Do Ever Wonder What Your Man Is Thinking In the Company of Another Woman

United States
January 14, 2007 12:40pm CST
Hey this is for all you ladies to respond to and guys if your bold enough you can answer this too. When your with your man and in the company of other woman, do you ever question his actions. I mean dont we all even though your confident of your relationship. Well why wouldnt you because when else is your man around woman where he is spend time interact and hang with. I mean you all might say he has to go to work and out in public but your not there with him, and I dont know if your wondering then or not. But what about when your hanging with family members, your or his girlfriends. Have you ever wonder why he said that to her or why he hugged her why hes talking to her more than anyone else. Come on now dont you wonder you got to because its happening right in front of your face. Well mylot members tell what you think I'm dying to know.
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56 responses
• United States
14 Jan 07
I have been around other girls while with my girlfriend. I act how I normally would if she wasn't there. I do nothing to compromise my relationship because that is not my intention. I am a very affectionate person. I hug other girls when I feel necessary, and I tell them that I love them. It doesn't mean I am cheating or anything, because my intentions are in all the right places. I think jealousy is healthy. To question someone's motives is natural and healthy as well. When my actions are questioned, I justify them (atleast to the best a guy can) and hope I am understood. Trust and honesty is important. I can openly tell my girlfriend if I find another girl attractive, but it's not like it's the only topic of discussion. As she can tell me if a guy is attractive. Just because you're in a relationship does NOT mean everyone else who exists is automatically not desirable. It's choosing to be with someone is what counts, and if a girl (or guy) ever has any questions, I recommend don't feel bad or agressive about wanting to know, simply ask. He/she should be understanding enough to realize that you simply care enough to want to know.
• United States
14 Jan 07
You gave me a mouth full of an answer, I thank you for honesty and time taken out to hit me back up. I back up everything you said your girl seems to have a cool guy. Later SisterLove
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
15 Jan 07
dextrophobia, wow. That is an awesome attitude! Good on ya!
• United States
15 Jan 07
If you are being honest with your girlfriend then you are eliminating the jelousy thing. Jelousy is not a good thing. I hape personally seen jelousy that physically hurt someone. Being secure in yourself and your relationship makes the relationship worth wild.
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• Philippines
15 Jan 07
i have this super extra powers that can read my man's mind. my heart beats extra if i see or smell something not quite normal. i notices sudden changes on his actions and expressions right away!
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@sunsham68 (1376)
• India
15 Jan 07
wow. That is just what my definition is too! Kind of makes it difficult for oneself doesn't it!
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Girl whatever you got you need to share with me. LOL Later SisterLove
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@riyasam (16556)
• India
15 Jan 07
i do become sensitive even if it his sister or any other girl. i think i have the right to tell any other girl to back off.i have done so.
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• India
15 Jan 07
From your repeated responses, I don't feel you are suffering from any envy. Rather you are enjoying life. This is something common world-wide. But once married, we should be loyal to each other, otherwise there may be a number of social complications.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
First family is family and you cant change that or get rid of them Family should not bother you at all. And Second you tell who ever you want to back off just remeber respect should be a part of your realtionship. Think before you starting telling anybody to back off think of what your better half my say or how he might react. Later SisterLove
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@shemb1 (464)
• Sri Lanka
15 Jan 07
You ask some amazing thing that I never think. I think the topic you mention is not just a something in hidden part of humans. Its not just belongs to man, but some times these things I know weakpoints of humans. Because they are not mechines. Some people love in deepth some dont . Some people can love and marry one partner some can do that not once. So this things not always depends to man or woman.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
You sure are right. Thanks, later SisterLove
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@berry9 (590)
• India
15 Jan 07
well my fiance doesnt like company of girls.I had a tought time initially.Then when I approached him,I found that there is nothing sweeter than him.But then from then on he is a pet animal to me.he loves me lot and I do lot to make him happy.He's never been in the company of other girls.He enjoys being with me and I enjoy being with him. it is the beautiful world with us that we enjoy only in the company of each other.
