Is it right to leave?

Philippines
January 9, 2007 11:59pm CST
Im a single mom with 2 special children and we live in the province, its hard to find a good paying job here unless you get out and find one in the city. Is it okay toleave my kids behind and earn money for living? This has been confusing me for months now, my eldest son should go to school next school year. It's really a tough decision to make coz ill be missing my kids very much but i have to earn for our living. What would you advise then?
12 responses
@jfeets726 (775)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Are you talking about just a long drive to work or actually leaving them, like moving to another area? If you are just talking about a long drive to work, I really don't see anything wrong with that. If you are talking about moving and leaving your kids behind, personally, I think that it depends. Is there father present or would they be living in stability? You always hear of stories or people talking about how a family decided to make, to make more money or to live in a place that have a lower cost of living. The only thing is that some people like to get on their feet first. That is why it is not uncommon to hear of a husband or a wife leaving, living, and working in another city or state for like a year before moving the rest of the family there. It is not something that I, personally, would do, but I don't see anything wrong with it.
• United States
10 Jan 07
Okay, I am sorry for my response above. I misread your post, I now see where you said that you were a single mom. Sorry for the overlook. Some of my post can still work in your position.
• India
20 Jan 07
If it is really necessary to earn money for living. Then you should try to search job the very city. Try to avoid leaving present city. In this way you will be also closure to your children. Leaving them completely alone is not good.
@yamiboo (466)
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
Since you feel that you need to leave for the sake of your kids, to earn more money for your kids' future working in the city, then I guess it's fine. It's a question now of if you can leave them behind, meaning, is it alright with you for you to leave them. I'm just worried that leaving them might affect your work performance (emotional depression). But right now, I think that you are doing a good decision on leaving for the city, even just for a few months to save up, for your children's benefits, instead of not being able to provide them with much if you were in the province. Once you're established in the city, you can go back and pick them up so they can stay with you or something like that. Just make sure you leave them with someone reliable like your parents or relatives or siblings while you're off for work. If you feel this is the right thing for you to do for them, go.
@donglory (677)
• Ghana
20 Jan 07
no i do not think u have to leave them
@sanell (2114)
• United States
20 Jan 07
try to find a job where you can work from home. That is what I did and I love it. I hope you can find something even if it is a few part time jobs whatever you can do to stay home with your kids so that you are comfortable is always something to look into.
• India
20 Jan 07
i think the both things are important in ur life and what i think is better is u should move to some place where u will have good pay and also u can look after ur kids also
• Philippines
20 Jan 07
if theres someone you can trust to leave behind to care for your children like your parents or relatives i think it's okay. it's also for the future of your children. just make sure that the person where you entrusted your children is someone you trust.
@Mtushar87 (488)
• India
20 Jan 07
ya its better to have some money for your children instead of ignoring their demands..so its better to leave them..
• United States
11 Jan 07
no,it is not okay to leave your kids behind.your kids come first yes you need to make a living but i would take less money if i was you instead of leaving your kids behind.that would be wrong.
@conniej14 (248)
• United States
11 Jan 07
I think that if you can leave your children with someone you completely trust then you should go out and seek employment. I know it is hard to seperate yourself from your babies but I also know you need to take care of them finacialy so let yourself off the hook and make all the arrangements you need to and just do it. The main thing you need to worry about is the well being of the children while you are away from them. If you have family that they love and loves them then you should ask them for help with the children. Maybe start working part time for a while until you see how they are adjusting.I wish you all the best.
• India
10 Jan 07
yeah its pretty right to leave because you leaving for ur children's benefit and their good future..so u turning out to b a gr8 mother.....
• Indonesia
10 Jan 07
It is a tough choice, really. However, for a better future of your children, I think you might leave as long as you have arranged everything with people you trust while you are not around. Missing you children will be most probably you have to face for this purpose, therefore, you have to visit your children regulary, once every two weeks or at least once a month. Future is fast approaching and I think you need to take decision soon. Good luck to you.