this and knew it when we got married - he accepts that I need to know what is going on. I would not worry about pushing him away ... I'd be more worried about why he'd react negatively to my questioning. And emails about MILF Hunring? That is definitely something you need to know about. That makes me shudder just thinking about it,