Successful Internet Romances.

United States
January 8, 2007 3:53pm CST
I see so many posts that state that romances formed on the internet do not work. I have known a few that have worked. One is mine. I met my husband on ICQ 9 years ago. He is from the Netherlands. We started as good friends and it changed into more. He moved to the USA and after a brief courtship, we were married. We celebrated our 8th anniversary last October. We do have our disagreements, any relationship can have them. Any relationship you start can either last or end. It doesn't matter how you meet. It is how you love that matters.
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• United States
8 Jan 07
I have two friends that have met people on the internet. One didn't work out and one did. The one that didn't work out--she moved to where he was living and they dated and got married and they weren't married very long and then got a divorce. And the other one is still with the guy that she met online. So I guess it just depends on different factors if the relationship will work or not.
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Congradulations on your 8th anniversary! I was very fortunate. I grew up with my husband. We had been friends since firt grade. I too know of people who have met their spouses online and married. Some lasted and some did not but isnt that the case with all marriages though.
• India
9 Jan 07
I agree with you ,online friendship leads to marraiges .. I have seen very closure vision in this case..
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@babyhar (1335)
• Canada
8 Jan 07
My other half & me met on this site we both we're on. I wouldn't classify it as really a dating site.. But some people do consider it a dating site.. I was just on there to chat with new people, or make friends to chat with online. When he had messaged me commenting me on the page I had created & how interesting he had found it to be. And that was what really had made me want to write him back. Especially since a lot of men had sent me messages that we're just offensive or disgusting. It was nice to see someone could send me a message that actually showed some substance. We chatted online for roughly two years. And he had wanted to meet me sooner but I was kind of not ready to do that.. Due to bad experiences I had with previous men I had met off of the Internet. So he was more than understanding & waited until I was ready to meet him. And after two years or a year & a half we finally ended up meeting. We've been together for two years now & have known each other for four years. I am glad we had waited as long as we had because we developed a friendship that was really strong before anything else. And to me that is really important. And I feel some relationships do work, it just all depends upon the people & what they are looking for. Or if there is chemistry there to form a strong bond. Not all relationships work out.. Not even the ones sometimes where you meet the person at a grocery store, or various other places.. I find you can get to know someone better by conversing with them online before hand personally. That is if the person is being honest with you & true to themselves as well. But I am just happy that my other half & me have lasted as long as we had. We've gone through a lot of bumps along the way but we we're there to support each other no matter what. And I agree with you when you had stated that it doesn't matter where a person meets. As love is all that matters. Because that is the truth.. I really like what you had said there..
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• Pakistan
9 Jan 07
hmmmm
• Egypt
9 Jan 07
woow its great to love and married from internet have anice live
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@Sinbadd (126)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Well come January the 17th it will be our 2nd anniversary since we've been married and a couple of days before that will be our 4th anniversary since we first met in a chatroom. Yes I met my wife in a chatroom on the 15th of January 2003. I guess it wouldn't really matter where you meet it depends on the people involved and how much they love and trust each other. We spent 2 years apart before we actually met in person. She was in Hawaii and I was in Australia. We just talked on the phone every single day and sometimes several times a day. Yeah sure we had our ups and downs as every relationship does. We got a lot of skepticism from people as you do when you're in a relationship like that, but with mutaual love,trust and honesty we made it through.
@janet069 (663)
• United States
9 Jan 07
My son met his wife on the internet but I wouldn't have that much nerve. There are some mean people out there and you never know who you can trust. I'm glad yours is working out. I think my son's will too.
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@GardenGerty (113528)
• United States
9 Jan 07
I was hoping you would get around to telling us how you met your husband. Mine was pen and ink, but still long distance and sight unseen. We will be married nine years in March. You have to work at all relationships.
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
9 Jan 07
i totally agree with you. Alot of people say you never know who u are meeting on the internet, but I am like it's the same way no matter how you meet. look at all those stories u hear about people living a double life. it is a risk that all people take no matter how they meet.
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@snivelbec (135)
• United States
9 Jan 07
Congratulations! I'm betting my story works out the same. I met my husband on Craig's List; we've been married for almost a year and a half. I met an intelligent, successful, romantic and caring man but be warned! I also met a whole lot of losers online, including one in which I invested a lot of time, energy and feelings. He said he wanted a monagamous relationship too and I believed him, right up to the moment he proposed hooking up with other girls and couples online! Meeting your soulmate online CAN happen but it's no different than meeting in person; sometimes I used to think the only thing the internet did for me was increase the number of losers I was able to meet! As with anything else, you need to have a clear definition of what/whom you're looking for, a clear definition of your values and principles, and let these be known early on in fairness to the other party. That, and a good BS detector helps a lot.