• United States
15 Jan 07
Much happiness and blessing to you. May you have a beautiful wedding. Later, SisterLove
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Much happiness and blessing to you. May you have a beautiful wedding. Later, SisterLove
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Good disscusion I for think that if you are with you man /husband and he is talking to one woman more than anyone else and leaves you out of the conversation than I would begin to think I was married 2 times and each time they would alway be checking out other women and I asked them if they got a good look and there reply was if you don't look than your not human B-- S--- when I am with a man My eyes are only for that man and I believe that if he is your man he would not be thinking about what is under another woman's clothing
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• United States
15 Jan 07
We all wonder no the less. What we need to focus on is the relationship that were in and not worry about the people around us. Later, SisterLove
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
15 Jan 07
Sometimes, it's not whether we wonder or not.. it's whether we want to wonder or not.:) Sometimes, wondering isn't really healthy to our feelings.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Yeah tell about it, I'm always wondering that tells you how health I am. Later SisterLove
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@kerbausama (1335)
• Malaysia
15 Jan 07
he's bored on you. tq.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
No, just a question of what really happens in some relationships, "Ya Know" or maybe you don't. Thanks for your response. Later SisterLove
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• Nigeria
15 Jan 07
well to me i dint think I have to wonder ncoz she is only thinking of it she has oipen her mouth to say something about it
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• United States
15 Jan 07
good that your girl can be up front with you, thats health for the relationship. Later SisterLove
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15 Jan 07
I totally trust my husband. I have no reason not to. There are female members in the band that he is in, and I never give it a second thought. We trust each other totally.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Great trust it extremly important. Later SisterLove
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@resasour (378)
• United States
15 Jan 07
Are you kidding? Men are transparent in their thinking! All you have to do is watch how they act, what they say and listen when they talk. They tell on themselves all the time. I don't have to wonder what they are thinking. They are too obvious.. Now I might wonder WHY they are thinking that way.. but they tell all over themselves about what they are thinking...
• United States
15 Jan 07
Man do tell on themselves all the time, but you got some are very clever. Thanks again Later SisterLove
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• Philippines
15 Jan 07
flirting
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Flirting, is that what you think it is. And if you so should it bother you or not. Later SisterLove
@raveena (1353)
• India
15 Jan 07
There is something called TRUST which is required and I feel that I have that in my partner otherwise we would only be thinking about the behaviour of our husbands and would be ruining our life and making life hell for our husbands as well. No I have never noticed any change in my husband when he talks to any other women when he is in my company and that is the only reason why we are happily married for the past 15 years.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Gald to hear that you in a health and happy marraige, heres to you and 15 years more. Later SisterLove
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@superbren (856)
15 Jan 07
i have to admit i used to think about that years ago but i think its an insecurity thing.now i dont even think anything is going on . i think its normal for a man or woman to flirt mildly with others even if they are married . but mildly is the key word. if they are making it obvious they re attracted to your friend or whoever then you should be suspicious.its something you have got to work out for yourself . is it innocent or not. you cant go causing a row every time your partner speaks or seems to give another person attention. that is controlling and wierd. stand back a little i say and maybe give him a taste of his own medicine.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
superbren, I love what you had to say. Later SisterLove
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@joshdale08 (2320)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
what wife wouldn't feel insecure in the presence of younger, sexier and more stimulating women? i feel that way but i refuse to let it get me down coz, hey, he's married to me. even if his eyes stray, he always comes home with me or to me. so, in other words, he's allowed to look but not to touch. lol!
• United States
15 Jan 07
Thats whats up, Allowed to look and no touching. Hee-Hee Later SisterLove
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• India
15 Jan 07
I think in relationship, one should be honest to one another. If you r working, you should take everything professionally because u have deal with the customers/collegues and people outside. Honesty is the best policy
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• United States
15 Jan 07
navinbond017, You sure are right. Later SisterLove
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@maikeeho (196)
• Philippines
15 Jan 07
he might be thinking..like oh my gosh what if my wife sees me with her and think different..or wow this girl is hotter than my wife ..wish i can dumped my wife
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Girl, dont you shouldnt think like that. I wonder how you handle the situtation. Would you want your man thinking about dumping you for a friend of his. Later SisterLove
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• Egypt
15 Jan 07
well,,,if u live in my place with my community,,u dont need to worry at all,,,cuz hugs and kisses r allowed only in bedrooms between husband and wife,,,so,,,,i think girls here r so lucky.
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• United States
15 Jan 07
What, How, When and Why, You got to see if you have property in your area for sale. LOL Later SisterLove
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@soorimd (300)
• India
15 Jan 07
i think u should not bother about it.Put yourself in his position and think from his point of view.he may have some reasons to behave like that.Or you may have done something to make him behave like that.It is not the physical presence of him with the other girl but his mind you have to think. What is the use if he is physically with you but thinking about her in heart of his heart.Everything is i your hand and if you have the courage and conviction and little more love and sympathy you only AND YOU ONLY can change him and make him run to you
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• United States
15 Jan 07
Thanks again, Later SisterLove
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@soorimd (300)
• India
15 Jan 07
i think u should ot bother about iy.put yourself in his position and think from his point of view.he may have some reasons to behave like that.or you may have done something to make him him behave like that.it is not the physicalpresence of him with the other girl but his mind you have to think. what is the use if he is physically with you but thinking about her in heart of his heart.everything is i your hand and if you have the courage and conviction and little more love and sympathy you only you can change him
• United States
15 Jan 07
WoW, you left me speachless. Later SisterLove
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