Opposites attract? or just attack?
By ljcapps
@ljcapps (1925)
United States
January 10, 2007 12:48am CST
How different are you from your significant other, spouse, b/f g/f, whomever. Tell me about it, i love to hear these stories and see how well they fit in with mine. I like to hear how the book doesn't match the cover on everyone!!
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@brokentia (10394)
• United States
10 Jan 07
Oh boy! My partner and I are total opposites.
He likes to sleep too much.
I get an average of 4 hours of sleep.
He can eat anything.
I am picky to the point of rather starving. LOL
He love video games.
I would rather have my nose in a book.
He likes maple.
I can't stand the smell of it!!
He likes to spend money.
I like to save for a rainy day.
His idea of fun is riding a roller coaster ride with friends.
I like to sit and laugh for hours with friends.
I could go on and on. But the point is, he and I are sooooo different!!!
I think it is because we married so young. I was 16 years old when we got married. I was too young and very naive. I had not even discovered who I was or what I preferred. I know that many sounds strange. But I went from my parent's home, to his home. I did not have time to spread my wings and fly!
But...one day I decided to go into the military. Wow! Did that ever change me!!!
I learned to be my own person. I learned to have a voice. I learned confidence and strength. I was a completely different person. And as that person, I was finally able to learn more about me and who I was or believed in.
Through the years, it was hard on our marriage. So hard that we did get a divorce!
But when the divorce was almost finalized, he found out I was pregnant. And he came back wanting to at least be there for each other for the pregnancy and the other kids involved. But...friendship and learning each other grew to more. And we learned how to accept each other for our differences. We seem to balance each other.
No...we did not get re-married. That is a story in its own. LOL
But lets just say that we have been together now for 16 years...and only 7 of those years were we married. :)
I think at this point we balance each other like I said...but we also butt heads a lot too. Trust me, it can get ugly at times. But we have learned to deal.
He has learned to sleep with a small light on so I can type away here at myLot or read. When he wants to play a video game, he will wait to see if I am wanting to read or be here. We find ways to work around each other. But we also find ways to work it together. And if you saw us in public, you would never know that we have been together for this long and are not married. :) Because to this day, we still have to hold hands, walk arm and arm, of a arm around each others waist. :D
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@ljcapps (1925)
• United States
10 Jan 07
I have to say that you're actually the one that gave me the idea for this discussion from where we were talking about how different we are from our partners from a different discussion. I completely understand what you're talking about. My wife and i found each other at a very young age for us, twenty, though not nearly as young as you. We're very different in a lot of ways and went through some rough times, even going so far as separating for about five months, with barely seeing each other. Luckily we worked it out before it was too late for both of us. But i like to laugh sometimes when i think of what people see when they see us together and if only the knew! I've got long blonde hair, and goatee a moustache and two piercings in one ear. Now depending on what she's wearing, my wife is almost six feet tall with long dark hair and blue eyes. this get's to the what she's wearing part, looking at her you'd think, what's she doing with this long hair punk? ah...then i laugh. She's got two tattoo's, one on her arm, one on her back. she's down to two piercings in each ear. when we met, she only had one of the tattoo's but an eyebrow ring in each eyebrow and a tongue ring on top of that tattoo, and was pretty punk herself. but to look at her, you would never know it. and i'm a video game fanatic, and she too would rather be curled up with her nose buried in a book. and we don't talk about politics. we love to discuss religion, but if i mention Reagan, off she goes!
But we're the same way, affectionate with each other whether it's in public or not, and we're still sweet on each other after more than five years, so i hope we keep it up as long as you guys have!