@noopster (17)
9 Jan 07
beautiful n congratz!!! i must admit that i did meet sumone over the internet that i really liked n wanted to b a part of me life!!! but me tale is not a fairytale so nuthin happened!!!n that chick got engaged to sumone else!!! but i do totally agree with u that itz the love that matterz n the heartz involved that actually make a relationship or break it!!!
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@parlink (184)
• Romania
9 Jan 07
My experience still working. I met my wife on Internet since 7 years and every things are ok. We have one beautyfull daugther also.
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@kgwat70 (13395)
• United States
8 Jan 07
That is great that your internet romance turned out very well for you and your husband. I do believe that internet romances can work if both people try hard and put the effort into the relationship. Long distance relationships are not easy as I know well but they are possible and have heard numerous success stories. Mine did not work out but made a good friend out of it so I am happy about that.
@melanie652 (2525)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I think what happens with internet romances is the other person seems really great until you meet them. Then you find out they have these annoyance you just can't live with or you two have way different ideas on how to handle money, etc. With an internet romance if you don't feel like dealing with the other person or don't want to talk to them, you just shut the computer off. Not so easy to do in person? I think some online romances do work, but the majority don't. The reality of life gets in the way and you realize the other person isn't as great in person as they were on the computer screen.
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
8 Jan 07
I think it really depends on the people involved. I have tried it, but nothing has happened yet. I had a long distance relationship that lasted for almost a year. But when we met, it was quite a bit different. Talking online or over the phone lacks a certain demension that is there when you are together. What looks so good over the Internet, takes on different qualities when you experience it in person. But, if two people are well matched, distance or the Internet won't matter. Just like in real life, there are many relationships that don't ever get off the ground and it won't be any different just because it is over the Internet. One point that detracts from using the web is that it is very easy for one to hide behind their computer. Or, it is easy to mislead the other person. In real life, face to face, it is much more difficult to be something you are not.
@Catkin (480)
• United States
8 Jan 07
My girlfriend and I originally began talking online over 2 3 years ago. We've now been together for nearly 6 months after she moved to my city this past summer, and see no end in sight. :) Although we do squabble and have our fair share of minor fights, we have so much in common and cannot see being without each other. I do think that the several months we spent talking on the phone helped us really get to know each other, making it a very different experience when we finally met in person than it would have been if we had only recently met, say on the street, and decided to begin dating. I'm glad to hear about other success stories, it seems all most people have to tell are tales that end in heartbreak or worse.
@shywolf (4520)
• United States
8 Jan 07
Oh, that is a beautiful story! I honestly and truly appreciate you sharing it! ^_^ I too believe that successful relationships can be formed online! I met the most wonderful person online myself once, but that's a really long story... sigh. Just because it didn't work out, well, I know that there were reasons that it wasn't meant to. But it honestly doesn't matter where you meet. In fact, I think that the internet gives us more chance than ever to meet someone who could be a potential partner and soul mate, because there is so much opportunity to connect with people from all over the globe! ^_^ Now, if only I can find my love... lol... it is all that I have ever wished for! ^_^
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• United States
9 Jan 07
Oh wow...you and your hubby meet on ICQ too. So did my husband and I. We started talking in late 1997 or early 1998. We met in July of 1998 and he moved in with me February of 1999. We have been together since. :)
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• United States
14 Feb 07
My family and friends freaked out over it. Now they know that their worries were for nothing.
@BittyBiddy (2903)
• Ireland
9 Jan 07
I met my husband through the internet. But I had to kiss a lot of frogs first before finding my Prince Charming. Sigh!
@bramley13 (291)
9 Jan 07
we meet off the internet,through a friend of mine,been together 4 years now, not one arguement, best thing i ever did
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• India
9 Jan 07
COOL ! its really interesting that your relationship was formed in the internet. Its very much true that romances can flourish anywhere..even internet. I too had a exciting experience which i will like to share, however it didn't work out and i have no regrets for it. I also met a girl on yahoo chat and we stared chatting daily. Soon we exchanged phone numbers of each other and now the chat was shifted to telephone. As she was living in another state i used to call her..and it was quite expensive affair(STD Calls) but i was having a crush and didn't cared for money. She also gave calls on my phone. One day she said that she was going out of state and would be back afer 1 or 2 months. After 2 months when i called back..the phone was out of service. I waited for her on the internet chat but she never turned up. She was out of my life . I was sad for few weeks...slowly slowly..my life came back to form. So love does not cares for internet or what so ever...being successfull is another issue.